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A worrying thought about the SC judgment

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PlayerOneReady · 18/04/2025 08:49

Is anyone else concerned that what may happen now, in reality, is a big increase in ‘gender neutral’ facilities as organisations realise they don’t actually have capacity for a third space, at least in the short term?

And we all know from what we’ve seen in theatres, etc, that that will end up with effectively one ‘Men’s/with urinals’ and one ‘Gender Neutral’.

It was this story in today’s Times that made me think about it. I’m especially worried about gym changing rooms etc. Would we have the right to challenge if this does happen?

story:

Equalities watchdog inundated with questions on trans women ruling

https://www.thetimes.com/article/557269e6-2902-4b30-b873-4fac87ba6253?shareToken=131768232050262c20823acf6fe87c92

Equalities watchdog inundated with questions on trans women ruling

Baroness Falkner said organisations may need to provide neutral ‘third spaces’, while JK Rowling celebrated the Supreme Court ruling on social media

https://www.thetimes.com/article/557269e6-2902-4b30-b873-4fac87ba6253?shareToken=131768232050262c20823acf6fe87c92

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Annascaul · 18/04/2025 12:47

Ficklebricks · 18/04/2025 12:35

Most places have a separate disabled toilet. I expect it's cheaper just to put a "gender neutral & disabled" sign on that door instead of building a separate third space. As it's an enclosed individual room I think this wouldn't cause any issues.

Except for it not being available for actual disabled people?!

Datun · 18/04/2025 12:47

RiotAndAlarum · 18/04/2025 11:34

Time to dust off this analysis from the Sunday Times? It was based on FOIs about sexual crimes at leisure centres. The article is from 2018, which isn't all that long ago, and can be said to represent "business-as-usual", with no pandemic effects.

Look at how disproportionate the rate of sexual harrassment, voyeurism, sexual assualt, etc. is in mixed-sex facilities, compared to single-sex!

Archive copy <a class="break-all" href="https://web.archive.org/web/20250417165607/www.thetimes.com/article/b6093ee6-ae19-11e8-bc16-e88ad6fee895" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://web.archive.org/web/20250417165607/www.thetimes.com/article/b6093ee6-ae19-11e8-bc16-e88ad6fee895

There were 134 complaints of sexual misconduct in sports centre and swimming pool changing rooms last year, councils said in their FoI responses. Of these, 120 related to incidents that took place in unisex changing rooms and 14 to incidents in single-sex changing rooms. As well as voyeurism, offences recorded in unisex facilities included harassment, sexual assault and rape.

In 46 more cases, councils said, sex incidents were reported in other parts of the premises, such as in or beside the pool, in sports halls, corridors or car parks or an area of the building they could not specify. Some of those not specified could also have been in changing rooms. Not all incidents were reported to police or resulted in prosecutions.

Councils said the vast majority of changing rooms for “dryside” activities, such as fitness training and court or pitch sports, were still single-sex. About half of “wetside” changing rooms, for swimming pools, were mixed.

In Cardiff a 1,000-signature petition has recently been collected against gender-neutral facilities at the new Star Hub leisure centre. Bernie Breen, who started the protest, said the sexes “need to be separate because there isn’t enough staff to keep an eye on everybody”.

The figures show that sports centres in the same city have big differences in sex incidents depending on their changing room arrangements, even where user numbers are similar. In Wolverhampton, two centres, Aldersley Leisure Village and the Central Baths, have only single-sex changing rooms. Between them they had 506,000 users last year and no reported sex incidents.

A third venue in the city, Wolverhampton Swimming & Fitness Centre, has a mixture of single-sex and unisex changing. It had 517,000 users last year and 11 reported sex incidents, all in the unisex changing area.

[edit: I've forgotten how to do links and can't it work! 🙄]

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Yes, it's perfect obvious that mixed sex facilities represent an increased risk for women.

It's exactly the same ride that we've been on.

Certain men will do anything to stick it to women, including saying see, now you've brought this on yourself.

Nope. The entire point was to examine the equality act. And the conclusion was this is how it is meant to be and that's it protects women on that basis

Provision suddenly going mixed sex everywhere does the opposite.

It might require more gardening, or more likely, just an unequivocal statement.

Annascaul · 18/04/2025 12:49

DorotheaDiamond · 18/04/2025 12:47

I think there will be a lot of TRA trans men (female at birth for clarity) who almost completely pass who will be using the ladies to make life difficult for the shop (or whatever) they are in…I feel really sorry for the teenage Saturday shop assistant in primark etc who are going to have to deal with women saying there’s a man in the ladies and the TM saying “I’m female”

Are you suggesting they have hitherto been using the Gents?

CheekySnake · 18/04/2025 12:49

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 12:18

if people can only use the toilets of their gender at birth then there will be a lot of male presenting people in the female toilets. This will be extremely easy for cis men to exploit by claiming they are trans male and therefore entitled to be there. This concerns me way more than the occasional trans woman in the cubicle next to me. The real issue here is cis men who are a risk to women and that is where the focus for change and protections should be

So you are saying we can't say no to men because it might make a different group of men use the female toilet?

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 12:55

I think it’s important to realise that if you want to say people have to use the sex toilets they were assigned at birth then this means trans men’s in the ladies. It’s far more complex an issue than people seem to realise

StMarie4me · 18/04/2025 12:58

Will you be happy seeing a trans man in the women’s toilets? Genuine question. How will you know if he’s a trans man that the SC ruling has decided must go to the toilet of his biological birth, or a biologically born male using the SC ruling to invade women’s spaces?

CheekySnake · 18/04/2025 13:00

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 12:55

I think it’s important to realise that if you want to say people have to use the sex toilets they were assigned at birth then this means trans men’s in the ladies. It’s far more complex an issue than people seem to realise

Please explain what the problem is with women who are pretending to be men using female facilities.

Women with PCOS and facial hair, women who have had mastectomies and don't have breasts, women who have had hysterectomies, women who like short hairstyles and women who prefer clothes from the men's section are already using the female facilities without issue.

Datun · 18/04/2025 13:02

StMarie4me · 18/04/2025 12:58

Will you be happy seeing a trans man in the women’s toilets? Genuine question. How will you know if he’s a trans man that the SC ruling has decided must go to the toilet of his biological birth, or a biologically born male using the SC ruling to invade women’s spaces?

It doesn't matter. The service provider can refuse entry.

It is, apparently, up to the user to convince the service provider of their sex.

Once successful, the service provider can let other users know.

Torturous, I know. But what you gonna do, Let all the men in instead?

WarriorN · 18/04/2025 13:03

Ficklebricks · 18/04/2025 12:35

Most places have a separate disabled toilet. I expect it's cheaper just to put a "gender neutral & disabled" sign on that door instead of building a separate third space. As it's an enclosed individual room I think this wouldn't cause any issues.

this causes huge issues. It’s illegal to do this in the first instance.

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 13:03

Trans men can look the same as cis men. How are you going to know? I think that’s quite dangerous tbh. Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men

Datun · 18/04/2025 13:05

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 13:03

Trans men can look the same as cis men. How are you going to know? I think that’s quite dangerous tbh. Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men

I don't know why, statistically, they pose a greater risk.

edited to add, but you know, as soon as third spaces are up and running, you can those. As can transmen. Everyone's happy

DorotheaDiamond · 18/04/2025 13:08

Annascaul · 18/04/2025 12:49

Are you suggesting they have hitherto been using the Gents?

Yes - bearded, balding and muscled…

AgnesX · 18/04/2025 13:09

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 18/04/2025 10:34

The vast majority of the general public still see Trans as vulnerable. They imagine confused effeminate man in a dress who has had surgery. We urgently need to get the message out on this.

I've never understood this " vulnerable" bit myself. The few trans people I've come across come across as anything but.

As always, undoubtedly it's the vociferous few spoiling it for the majority.

andtheworldrollson · 18/04/2025 13:10

as soon as you say transwomen are ok you are saying all men are ok because the bad ones lie

WarriorN · 18/04/2025 13:11

StMarie4me · 18/04/2025 12:58

Will you be happy seeing a trans man in the women’s toilets? Genuine question. How will you know if he’s a trans man that the SC ruling has decided must go to the toilet of his biological birth, or a biologically born male using the SC ruling to invade women’s spaces?

They’ve now got cast iron protection for their female rights; equal pay and maternity rights.

They’re highly unlikely to be challenged in male toilets.

hopefully they’ll support their trans siblings in campaigning for safe third spaces.

from what i understand many trans identified females who have had phalloplasty have significant urinary issues, as do many on testosterone who haven’t. Urinary incontinence can be considered a disability.

WarriorN · 18/04/2025 13:14

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 13:03

Trans men can look the same as cis men. How are you going to know? I think that’s quite dangerous tbh. Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men

that’s your personal opinion, not objective fact which the law is based on. And it’s not just about toilets.

This covers female only carers for disabled women and girls. Who are the group who suffer the most sexual abuse of any description. As perpetrators know who to target. They are far more vulnerable than TW.

StMarie4me · 18/04/2025 13:17

TeenToTwenties · 18/04/2025 12:24

But on the whole 'male presenting' females will understand why they are challenged and their stature, hand size, and voice will also indicate which sex they really are.
Male sex people can be challenged and asked to leave or the police called etc as was the case for decades until recently.
Or trans people can campaign for third spaces which is something I suspect most women would get behind.

ps I presume by 'gender at birth' you mean 'sex'.

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Not that you’re generalising at all, of course.

BiologicalRobot · 18/04/2025 13:17

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 13:03

Trans men can look the same as cis men. How are you going to know? I think that’s quite dangerous tbh. Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men

Transwomen are men, and women are statistically at a high risk of violence from both.

Transmen are women, and women are not, statistically, at risk of violence from them. High or otherwise.

Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men
For the sake of argument though. What is the difference between the two? Do you think transwomen have had surgery or use castration chemicals? What is the difference between a biological man saying he is a woman, and a biological man saying he is a man? Because that is all it is in the majority of cases.

PermanentTemporary · 18/04/2025 13:20

Yes there will be some transmen that pass using the women's toilets. There will be a lot more transmen and nonbinary women who are very androgynous or read as female there too (the transmen i know are all in this category). Along with all the 'masc' young women I see insisting that they are frequently mistaken for men but who look entirely female to me. Hopefully we will all once more come to understand that being female is not about how you look or how you 'present'. It's not at all complicated.

Public toilets are self policed and ultimately there isn't a way to stop people who choose to use one not designed for them from doing so. The limitations of public toilet provision for women is one of the reasons that male people insisting on using them, when they could avoid doing so, is so infuriating. I just expect that the vast majority of people will follow both law and convention. Since trans people are just like everyone else, same for them. And I do expect everyone to stay out of the accessible toilets if they have another option.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 18/04/2025 13:21

BiologicalRobot · 18/04/2025 13:17

Transwomen are men, and women are statistically at a high risk of violence from both.

Transmen are women, and women are not, statistically, at risk of violence from them. High or otherwise.

Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men
For the sake of argument though. What is the difference between the two? Do you think transwomen have had surgery or use castration chemicals? What is the difference between a biological man saying he is a woman, and a biological man saying he is a man? Because that is all it is in the majority of cases.

Quite. The point is that this ruling allows people to challenge. Transmen might 'pass' more often than transwomen,but they still very rarely do imo. Hence posters always wheeling out pictures of the same couple of well-known ones when they want to claim that transmen pass. In real life, in close proximity, they will pass even less.

Xis · 18/04/2025 13:38

IMO, women who take extreme lengths to hide their femaleness need to stay out of certain single-sex spaces. Places like public toilets, changing rooms and other facilities people use without any vetting from officials. Testosterone is a powerful masculiniser. It can cause females, at least in casual interactions, to look like men. A woman who goes down the route of using it to hide her femaleness needs to accept her presence will cause distress in the ladies’ and refrain from using it.

Unfortunately, men and women are not equal in any society. Women are not as strong physically and have less power in general, so it is still reasonable to have a policy for access to single-sex spaces that isn’t exactly the same for males and females. That is, males cannot use female single-sex spaces but in some circumstances, females can use male single-sex spaces.

JoyousEagle · 18/04/2025 13:38

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 12:18

if people can only use the toilets of their gender at birth then there will be a lot of male presenting people in the female toilets. This will be extremely easy for cis men to exploit by claiming they are trans male and therefore entitled to be there. This concerns me way more than the occasional trans woman in the cubicle next to me. The real issue here is cis men who are a risk to women and that is where the focus for change and protections should be

Oh no, are you suggesting that men might lie in order to gain access to female spaces? I thought that didn’t happen ..?

All these people suddenly concerned that men might lie about being trans men, after dismissing endlessly the suggestion that they might lie about being trans women.

illinivich · 18/04/2025 13:41

PencilPleat · 18/04/2025 09:09

I am worried about this too. On World at One BBC R4 yesterday Sarah Montague asked a chap commenting on the impact of the ruling on the NHS whether the answer was to do away with wards organised on sex altogether and just use gender as the determinant for everything.

I actually couldn’t believe what I was hearing. The fact that she was horrified that a TIM might be accommodated with other males, but seemed unconcerned about him being accommodated with females, was staggering.

Theres a difference between an official mixed sex ward, and a ward that is female only but includes men.

Neither is optimal, but if everyone is aware - staff and patients that the ward is mixed, they can be aware of the dangers and mitigate for them - more staff present, having both male and female toilets.

If everyone believes its single sex and the ward is set up for only one sex, those extra protections may not be in place.

People talk as if changing the signs on doors from women only to everyone solves the problem. It doesnt. Mixed sex means that the organisation of the space is different, and hospitals have a duty to keep everyone safe.

ZookeeperSE · 18/04/2025 13:57

Latelifelesbian · 18/04/2025 13:03

Trans men can look the same as cis men. How are you going to know? I think that’s quite dangerous tbh. Like I said previously I would far rather a trans women in the ladies than risk cis men

You can keep banging on about it, but no one’s buying it. There are two sexes (not gender at birth, whatever you mean by that) and they are male and female. Everyone uses the facilities of their sex. Or, if they are available, and they want, they can use mixed sex facilities. Or stay home. I don’t care. I also don’t care whether you would prefer a bloke in a dress in your loo vs a bloke in trousers. Plenty of women do care, and they’ve said No - and the law is on their side.
Do you think the rate of offending is higher in one group of men vs another group of men btw? There is. But probably not in the way you’re attempting to assert.

ShockedandStunnedRepeatedly · 18/04/2025 14:00

RiotAndAlarum · 18/04/2025 11:34

Time to dust off this analysis from the Sunday Times? It was based on FOIs about sexual crimes at leisure centres. The article is from 2018, which isn't all that long ago, and can be said to represent "business-as-usual", with no pandemic effects.

Look at how disproportionate the rate of sexual harrassment, voyeurism, sexual assualt, etc. is in mixed-sex facilities, compared to single-sex!

Archive copy <a class="break-all" href="https://web.archive.org/web/20250417165607/www.thetimes.com/article/b6093ee6-ae19-11e8-bc16-e88ad6fee895" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://web.archive.org/web/20250417165607/www.thetimes.com/article/b6093ee6-ae19-11e8-bc16-e88ad6fee895

There were 134 complaints of sexual misconduct in sports centre and swimming pool changing rooms last year, councils said in their FoI responses. Of these, 120 related to incidents that took place in unisex changing rooms and 14 to incidents in single-sex changing rooms. As well as voyeurism, offences recorded in unisex facilities included harassment, sexual assault and rape.

In 46 more cases, councils said, sex incidents were reported in other parts of the premises, such as in or beside the pool, in sports halls, corridors or car parks or an area of the building they could not specify. Some of those not specified could also have been in changing rooms. Not all incidents were reported to police or resulted in prosecutions.

Councils said the vast majority of changing rooms for “dryside” activities, such as fitness training and court or pitch sports, were still single-sex. About half of “wetside” changing rooms, for swimming pools, were mixed.

In Cardiff a 1,000-signature petition has recently been collected against gender-neutral facilities at the new Star Hub leisure centre. Bernie Breen, who started the protest, said the sexes “need to be separate because there isn’t enough staff to keep an eye on everybody”.

The figures show that sports centres in the same city have big differences in sex incidents depending on their changing room arrangements, even where user numbers are similar. In Wolverhampton, two centres, Aldersley Leisure Village and the Central Baths, have only single-sex changing rooms. Between them they had 506,000 users last year and no reported sex incidents.

A third venue in the city, Wolverhampton Swimming & Fitness Centre, has a mixture of single-sex and unisex changing. It had 517,000 users last year and 11 reported sex incidents, all in the unisex changing area.

[edit: I've forgotten how to do links and can't it work! 🙄]

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This is our strongest ammunition . We must raise awareness of this.