How best to answer 'What are your preferred pronouns?' in an intervew

[NancyDrawed]

I have been out of the workforce for a very long time but finally have an in-person interview later this week.

The confirmation email is signed by a name followed by (he/him/his). I need to get a job. But I am trying to get my head around what I would say if I was directly asked what my preferred pronouns are.

On principle I would like to say 'I'm not a follower of that ideology so use whichever you see fit' or something along those lines, but is that likely to mean I have no chance of getting the job?

I am clearly female, so a small part of me would want to say he/him/his just to see the reaction!

It might not even come up at all, but I'd like to be prepared.

We just needed a room full of adults who did as pp and refuse women when they are giving their views, anything other than listen.

No wonder we’ve ended up with this harmful mess

The legislators mostly are accountable but you can see in that snapshot how it happened

Because they are driven by and for men.

They knew the policies would have negative and detrimental impacts on women but they neither cared nor considered that relevant, the only consideration was for men.

This is borne out time and time again by the male poster who point blank refuses to listen to women or indeed show any care for their lived experience.

It's like someone asking what God you believe in. It's not a courtesy it's a passive aggressive way of to forcing you to take a stance on a political issue and they would be an asshole to ask her that question.

Gender critical people are not a disadvantaged group.

But women are.

Once again, refusing to acknowledge women's experience.

Perhaps DJ excludes women who are also GC from his definition of women?

This really is taking twisting established definitions to a new level.

Or perhaps women who don't agree with him don't count?

Fuck knows. Make it make sense!

I speak to plenty of women who aren't gender criticalm with whom I agree.

Also, just wanted to use this quote to address this idea because I see it a lot online. Not just having a go at male posters on Mumsnet.

Men in general who only listen and consider the views of women they already agree with, that conveniently support things other men want, like males in women's spaces, the erasure of sex, and the promotion of prostitution and porn, and don't listen to the women who are affected by these things, are not supporters of women's rights, or any sort of feminist ally.

We think it would be forcing us to take a stance, because we spend time on here discussing this stuff and we understand the ramifications of pronouns. But not everyone does. Some people just think, "That's what you do these days."

Gender critical people are not a disadvantaged group.

No, but women ARE.

You know, the more I have thought about this, the angrier and more exasperated I am.

What happened to not allowing someone who is not a member of the group in question to define them? So again, the group 'women' is being defined in a way that suits a man, in this case it apparently means 'non gender critical women'.

Having othered us, he apparently believes he is justified in ignoring our experiences and views, because he has determined that we aren't 'proper' women (yes, I know that listening doesn't mean agreement, but it's astonishing how often women's concerns have been hand waved away with 'well I don't agree' without the hand waver ever giving an explanation of why)

All apparently on the basis of a difference in belief/ non belief (in this case, gender identity).

Imagine doing this to any other marginalised group: thinking you don't have to take the concerns of a particular subset of disabled people, or elderly people etc, seriously, because you didn't agree with some of their views!

That's not how meaningful interaction or listening works!