I've spent the last decade living in a country that's very captured by gender ideology but will soon be moving back to Britain. My reasons to move are personal and family related, but I have followed gender issues for several years, including all the hard won victories by the British terven (and the Cass report etc). These changes make me hopeful that I will be able to find some like-minded women friends.
But, I will be coming back as a single woman and having been out of the dating pool for a long time, I'm wondering what it's like to date as a GC/sex realist woman... I'm in my late forties and will be looking to date men in a similar age range (basically Gen X). I used to be a typical Guardian reader and the sectors I've worked in are all typically "captured", but I defected to The Times and I'm pretty much centrist politically now.
I know that for younger women, including women in their thirties, there is significant pressure to conform ideologically on the gender issue, including from men in that age range. I see such a range of stories about men on here, from misogynist lefty men hectoring women to men who think it's all nonsense. It's difficult to get a sense of what I'll be likely to encounter once I start meeting people/going on dates etc (this obviously presupposes I'll be able to get a date in the first place, and I know the dating pool of forties/fifties men is much smaller but that's a whole other issue!).
Am I right in thinking that Gen X men are far more likely to think it's all nonsense? Or is this wishful thinking?
I'm a realist and just meeting men who don't believe TWAW and understand that sex matters is really all I'd be looking for on this front, even if they need to be in stealth mode about it. There are obviously multiple other areas of importance around compatibility in dating and this is just one thing - I just cannot contemplate getting into a relationship with a man who literally believes in gender woo!
I'm interested to hear about women's experience dating as GC/sex realist, especially in my age range, and also the men who read and comment on here - do you feel like you're in a minority among other men?
I did read a post about "dating as a terf" on MN a while ago (more than a year I think). But it seemed to be from a younger woman telling men upfront on dating apps that she was a terf (and using the word terf specifically) which was off putting to lots of men by the sound of it, and she was getting a very negative responses from them. She did get some advice about signalling more subtly her GC views on dating apps as a way to filter men out, so that's an option, but I'm interested more broadly for now about what men's views are in general and women's experiences in dating and starting relationships as a GC/sex realist.
Any thoughts are appreciated!