@hellotowel has not been back. Stir up a hornet's nest and fuck off. Always a good tactic.
@TempestTost
A lot of it has proven to be a dead end, anti-mother, (and by extension anti-woman,) authoritarian, dogmatic. The fact that the women committed to it are now trying to regain control of the narrative does not surprise me at all, they never really wanted engagement from most women.
That was very much how I felt when I was the trenches of motherhood, underslept, overstretched, endlessly busy: the feminism I read in the paper (we took the Grauniad in those days) didn't seem to apply to me, or consider me, because I wasn't in paid employment and had chosen to stay at home and bring up my DC, relying on DH (who didn't have to bother about pregnancy and breastfeeding in quite the same way) to go out to work. There might have been feminism out there that would have applied, but this was before the internet really took off and in any case, I was too knackered to go looking.
My life, and the life of many women like me, just didn't seem to enter the consciousness of what was then mainstream feminism. If it engaged with motherhood at all, it was all about maternity leave, shared parental leave and finding childcare, not about mothering your children they way that I found myself biologically driven to do. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe I missed great seminal and readable books that talked to women who stayed at home with their DC about why they did it, whether they considered themselves feminists and why. But it turned me off feminism for a long time.
My DM would never have called herself a feminist, but effectively, despite her RW politics, she brought me up to be one. It was largely because of her and the ethics she'd reacted me in that I gradually wandered back into the feminist fold. This sort of infighting would incline me to wander right back out again - except that we have the fight of our lives on our hands at the moment.