I absolutely agree with all the points about clothes and shoes. Young girls increasingly wear sturdy school shoes and in secondary the girls nearly all wear unisex black trainers.
My dd was always happiest outside as a pre-schooler, although she was also very happy reading and colouring (unlike her db). I avoided pink and girly things deliberately but by age 7 that’s all she wanted: because it meant she was like the other girls. But she carried on being outdoorsy and now she loves kayaking, climbing, her martial arts and her DofE practice hikes. She is also at an all girls school, where there is no gender bias towards certain subjects or activities. I am SO glad we chose single-sex education.
Ultimately if you persevere, many girls will pass through the stereotypical traps that our society sets for them. But that’s doesn’t mean they are the same as boys.
We have to recognise that girls do typically develop differently than boys.
My younger son inherited all his sisters toys. Age 6 he still falls alseep cuddling his grubby pink baby doll. But true to stereotype he does have much better gross motor skills than his ds at a similar age. He is bigger and stronger and more muscular than his sister at the same age. He prefers to learn from experience not from books. Of course it’s not surprising we take ds out to do physical activities - because he finds them easy and he wants to do more. It’s really fun discovering you can climb a tree; it’s a bit rubbish when your arms are too puny to pull yourself up.