No one has to comply to a person’s philosophical belief.
And we have recently been shown just how meaningless the language that some people demand is and how it IS based on philosophical belief.
Because to be a person with a transgender identity is not based on having gender dysphoria. We have been told this now by professional academics as well as trans people themselves.
Therefore the only commonality for people with transgender identities is that their philosophical belief. Meaning no one needs to comply with another persons philosophical belief. No one.
No matter how kind or respectful that person who is trying to shame you into complying tells you that it is to use the preferred language, it is someone who is demanding that you support their own philosophical belief.
You, general you, are totally free to choose to base your own language on using the sometimes centuries old established meanings of words and the established protocols of language that are based around sex. Not someone's identity.
Another issue that the recent discussions about the male boxers has shown us that the word 'cis' is also meaningless and based on someone's philosophical belief..
In fact, because we were reminded that 'cis' means any person 'assigned' female at birth, this also includes those male people who have been incorrectly registered as female. And I am talking about the male people who have differences of sex development where their bodies are capable of processing the testosterone that their testes produce.
What this means is that there is now no words to describe a unique group of female people that reliably means just those female people, either pre or post puberty, who have bodies that are female sexed.
Cis is a meaningless word. Birthing parent is dehumanising and dissociating for many mothers. It should not be used in any general communication.
The solution to accommodate two ‘mothers’ is not to dehumanise the one who is giving birth to an infant who requires significant care and not to be dehumanised by the language used.
Using preferred language around describing someone is based on someone else's demand to believe in their philosophical belief. It is purely up to you.
What you don't get to do, is to shame others for not supporting your belief if they do not choose to. No one gets to infer / imply or to directly state it is ‘disrespectful’ in anyway to use accurate language that has commonly understood meanings amongst the majority of the population.