It was appalling @Dumbledoreslemonsherbets and @WarriorN
However am slightly heartened as the message, esp post Cass, does seem to be getting out there and I am trying to be optimistic that there will be seismic change in how kids like mine are treated going forward with people like Kemi Badenoch and Wes Streeting (ie on both sides) fighting to make this happen.
WRT my kiddo, now 19, there has been progress over the last year as being out of education and away from institutions and peer groups that actively championed all this seems to have helped. I think she is also taking on board, given the news lately, that my fierce refusal to support her going down any medicated routes was the right path. We do not expressly discuss anything trans related (politically or wrt to her own ‘identity’) but she was finally diagnosed with ADHD on top of ASD and through the service we have found an amazing psychotherapist who specialises in ADHD and supported her finding the right medication (has taken over a year to get that right). She is now going back to FT Ed to do an access course and planning on applying to uni and qualifying as a skateboard in structor on the side… and actively choosing to avoid courses/institutions where this stuff is foregrounded. An open day at a London Art college last term was interesting: a blue haired prospect was overheard chatting to another, stating her pronouns - my DD turned towards me, rolling her eyes and shaking with laughter. I was wearing my well practiced poker face.
The recent boxer saga has also been instructive - I received a 20min feminist rant that seemed to indicate she had been peaked (is that the right word if it is teen lesbian who still dresses/presents rather masc?)
So, I guess I am saying that I utterly believe the medical protocol should be watchful waiting. ASD kids take longer to grow up emotionally/socially and I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel (though I have no ideal how long that tunnel is 🤣). I think psychometric inventories and investigation as set out above SHOULD have been carried out, as a benchmark process - a bit like we use the GAD ones for depression so we can monitor and measure improvement post therapy. My dd has had little to no therapeutic input. I resented that for a while, but given affirmative therapy would have been more damaging than no therapy, I am now bloody grateful the waitlist at the Tavi was so long she was never seen and that CAMHS were too inept/lacking in GI specialists that they couldn’t fuck her up even more. I’ve only just reached this position recently, though!
(Formerly BusyMummy, btw, in case my rant seems familiar - I flounced off in the summer and returned last month in my new identity!)