I was at that meeting too and was staggered that a discussion about the impact of the far right on feminism became interpreted as some some of veiled attack on KJK. None of the speakers mentioned her, or alluded to her, but there was a 1000 post thread on MN saying something similar to this one - that any mention of the Far Right must be about KJK and couldn't possibly be about, um, the influence of the Far right on feminism.
I've said before that the stand out part of that meeting for me was Pragna Patel talking about organising against fundamentalism, the far right ,and anti-women agendas, saying that the far right is a danger to black and brown women.
Crikey, that sounds a very familiar argument. You sound just like one of the event organisers who joined the Elephant thread to tell everyone off for not listening well enough and not asking the right questions.
Dozens of us — women who didn't know each other, women who weren't KJK fans, women mainly of the left, mainly feminists — all experienced the same dissonance and the same 'wtf is this all about?' reaction and reached a similar conclusion.
You might have been so ideologically in tune with the speakers that you were deaf and blind to the sub texts and nuance. Thank goodness most of the audience weren't.
Here's the Elephant thread for reference:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4662757-womens-place-uk-filia-event-the-elephant-ignored-yet-again