Hi, I'm a regular visitor to these boards but don't normally post. Been following this topic for years and active in filling in consultations and writing to MPs etc.
So, I went to a party the other week for entertainment industry people, for a production I was involved in in a very minor way. I got horrendously drunk and somehow got onto stating that trans women are men. The wokebro who I was talking to and had never met before then went on to accuse me of all sorts of thought crimes, and in doing so released a torrent of abuse:
- accused me of being a lesbian (I used the word ‘accused’ as to him this was presented as a negative, same for other items on this list)
- tried to smear me as mentally ill or neurodivergent – variously accused me of being bipolar, autistic, schizophrenic and BPD
- tried to smear me as a drug addict
- tried to smear me as an alcoholic
- accused me of having sex with animals
- accused me of being really trans myself
- wanted the details of my sexual assault so he could judge if I deserved it or not and asked what I was wearing
- accused of having sex with adult men when I was a child
- accused of cheating on my boyfriend
- tried to deny the holocaust ever happened
- said that a man wearing a yarmulke would deserve to be attacked if he was walking the streets, simply for being Jewish, because of the war in Israel/Palestine
- accused of being a gold digger
- accused of being far right
- accused of wanting to bring back slavery and the colonialism
- accused of being bad at my job
- accused of being a paedophile
- accused of being jealous of trans women
- accused of being a ‘slut’
- accused of making porn
- accused of being a fundamentalist Christian
- accused of having been a prostitute
- accused of being racist
- accused of wanting women to be trad wives
- asked if I’ve had a miscarriage
I am sure there are more, but it was basically a character assassination and a torrent of unfounded abuse and intentionally offensive and traumatising interrogation that went on for what felt like hours. If I wasn't so drunk and with impaired judgement I would have just got the hell out of there. The man refused to go away despite me telling him to multiple times, kept inserting himself into my conversation with others, and then at the end of the night he tried to make me to get in a taxi with him, with his friend physically grabbing hold of my arm and trying to force me in. I had to shout at him to let go and threaten to call the police, and walk off on my own as no-one around me would help me.
I’ve never been open about my gender critical views with a stranger like that before, and it was quite the eye-opener just how much of a cult this is, and just how nasty the misogynistic abuse can get. I’ve never been so repulsed by anyone and the level of abuse that was hurled at me, he was trying to torture me and break me mentally. I’m sure many of you have experienced this already, but for me it has made me realise that this movement needs nothing less than complete and utter obliteration at any cost, there can be no concessions or compromises, because they will not accept any themselves. Their, at best indifference to women’s safety, at worst hatred of women is so deeply ingrained that they will never, ever listen to us, despite us having all the evidence. All the facts which I presented to him he had absolutely no comebacks for apart from the tired old cliches that I dispelled very easily, so all he had was abuse.
This man would literally rather women and children were raped and abused than ever admit safeguarding is necessary. In fact, he seemed like he rather liked the idea of women being raped and abused and their movements in society limited. Some of these men and women will never, ever listen to any kind of reason. They don’t question anything they are told from their sources on social media – and they don’t read anything else on the subject, it is a fundamentalist cult that they have been brainwashed in, and anyone who doesn’t follow the cult will be dehumanised and tortured as I was.
He kept asking me ‘how do you know this’ – about very basic things such as the fact that intersex is not the same thing as trans and intersex people are still either male or female. He even denied that men and women have different body fat percentages, and when I told him this, he said ‘you just have to work harder’. They are completely in a bubble. They cannot accept that you can agree with someone like Trump on protecting women’s sports but disagree with him on practically everything else. It is heresy to look at anything that isn’t a far left source and to question anything at all coming from far left ideology. These are entertainment industry people peddling this propaganda, they are frankly dumb as f-ck and viciously aggressive and abusive with it.
I will silently despise all these men and women who would destroy everything women have fought for because of their own ignorance, misogyny and conceit for the rest of my life. I will never ever forget this and will never let these people into my life in any regard.
One highlight was after being told I must be a racist, I informed him how black women were sick of this sh-t as well and told him exactly why, then having this lovely black woman from the party come up to me and say that she agreed with me. It was a joyous moment of sisterly solidarity! Anyway, I had to just let this out somewhere because I am absolutely raging still and traumatised at the vicious attack and at the fact that barely nobody would help me and just stood there as he abused me. Never ever think of backing down, not even an inch, because they’re not going to. They do not care the slightest bit if women and children are murdered, raped or abused, miss opportunities or have all of their rights taken away, they would rather preserve their own egos and I rather suspect that with a lot of these men in particular they are enjoying women being stripped of their rights and abused. What he subjected me to was nothing less than evil, what these people are willing to let happen to women as collateral for their ideology is evil, and I don’t know that I will ever forgive it.