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Reframe your disappointment

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 06:58

Inspired by a couple of other threads about the reaction to the Supreme Court judgment from trans allies, I thought it might be interesting to have a thread to discuss what to say to people if it comes up in conversation.

Comments I've seen so far seem to suggest:

  • the judgment was legally wrong and this isn't the end
  • the judgment might have been legally correct but it was morally wrong and the law needs to be changed
  • trans rights are now being rolled back
  • this is a victory for the far right
  • this was orchestrated and bank rolled by the far right
  • this decision will now embolden transphobes to harass and victimise trans people

Perhaps we could brainstorm the best ways to respond to these (and any other) talking points, should they arise?

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Waitwhat23 · 18/04/2025 10:11

ZookeeperSE · 18/04/2025 10:07

No trans people/organisations were consulted

The Scottish Government is a trans organisation isn’t it?

In any case, JoMoFoKimono says none applied (followed by blah blah cry cry), soooo:

The Scottish Government is a trans organisation isn’t it?

Underrated comment - I salute you!

ItisntOver · 18/04/2025 10:12

That poster is performing the irregular verb theory in real time.

I am a powerful ally defending the most vulnerable.
You are bigots and fascists because I have decreed it.
They/he/she/ze/xir [insert preferred hyperbole]

BackToLurk · 18/04/2025 10:12

SleeplessInWherever · 18/04/2025 09:57

I’m not disappointed - in that I didn’t require a court to tell me that having a uterus made me biologically female.

I am however confused that needed saying - people know what they were born as.

I do think it’s a shame that women are apparently just the sum of their body parts. That doesn’t feel progressive at all.

I may have been born female, but I’m more than just a reproductive system and a chromosomes.

The ruling doesn’t say that women are ‘just the sum of their body parts’. This sort of misapprehension comes from mistaking definitions and observations with judgements and prejudices

PriOn1 · 18/04/2025 10:13

ErrolTheDragon · 18/04/2025 09:44

Can anyone who is old enough to remember the 80s remember any such thing actually happening?

Nope. It’s more rewriting of history, but we should never let the truth get in the way of a comparative victimhood complex in full flow.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 18/04/2025 10:15

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 10:04

Are you for real? There was a massive hatred and stigma against gay people in the 80s following the HIV crisis. Of course a bunch of transphobes shouldn't be expected to know anything about LGBTQ+ history

As for the "girl dick" thing I'm not prepared to play your game and use a tiny minority of idiots to tar an entire group.

Oh do fuck off dear!! I mean seriously how bloody dare you have the front to come in here and lecture lesbians who were there in the 80s about how it was. You’ve made the fundamentally misogynistic mistake of assuming everyone on mumsnet is straight

and if only it were a tiny number but the reality is most TW are straight men who want to fuck women

Gall10 · 18/04/2025 10:16

myplace · 18/04/2025 07:17

I’ve said it’s a legal clarification that will help protect everyone’s rights more effectively in future. That trans people are still protected under two categories- sex and gender reassignment- and women now also have protection. That we needed it clarifying to manage people like Isla Bryson.
I’m going with the line that this isn’t about ordinary trans people, it’s about chancers and abusive fuckers who will take any loophole and see what they can get away with.
Without that clarification in law, we are toothless at protecting women.

Please call this convicted rapist by his name…Adam Graham

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 10:20

ZookeeperSE · 18/04/2025 10:07

No trans people/organisations were consulted

The Scottish Government is a trans organisation isn’t it?

In any case, JoMoFoKimono says none applied (followed by blah blah cry cry), soooo:

OK, but seriously, this is a great response to the "no trans people were consulted" line.

The party advocating for women was For Women Scotland, a grassroots campaign group, set up in 2018 and run by three women. They were supported by Sex Matters and the LGB Alliance, which are both small and recently formed charities.

The party advocating for trans people was the Scottish Government, supported by Amnesty International.

So in what sense were trans people underrepresented? This was a victory for David over Goliath.

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museumum · 18/04/2025 10:22

As someone who works in the arts I am surrounded by people who find this ruling disappointing but I am going with the practical points such as it’s now clear we need M F and ‘All gender’ loos and isn’t it great that now it’s clear and unambiguous and we are not on the front line of any disagreement. We can keep all our customers happy.

PriOn1 · 18/04/2025 10:25

SleeplessInWherever · 18/04/2025 09:57

I’m not disappointed - in that I didn’t require a court to tell me that having a uterus made me biologically female.

I am however confused that needed saying - people know what they were born as.

I do think it’s a shame that women are apparently just the sum of their body parts. That doesn’t feel progressive at all.

I may have been born female, but I’m more than just a reproductive system and a chromosomes.

It did need saying because transactivist groups were stating that the word woman included some men and were being to claim some men were female as well.

Defining who we are in law does not make us “just the sum of [our] body parts” any more than knowing that the word dog means a canine animal with four legs and a tail in law means that my furry friend is reduced to his body parts.

This is a non-argument. To know who belongs in the group women, we need a definition. That is all and knowing that definition only describes which group you are in. It does not diminish you in any way.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 18/04/2025 10:25

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 10:04

Are you for real? There was a massive hatred and stigma against gay people in the 80s following the HIV crisis. Of course a bunch of transphobes shouldn't be expected to know anything about LGBTQ+ history

As for the "girl dick" thing I'm not prepared to play your game and use a tiny minority of idiots to tar an entire group.

Is the problem that my lady voice is too high pitched and not authoritative enough for you to hear?

there’s no need to talk about rapists or girl dick. The answer from women is no, men are not welcome in spaces where women are partially dressed or vulnerable. And for decent men that’s enough. Read the room sonny and sling your hook

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 10:28

museumum · 18/04/2025 10:22

As someone who works in the arts I am surrounded by people who find this ruling disappointing but I am going with the practical points such as it’s now clear we need M F and ‘All gender’ loos and isn’t it great that now it’s clear and unambiguous and we are not on the front line of any disagreement. We can keep all our customers happy.

If you work in that kind of environment then I think this is exactly the right approach.

"It's good that the confusion over what the law says has now been cleared up. We need to ensure that men, women and trans people are equally but separately provided for. What steps does our organisation now need to take to make that happen?"

Factual, unemotional, constructive.

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Wheresthebeach · 18/04/2025 10:30

Typical of the 'no debate' crowd - if you don't agree 'you're all right wing bigots'. Typical of the misogyny that underpins this ideology. You can't change sex, surgery or dress doesn't change your sex. We need to protect women, and children from this awful ideology based on sexist stereotypes. I'm against castrating boys, and sterilising girls. No men in women's prisons, rape crisis centres, sport or changing rooms. No men taking women's scholarships or women's prizes in business and education. Transwomen should use Men's changing rooms - its up to men to make them feel comfortable in the right spaces.

Fgfgfg · 18/04/2025 10:33

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 09:23

The vast majority of rapes are by cis males and don't take place in public changing rooms and toilets. But easier to focus on a tiny minority within a tiny minority, huh?

Why are you resorting to extremes? It's not just about rape. For a lot of women it's about the mere presence of the male body and what it represents.

The purpose of safeguarding is to ensure that the risks posed by the tiny minority of risky people (in this instance people with penises) are minimised as far as possible.

Whilst you're here what would you advise religious women to do when faced with a biological male in a state of undress? Their religious beliefs would not allow them to change in front of a male or to view a male. Is it ok for their beliefs, principles and needs to be trampled on? Is it ok that they should have to exclude themselves for the benefit of someone else?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 10:34

Wheresthebeach · 18/04/2025 10:30

Typical of the 'no debate' crowd - if you don't agree 'you're all right wing bigots'. Typical of the misogyny that underpins this ideology. You can't change sex, surgery or dress doesn't change your sex. We need to protect women, and children from this awful ideology based on sexist stereotypes. I'm against castrating boys, and sterilising girls. No men in women's prisons, rape crisis centres, sport or changing rooms. No men taking women's scholarships or women's prizes in business and education. Transwomen should use Men's changing rooms - its up to men to make them feel comfortable in the right spaces.

Only a complete and utter numpty could suggest that there is anything "right wing" about a group of feminists going to the Supreme Court to ensure that the equal rights legislation passed by the last Labour government is properly upheld.

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MarieDeGournay · 18/04/2025 10:41

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 10:04

Are you for real? There was a massive hatred and stigma against gay people in the 80s following the HIV crisis. Of course a bunch of transphobes shouldn't be expected to know anything about LGBTQ+ history

As for the "girl dick" thing I'm not prepared to play your game and use a tiny minority of idiots to tar an entire group.

Are you for real? Why would anyone who knows about lesbian and gay history use the meaningless and anachronistic acronym 'LGBTQ+'?

At least in the 80s it was possible to be a lesbian, i.e. a woman attracted to other women, and organise and meet and socialise together, and we didn't need a UK Supreme Court judgment to say we were not being 'transphobic' for so doing.

DuesToTheDirt · 18/04/2025 10:43

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 08:52

Isn't Amnesty International unabashedly pro trans? I am not aware of the specific points made by Amnesty International, but it would have to be one hell of a reverse ferret if they were there advocating for women rather than trans people.

As you say, Stonewall and various other trans rights advocacy groups have played a major role in influencing how the Equality Act has been interpreted and put into practice in the UK. It turns out that they misinterpreted it and gave misleading advice, meaning that women's legal rights have not been properly upheld as a result. So perhaps they are not the best people to be submitting evidence to the Supreme Court.

That said, I kind of wish they had been involved. The relentless bullshit they come out with needs to be properly exposed.

Yes, I was going to say the same about Amnesty. They have a post on Facebook from 2 days ago: "BREAKING: Today's Supreme Court judgment is disappointing. Make no mistake, legal gender recognition is a human right.
We all have the right to live free from discrimination and fear. Trans rights are human rights"

Some comments agreed, but a good number disagreed, like this one:

"Today was a brilliant day for women in this country silly lefty male lawyer has no clue what he's on about "

AlisounOfBath · 18/04/2025 10:43

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 08:29

Of course it's a win for the far right. GB News and Reform UK are delighted. Leftists are hardly known for their transphobia are they?

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The Communist Party of GB are left wing and have no time for the TWAW argument. So no, this is not a left/right issue unless you think leftwing=people who agree with me because I am a nice person.

WhoAmITodayThen · 18/04/2025 10:46

PriOn1 · 18/04/2025 09:03

“Say women are A, men are B, trans women are C, and so on. Each of these groups have their own different needs.
What C wants may very well be a shared space with A. But if that isn't what A wants, the shared space is only working for C and not A. And if it isn't working for A, you have lost your legal justification for excluding B.”

I just wanted to chime in to say I love this, @MissScarletInTheBallroom . I know it’s intuitive that this is the case to us, but setting it out in a way that makes sense and is easy to understand and explain is always useful. It gives moments of clarity in my often frazzled brain.

Me too. Love this.

teawamutu · 18/04/2025 10:47

AlisounOfBath · 18/04/2025 10:43

The Communist Party of GB are left wing and have no time for the TWAW argument. So no, this is not a left/right issue unless you think leftwing=people who agree with me because I am a nice person.

I think that's exactly how they see it.

Not serious people.

RedToothBrush · 18/04/2025 10:48

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 08:29

Of course it's a win for the far right. GB News and Reform UK are delighted. Leftists are hardly known for their transphobia are they?

Edited

That's weird. The law is the same as it was on the 8th April 2010 when it became law under the previous Labour Government.

Weirdly I don't believe anyone regards the last Labour government as far right as far as I know.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/04/2025 10:51

'Now transwomen won't be protected'

'How do you protect somebody if they want us to pretend they don't exist?'.

misscockerspaniel · 18/04/2025 10:54

PriOn1 · 18/04/2025 10:13

Nope. It’s more rewriting of history, but we should never let the truth get in the way of a comparative victimhood complex in full flow.

The 1980s was all about the New Romantics - men who wore make up and androgynous clothing, but who did not think it was their right to use women's loos or hijack women's sport.

AlisounOfBath · 18/04/2025 10:55

teawamutu · 18/04/2025 10:47

I think that's exactly how they see it.

Not serious people.

That is how most people on the left see most issues of what they consider “social justice”. They don’t actually consider each issue on its own merits and the moral position they’re taking. They just want to buy a badge and get lots of pats on the back for being so superior.

DuesToTheDirt · 18/04/2025 10:56

Micaela64 · 18/04/2025 08:29

Of course it's a win for the far right. GB News and Reform UK are delighted. Leftists are hardly known for their transphobia are they?

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Leftists have lost the plot. Calling yourself left-wing doesn't make you right about everything.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/04/2025 10:56

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/04/2025 10:51

'Now transwomen won't be protected'

'How do you protect somebody if they want us to pretend they don't exist?'.

"Have you read the judgment? Because it makes it very clear that trans women still have exactly the same legal protection today that they had yesterday. They also have their own protected characteristic in the Equality Act, that of gender reassignment. In what way do you think they will not be protected?"

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