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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Kemi elected leader of the Tory party

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cariadlet · 02/11/2024 11:13

Let's hope she really holds Labour to account about women's rights and the dangers of gender ideology.

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ApplePippa · 04/11/2024 11:24

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 11:06

And this is the underlying issue.

Education isn't about advantage. It's not about trying to educate each child according to need, ability, temperament, etc.

In your vision, if Johhny is autistic, he gets extra supports in order to try and get him to a similar level as some (average) person or child. Jenny, on the other hand, who is an extremely talented at math but needs a quiet room to focus on her work, will still be ok left in a noisy classroom without anything extra to nurture her talent - at least average. If her parents can afford to send her to a special school, great, if not, she'll be average, or possibly an underachiever who gets frustrated with school and doesn't do much. That is fair in your view, because although they spent way more money on filling one set of needs, justice is served by that.

This is not a child centered way of thinking, nor is it education centered.

@TempestTost I actually find your opinion on this quite disturbing.

Is it just children with autism you think shouldn't get help, or does this extend to other disabilities? Should, for example, a child with a visual impairment not be given help in the classroom because the same amount is not spent on someone talented at maths?

ChristinaXYZ · 04/11/2024 11:51

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 02/11/2024 12:24

How can she hold Labour to account on women's rights when she has explicitly stated that our current maternity pay is excessive?

If she had 'explicitly' stated that you presumably would have quoted her. She didn't say that however so you can't. You are paraphasing those who have taken her out of context. She was talking about red tape and regulations especially on small businesses not the 'pay' itself. She actual clarified this later by saying, "Of course maternity pay isn’t excessive". Her words. Originally she was also talking in isolation about "statutory maternity pay," not all maternity pay, because of it being paid out taxation - which we all pay, even the very low paid who don't pay income tax pay VAT at a disproportionately high level. So it is a question which can at least be asked surely without going "Woo! She's sexist!" and hiding behind the sofa?

She has a different view of economics to you apparently - that jobs and wealth are created by lower taxation and less regulation. That does not make her sexist. Anymore than Reeves budget makes her sexist (even though it could be catastrophic for those on the lowest page jobs - that many jobs will disappear because of the NI and increased minimum wage - many cleaners, care home workers, usually women, and others might loose their jobs entirely as care homes are sying they may close). Neither economic view is sexist nor pro-women. They are just economic views. For some reason people let Labour off on this but over-study (and mis-quote) the Tories.

MarkWithaC · 04/11/2024 12:17

BonfireLady · 04/11/2024 09:40

Agreed.

However, reasonable adjustments (that are made to support autistic children) do need to be reasonable. If bad decisions are made on this, other children are impacted in a way that becomes unfair to them. I say that as a parent of an autistic daughter, for whom I had to go to mediation to get her EHCP agreed. I fully support autistic children having reasonable adjustments, accompanied by the provisions that are funded in EHCPs to help them develop skills through speech and language therapy (SALT), and other interventions, to navigate the world. Some children's needs can't be met in mainstream school, but many can with this additional support.

As an example of reasonable v unreasonable adjustments, my (non-autistic) daughter told me about a test recently where everyone started 15 mins later than planned. An autistic girl in the class already had extra time to complete the test. This is a reasonable adjustment. However, when this girl got agitated about the whole class getting 15 minutes less, meaning that her extra time was adjusted too, she had a negative reaction. The teacher was a sub and made a decision on the spot to award her extra points in compensation for this.... announced in front of the class. Ideally, the teacher should have said that she understood why the girl was upset and would speak to the teacher who had set the test, to understand what could be done for everyone. She "solved" the immediate problem of the autistic girl starting to have a meltdown to the disadvantage of everyone else.

One poor decision by a teacher, already under pressure through being a sub, doesn't mean the whole system of adjustments is unreasonable.

MarkWithaC · 04/11/2024 12:23

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 11:06

And this is the underlying issue.

Education isn't about advantage. It's not about trying to educate each child according to need, ability, temperament, etc.

In your vision, if Johhny is autistic, he gets extra supports in order to try and get him to a similar level as some (average) person or child. Jenny, on the other hand, who is an extremely talented at math but needs a quiet room to focus on her work, will still be ok left in a noisy classroom without anything extra to nurture her talent - at least average. If her parents can afford to send her to a special school, great, if not, she'll be average, or possibly an underachiever who gets frustrated with school and doesn't do much. That is fair in your view, because although they spent way more money on filling one set of needs, justice is served by that.

This is not a child centered way of thinking, nor is it education centered.

'Jenny' starts out at a higher level than her average classmates. Not having a quiet room may slightly impact that level, but it is not comparable to getting a child up to a level where they can participate at school. By this I mean things as basic as being able to travel to school. Talented kids tend to do well even in schools that don't go the extra mile to nurture them.
A wider point is that I think all state schools should be better resourced so they can have adequate numbers of excellent teaching staff, so that classes are smaller and quieter. I also think all state schools should have quiet spaces like libraries where talented kids can study. I can't see a Tory government, under KB or anyone else, doing this.

Shortshriftandlethal · 04/11/2024 13:16

MarkWithaC · 04/11/2024 12:23

'Jenny' starts out at a higher level than her average classmates. Not having a quiet room may slightly impact that level, but it is not comparable to getting a child up to a level where they can participate at school. By this I mean things as basic as being able to travel to school. Talented kids tend to do well even in schools that don't go the extra mile to nurture them.
A wider point is that I think all state schools should be better resourced so they can have adequate numbers of excellent teaching staff, so that classes are smaller and quieter. I also think all state schools should have quiet spaces like libraries where talented kids can study. I can't see a Tory government, under KB or anyone else, doing this.

I'm an ex teacher. The condition of state schools is very variable. Though some have fantastic facilities, far better than the facilities you'd find at most small independent schools.

Talented children often don't get stretched enough, certainly in mixed ability classes. Academic children really need academic teachers. Not all teacher are academic. I find matching the right teacher to the right set of pupils is over-looked and not really done. Some staff work best with certain kinds of pupil. Some teachers are scared of very bright children. Some teachers prefer to work with lower ability. Some with SEN children

MarkWithaC · 04/11/2024 13:49

Shortshriftandlethal · 04/11/2024 13:16

I'm an ex teacher. The condition of state schools is very variable. Though some have fantastic facilities, far better than the facilities you'd find at most small independent schools.

Talented children often don't get stretched enough, certainly in mixed ability classes. Academic children really need academic teachers. Not all teacher are academic. I find matching the right teacher to the right set of pupils is over-looked and not really done. Some staff work best with certain kinds of pupil. Some teachers are scared of very bright children. Some teachers prefer to work with lower ability. Some with SEN children

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I know the condition of state schools is very variable. My belief is that it shouldn't be; that they should all be excellent.
I don't disagree that talented children often don't get stretched enough.
I don't know what point you're making about matching the right teacher to the right set of pupils; I agree this is important, but it's not what I was discussing right now.

JustSpeculation · 04/11/2024 14:14

Shortshriftandlethal · 04/11/2024 07:54

What do you think his vision is?

Dunno. It's stuck at the bottom of his Ming vase.

Shortshriftandlethal · 04/11/2024 16:30

MarkWithaC · 04/11/2024 13:49

I know the condition of state schools is very variable. My belief is that it shouldn't be; that they should all be excellent.
I don't disagree that talented children often don't get stretched enough.
I don't know what point you're making about matching the right teacher to the right set of pupils; I agree this is important, but it's not what I was discussing right now.

I can make whatever points I choose. You are talking abvout excellence in teaching, well in my experience, as a teacher, in a wide range of different schools I'd say that different teachers excel with different types of pupil. Not all teachers are excellent with all groups, and not all teachers excel. Excellence is not something that you can be trained in. Excellence is something you achieve. Certainly as an individual practitioner.

Schools will always be variable because people are different. Teachers are different, Headteachers are different and it is they that set the standards. If you have a school in a leafy, middle class area of London then you'll most likely find fewer behavioral issues of the sort that tend to be common in more deprived areas. Behavioural issues affect the learning experience for the rest of the class, and also make the teacher's job much more stressful

Some teachers can do excellent things with challenging pupils, others just coast by with pupils who pose no major issues. I'm not sure you can ever eliminate all differences of this type.

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 16:44

ApplePippa · 04/11/2024 11:11

No, we are talking about disabled children getting support to be able to access an education. The basics. Not the education that suits them best. Disabled children are given crumbs when it comes to support. They are certainly not advantaged above others.

And Kemi wants to strip them of even this.

Support is pretty uneven, but that's part of the problem - some kids aren't getting supports at all, others get substantial supports.

There are more and more children being pulled from schools because the environment is unsuitable and they can't cope. These kids aren't special in any academic or cognitive way. They can't access one on one support, help to get to a school that is a better ft, a quiet place to take a test away from other kids, time out alone when they feel overwhelmed.

Parents trying to advocate for these kids can't make any demands, they aren't entitled to anything different or special. They are expected to just accept that things are as they are, and some kids may be able to demand accommodations.

What's interesting about this is that KB actually hasn't said that children in need shouldn't get supports - just that the system isn't working or fair for children over all. Which weirdly parents trying to access supports seem to agree with, but balk at looking at other approaches.

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 16:45

ApplePippa · 04/11/2024 11:24

@TempestTost I actually find your opinion on this quite disturbing.

Is it just children with autism you think shouldn't get help, or does this extend to other disabilities? Should, for example, a child with a visual impairment not be given help in the classroom because the same amount is not spent on someone talented at maths?

You are the one talking about children not getting help. No one else has suggested that.

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 16:53

MarkWithaC · 04/11/2024 12:23

'Jenny' starts out at a higher level than her average classmates. Not having a quiet room may slightly impact that level, but it is not comparable to getting a child up to a level where they can participate at school. By this I mean things as basic as being able to travel to school. Talented kids tend to do well even in schools that don't go the extra mile to nurture them.
A wider point is that I think all state schools should be better resourced so they can have adequate numbers of excellent teaching staff, so that classes are smaller and quieter. I also think all state schools should have quiet spaces like libraries where talented kids can study. I can't see a Tory government, under KB or anyone else, doing this.

So you are saying that a child who is average or bright doesn't deserve the same resources because she or he will be ok just bumbling through.

I mean - you could make a social argument the other way. Many students with extra needs may never get even to the point of being self-supporting. My niece, for example, will never have a "real" job or live alone. It doesn't matter how much money we put into her education, she will be a cost to society.

On the other hand, with a bright students, if we give them more resources we could really see a social advantage because that person is not only likely to be highly productive, and contribute more to the economy, they might do great things like figure out how to fix the health system.

Now, I wouldn't advocate for that, because education isn't actually a numbers game. It's about understanding that each student is a person whose best interests and mind, and I'll even say spirit, has to be nurtured.

And that won't happen if the system has a hierarchy in terms of serving students.

ApplePippa · 04/11/2024 16:58

Apologies, I inferred that wrongly from your posts.

But to be honest I don't really understand what you are actually arguing. It comes across as "it's not fair, some disabled kids are given some help but the state won't pay for private school for talented kids". More support for everyone? I'm in favour of that. I doubt Kemi is though - she's in favour of a small state and "personal responsibility".

ApplePippa · 04/11/2024 17:00

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 16:45

You are the one talking about children not getting help. No one else has suggested that.

Apologies, I inferred that wrongly from your posts.

But to be honest I don't really understand what you are actually arguing. It comes across as "it's not fair, some disabled kids are given some help but the state won't pay for private school for talented kids". More support for everyone? I'm in favour of that. I doubt Kemi is though - she's in favour of a small state and "personal responsibility".

ChaChaChooey · 04/11/2024 17:14

Smaller class sizes would be good for ALL kids but we barely have enough teachers to go around with class sizes back at 32 (for all except KS1) and the ones we do have are demoralised and under supported.

The Coalition Gov followed by various Tory Govs have chipped away at the services that used to help with adolescent mental health, wellbeing and behaviour (youth services, camhs, subsidised extra curriculars, parenting courses, adult literacy sessions to help parents help their kids etc) and it’s all been dumped on schools who already had more than enough to do.

I’m hoping that Kemi’s ‘bootstraps’ philosophy sharpens Labour’s resolve to reinstate some of the state provision that has been jettisoned so that crony Tories could benefit from third sector contracts (and that Labour are able to effectively communicate exactly how the Tories caused the current shitshow).

IwantToRetire · 04/11/2024 17:22

Just looked at a YouGov Chat poll about KB.

Most responses seem to be:

She is far right
She is obsessed with being anti-woke
She will be hopeless

Not sure if this more about those completing the survey or the media coverage she gets.

EasternStandard · 04/11/2024 17:29

Idk I think whoever is in that position in the next five or so years is going to need to be pretty hardline

Hearing the former chief immigration officer today Starmer's policy is not feasible.

If those numbers keep going up, someone's going to have to talk about doing something the electorate probably won't accept rn

As for a chat poll, that's pretty useless. But look at the comments on any DM article for KS if people want to see similar and worse

BIossomtoes · 04/11/2024 17:41

The Foreign Secretary doesn’t hold the remit for immigration, that’s the Home Secretary.

EasternStandard · 04/11/2024 17:51

Applied to the make up of the shadow cabinet five years is a long time and using a policy which is not feasible will have an impact

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 23:44

ApplePippa · 04/11/2024 17:00

Apologies, I inferred that wrongly from your posts.

But to be honest I don't really understand what you are actually arguing. It comes across as "it's not fair, some disabled kids are given some help but the state won't pay for private school for talented kids". More support for everyone? I'm in favour of that. I doubt Kemi is though - she's in favour of a small state and "personal responsibility".

Edited

My point is that she's not said what you think she's said.

She hasn't said that children of any kind shouldn't be helped. She's said that the current system, which works by saying the state has an obligation to give extra funding/help/accommodations to certain categories of child isn't just, and isn't working practically.

This is the simplest kind of example - we can see classrooms where a child with some kind of diagnosis of having additional needs being integrated is every day making the class ineffective and awful for the other kids in the class.

Why is what is supposed to be good for one child allowed to be the deciding factor, not what is good or bad for the other children? The reason is the school is legally obligated to provide for that child's needs, and difficult though it may be at times for parents to get that in place, there are processes to get it to happen. There are no such processes or rules to protect the other children in the classroom in the same way.

It's the difference between trying to produce outcomes as similar as possible for all kinds,and attending equally to all kids needs.

It's unfortunate that people, and organizations like those for parents of autistic children, are so myopic that they would rather defend a system that doesn't even work that well for those they are responsible for, before the discussion even gets to questions like, what would work better for all children and treat them all as deserving help.

It's not possible to develop solutions or a way forward without understanding what's not working now.

MarkWithaC · 05/11/2024 09:14

Shortshriftandlethal · 04/11/2024 16:30

I can make whatever points I choose. You are talking abvout excellence in teaching, well in my experience, as a teacher, in a wide range of different schools I'd say that different teachers excel with different types of pupil. Not all teachers are excellent with all groups, and not all teachers excel. Excellence is not something that you can be trained in. Excellence is something you achieve. Certainly as an individual practitioner.

Schools will always be variable because people are different. Teachers are different, Headteachers are different and it is they that set the standards. If you have a school in a leafy, middle class area of London then you'll most likely find fewer behavioral issues of the sort that tend to be common in more deprived areas. Behavioural issues affect the learning experience for the rest of the class, and also make the teacher's job much more stressful

Some teachers can do excellent things with challenging pupils, others just coast by with pupils who pose no major issues. I'm not sure you can ever eliminate all differences of this type.

Edited

I can make whatever points I choose.
That's a bit prickly Hmm I didn't say you couldn't, I'm just saying that's not quite what I'm discussing.

MarkWithaC · 05/11/2024 09:21

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 16:53

So you are saying that a child who is average or bright doesn't deserve the same resources because she or he will be ok just bumbling through.

I mean - you could make a social argument the other way. Many students with extra needs may never get even to the point of being self-supporting. My niece, for example, will never have a "real" job or live alone. It doesn't matter how much money we put into her education, she will be a cost to society.

On the other hand, with a bright students, if we give them more resources we could really see a social advantage because that person is not only likely to be highly productive, and contribute more to the economy, they might do great things like figure out how to fix the health system.

Now, I wouldn't advocate for that, because education isn't actually a numbers game. It's about understanding that each student is a person whose best interests and mind, and I'll even say spirit, has to be nurtured.

And that won't happen if the system has a hierarchy in terms of serving students.

You use very emotive language that in no way reflects my view or what I said ('doesn't deserve'). And I didn't say, 'just bumbling through.'

Surely there MUST be a 'hierarchy' in the sense of support for children with disabilities and issues? Otherwise a bright child who can and does get the bus to school, or is driven by an available and competent parent, will do just fine at getting to school, but a child who for whatever issue cannot get the bus or be driven will not even successfully get to school.
This is not giving children with autism an 'advantage', as KB has it, it's simply (to use a dread phrase) levelling up.

MarkWithaC · 05/11/2024 09:25

TempestTost · 04/11/2024 23:44

My point is that she's not said what you think she's said.

She hasn't said that children of any kind shouldn't be helped. She's said that the current system, which works by saying the state has an obligation to give extra funding/help/accommodations to certain categories of child isn't just, and isn't working practically.

This is the simplest kind of example - we can see classrooms where a child with some kind of diagnosis of having additional needs being integrated is every day making the class ineffective and awful for the other kids in the class.

Why is what is supposed to be good for one child allowed to be the deciding factor, not what is good or bad for the other children? The reason is the school is legally obligated to provide for that child's needs, and difficult though it may be at times for parents to get that in place, there are processes to get it to happen. There are no such processes or rules to protect the other children in the classroom in the same way.

It's the difference between trying to produce outcomes as similar as possible for all kinds,and attending equally to all kids needs.

It's unfortunate that people, and organizations like those for parents of autistic children, are so myopic that they would rather defend a system that doesn't even work that well for those they are responsible for, before the discussion even gets to questions like, what would work better for all children and treat them all as deserving help.

It's not possible to develop solutions or a way forward without understanding what's not working now.

Why should the state NOT have an obligation to give extra funding/help/accommodations to certain categories of child?
If you're KB I suppose the answer is because you believe in a small state and in private schools for those who can afford them,
But I'd be interested to hear whether you have any different reasons why you think this should not be the case.

hallouminatus · 05/11/2024 10:02

IwantToRetire · 04/11/2024 18:21

Not sure if anyone has seen this, but this is tweet that Dawn Butler referred to https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1852601476721344629.html#google_vignette

Butler was caught out by Poe's law?