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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
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Xiaoxiong · 05/05/2025 22:15

@StuckUpPrincess

The women's pond is only 37% of the size of the men's pond.

The men's pond is 18,290 square metres. The ladies pond is 6,845 square metres. The mixed pond is the smallest at 4,270sqm.

Source: https://wildopenwater.com/swimspot/hampstead-heath-mixed-pond-greater-london-england-united-kingdom

You can see them on the map here: mixed is 8, ladies is 14 and mens is 17. https://www.hampsteadheath.net/getting-here-around

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https://wildopenwater.com/swimspot/hampstead-heath-mixed-pond-greater-london-england-united-kingdom

murasaki · 05/05/2025 22:31

StuckUpPrincess · 05/05/2025 21:58

Amy Desir's protest is fantastic! While I don't usually mind sharing with genuine transwomen, her point is brilliantly made: If a man can self-ID as female and get into the women's pond, what possible defence can there be for women not being able to do the same thing at the men's?

I haven't been to any of the ponds. I assume the men's pond is much bigger and better than the women's?

What is a genuine transwoman please?

KnottyAuty · 06/05/2025 00:35

murasaki · 05/05/2025 22:31

What is a genuine transwoman please?

Presumably not the chap mentioned up thread with his cock and one ball carelessly draped outside of his bikini bottoms...

NotDarkGothicMama · 06/05/2025 07:18

In the Telegraph this morning: https://x.com/LilyLilyMaynard/status/1919518160073453638?t=31ynj8fR6wN74za2GgS4Pw&s=08

UrsulasHerbBag · 06/05/2025 08:10

As pointed out earlier the staff seemed to have no trouble distinguishing between men and women yesterday but struggle at the other pool. It’s blatant sexism and misogyny.

LlynTegid · 06/05/2025 09:06

socialdilemmawhattodo · 05/05/2025 20:55

You make a good point, but who can complain? The consultation on access to the pools from a few years ago allowed those who lived in the City of London (ie very few people relatively), worked in the City of London (me), and something else (cant remember - perhaps employed by?). So if you are a visitor from outside - can you complain if there are illegal restrictions?

You are using the services provided by the City of London. I think that should be enough reason to complain.

Keenovay · 06/05/2025 09:09

Disappointing opinion piece today in the Observer by novelist Esther Freud. Includes an emotional appeal at the end about the suicide of a trans-identifying male teen - terribly sad but has no obvious relation to women wanting a single sex space to swim.

I'm fed up of the implication that women must affirm TIMs or else we are responsible for suicides. What about holding extremist trans activists to account instead, for convincing young people that the world is out to get them, and the only solution to their unhappiness is to transition?

https://observer.co.uk/news/opinion-and-ideas/article/opinion-im-thrilled-our-pond-will-remain-open-to-all

Opinion: I’m thrilled Hampstead Ladies Pond will remain open to all

Opinion: I’m thrilled Hampstead Ladies Pond will remain open to all

Hampstead Ladies Pond will continue to allow transgender women to swim, and I welcome the news

https://observer.co.uk/news/opinion-and-ideas/article/opinion-im-thrilled-our-pond-will-remain-open-to-all

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:25

TeiTetua · 23/04/2025 19:19

I'm not sure about this. There are going to be areas where single-sex facilities have to be provided, like toilets and changing rooms in work situations. But when it applies to users or customers, it may be that the management can make the rules. So if the City of London says the Ladies' Pond is open to anyone who declares that they're a woman, they might be able to get away with it. There are undoubtedly going to be more court cases where the limits will get defined, in light of the Supreme Court decision.

No. If single sex facilities are provided they must be single sex, otherwise they are mixed sex. The SC said there was no need to justify excluding men from women's single sex spaces, and TWs are men - i.e. they are not biological females, and biology is what the EA2010 is built on here.

RoyalCorgi · 06/05/2025 09:38

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:25

No. If single sex facilities are provided they must be single sex, otherwise they are mixed sex. The SC said there was no need to justify excluding men from women's single sex spaces, and TWs are men - i.e. they are not biological females, and biology is what the EA2010 is built on here.

Quite right, Grammarnut. The Supreme Court ruling was very clear (as indeed is the Equality Act itself). I'd recommend TeiTetua and others who think there is room for dispute to read the judgement.

As for Esther Freud, she seems to be yet another posh white woman who thinks she has the right to lecture other, less privileged, women to "be kind". I really think that kind of woman is simply used to having her way, and hasn't understood that the law is categorical. Does she understand that she is encouraging people to break the law? Or does she think perhaps the law doesn't apply to people she likes?

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:43

Ineffable23 · 23/04/2025 20:05

But is "ladies'" the same as "women's"? I guess then ends up being the question?

Not all women are/want to be ladies but only women can be ladies.

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 06/05/2025 09:45

Keenovay · 06/05/2025 09:09

Disappointing opinion piece today in the Observer by novelist Esther Freud. Includes an emotional appeal at the end about the suicide of a trans-identifying male teen - terribly sad but has no obvious relation to women wanting a single sex space to swim.

I'm fed up of the implication that women must affirm TIMs or else we are responsible for suicides. What about holding extremist trans activists to account instead, for convincing young people that the world is out to get them, and the only solution to their unhappiness is to transition?

https://observer.co.uk/news/opinion-and-ideas/article/opinion-im-thrilled-our-pond-will-remain-open-to-all

It's not open to all though, is it? It used to be open to local Orthodox Jewish women, who used it up until 2019 and no longer can. The Jewish Chronicle reported a planned lawsuit at the time, but I can't find any updates.

(I met up with tra friend on Saturday and we discussed this. They believe that trans inclusion should be mandatory everywhere, with only rare exceptions: they grudgingly conceded the religious exception on the grounds that they are bigoted people who don't know better and are yet to be educated out of it. Sickening.)

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:46

TeiTetua · 23/04/2025 21:35

That's what I was thinking. There are places where the effect of the Supreme Court decision seems to apply quite obviously, but there's a range of other places where it may be more at the discretion of the management. There's likely to be plenty more money put into lawyers' pockets before this all gets resolved.

I think they will find they are breaking the law. They can be challenged by men who are excluded a) because they are not TW, b) by transwomen without a GRC (possibly) and c) by women who can claim indirect discrimination i.e. it's not a sex-segregated space when it purports to be so.

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:49

EweSurname · 23/04/2025 22:30

Would they not say the men’s includes transmen so is also mixed sex in the same way the women’s pond is? (Excluding the fact that they kicked out Man Friday)

The Man Friday experiment suggests men would not tolerate transmen.

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:52

Needspaceforlego · 23/04/2025 22:38

I hate religion being brought into these things like Muslim and Jews have superior moral standards to Christian women, Sikhs, Buddist or atheist.

Every woman has a right to respect, privacy and dignity regardless of faith.

Yes, every woman deserves respect so setting up groups which include men in what are supposed to be women's spaces excludes some women. That is not just. And I don't know where you get better moral standards from - the point being made is that some religious groups do not accept mixed sex groups where members may be in a state of undress - nothing to do with moral standards but is about modesty and dignity.

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 06/05/2025 09:55

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 09:43

Not all women are/want to be ladies but only women can be ladies.

I was brought up to refer to every woman as a lady (and still do, to everyone's amusement) whilst men had to be sorted into men and gentlemen according to appearance (male, female and woman were all impolite when applied to humans). No idea why. There must be a sociology thesis in it.

LittleBitofBread · 06/05/2025 10:02

Needspaceforlego · 23/04/2025 22:38

I hate religion being brought into these things like Muslim and Jews have superior moral standards to Christian women, Sikhs, Buddist or atheist.

Every woman has a right to respect, privacy and dignity regardless of faith.

TBF I think what people generally mean when they bring in faith is that, while for some women they simply don't want to share with men (which is my own position, and a position I completely support in any other woman), for women of some faiths they just cannot share with men, regardless of whether, all other things being equal, they would be okay with it. They're doubly disadvantaged, is perhaps what I'm trying to say.

KnottyAuty · 06/05/2025 10:04

UrsulasHerbBag · 06/05/2025 08:10

As pointed out earlier the staff seemed to have no trouble distinguishing between men and women yesterday but struggle at the other pool. It’s blatant sexism and misogyny.

Maybe. Maybe not on this occasion.
Turning up in costume after announcements on social media might have prepped them 🤣

The real test would be for a group of women to go weekly and “covertly” to see what complaints arose.

Superb effort yesterday to all involved! Thank you xx

Maaate · 06/05/2025 10:05

I'm loving that the American TRAs don't realise the irony in slating these women for wanting segregation when it's them being kept out of the male pool.

(They seem to think these women are protesting to keep men out rather than the other way round)

Grammarnut · 06/05/2025 10:14

That might be legal - but 'female' means biological so they might have to say it was a society of trans identified men. That then might be indirect discrimination against men who are not trans-identified. So I think 'migh't tranlates to a doubtful 'may'.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 06/05/2025 10:20

outofdate · 28/04/2025 13:33

Those enforcement powers are encouraging.

I saw they had a recruitment advert for a legal specialist in “enforcement” the other day so maybe they are planning to show more teeth in future? Hope so.

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 06/05/2025 10:32

LittleBitofBread · 06/05/2025 10:02

TBF I think what people generally mean when they bring in faith is that, while for some women they simply don't want to share with men (which is my own position, and a position I completely support in any other woman), for women of some faiths they just cannot share with men, regardless of whether, all other things being equal, they would be okay with it. They're doubly disadvantaged, is perhaps what I'm trying to say.

Religionists have arbitrary self-imposed rules, and to deal with that we a) let them get on with it, provided they don't hurt anyone or break the law, and b) refrain from engineering situations in which their rules will put them at egregious disadvantage (=reasonable accommodation - eg don't force the Muslim employee to work on the bacon counter). We don't adopt their arbitrary rules for the whole of society.

Transgenderism should be treated likewise.

LittleBitofBread · 06/05/2025 10:34

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 06/05/2025 10:32

Religionists have arbitrary self-imposed rules, and to deal with that we a) let them get on with it, provided they don't hurt anyone or break the law, and b) refrain from engineering situations in which their rules will put them at egregious disadvantage (=reasonable accommodation - eg don't force the Muslim employee to work on the bacon counter). We don't adopt their arbitrary rules for the whole of society.

Transgenderism should be treated likewise.

I can't quite work out if you're arguing with me or not! But yes, I agree.

maltravers · 06/05/2025 10:37

Regarding Jewish and Muslim women: I was swimming in Kenwood Ladies Pond some years back and struck up a conversation with an older lady, who said her rabbi had told her she could not swim in the pond if men were present.

I am not religious, but as a theoretical religious Christian I could swim in the pool even with men in it. Religious Jewish and Muslim women could not. There are many Jewish and Muslim women in this area of London (Hampstead, Camden, Haringey).

TW can swim in the mixed or the men’s. Women should not be excluded.

theilltemperedqueenofspacetime · 06/05/2025 10:40

LittleBitofBread · 06/05/2025 10:34

I can't quite work out if you're arguing with me or not! But yes, I agree.

Expanding on, not disagreeing. Still enraged that tra friend thinks that Jewish women who don't want transwomen in their space are uneducated bigots. It's so ... illogical.

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