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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Coordinating spoilt ballots

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Binglebong · 29/06/2024 12:38

I know there is a thread about have you spoilt your ballot but this is slightly different.

I'm trying to hold my nose and vote for someone but there is not a single potential MP in my constituency who does not disgust me. I don't want to vote Reform or someone as a protest as it might be seen that they have more support than they do. So the liklihood is that I will spoil my vote.

I know spoilt votes only really get looked at if there is a huge number or if the vote is close. But just in case I was wondering if it is worth having the same thing written on all of them to show that it is a massive issue that is losing them votes. What would you suggest (if you think it is a good idea).
Respect my sex if you want my X is a good one but is it the best?

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Appalonia · 01/07/2024 22:46

MoiraPose · 01/07/2024 15:35

Threads like this demonstrate just how successful female socialisation actually is.

In every single election, every single revolution, every single instance of civil disobedience, women are told to wait. To ignore their own needs and to do "what must be done for the greater good." We are told that once X or Y has been achieved, we will be remembered and rewarded for our patience. That the fight is bigger and more important than our rights and our needs. That we must wait and hold the line and be good girls because we cannot prioritise our needs right now. But that day will come soon. Very, very soon.

Well fuck that. I am tired of waiting. I am tired of being expected to prioritise the needs of everyone else above my own. I am tired of being expected to hold myself to a higher moral standard at every turn. I am tired of being expected to be kind and think of everyone else.

Controversial as some of you may deem it: my right to my sex class and its associated protections are just as important as the NHS and education. Why shouldn't they be?

I will not take part in this incessant game any longer. I will not vote for a party that is trying to tell me that my sex class either does not actually exist or that if it does, it is not important.

Let others take the fall this time. Let others put their needs on the back burner. Because if every single woman in this country who is sick and tired of this nonsense spoilt their ballot on Thursday then yes, it would make a huge difference.

Stop telling women to take a backseat yet again. I for one am done.

BRILLIANT post, agree with every single word you've said!

NoWordForFluffy · 01/07/2024 22:47

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 22:38

In what circumstances are we allowed to moan?

When you're given permission by a man.

duc748 · 01/07/2024 22:48

Fill your boots, then, Arabella! 😃

Appalonia · 01/07/2024 22:54

I've actually checked the predicted vote for my constituency, it's 52% Labour. My MP is full on TWAW so there's no way in hell I'm voting for her. So I may as well stay at home. But I'm NOT going to do that as I actually care about this issue and I want to make a statement. Even if it's just for me.

IwantToRetire · 02/07/2024 00:16

Sorry I think I might be repeating myself but it would be really good if there was a web site where people who spoilt their ballot or who didn't vote could say which they did and why.

I tried looking at some of the petition type web sites but dont see how you could use them to do that.

Unless it was a petition about changing the voting system or something.

Problem is, unless it was widely used it wouldn't really reflect the situation.

There is a web site called No Vote or None but looks a bit old and not recently updated.

So although those of us on FWR may share similar reasons for frustration, I think there is quite a long history of people not voting, and not just because they are lazy!

Danana · 02/07/2024 07:16

IwantToRetire · 02/07/2024 00:16

Sorry I think I might be repeating myself but it would be really good if there was a web site where people who spoilt their ballot or who didn't vote could say which they did and why.

I tried looking at some of the petition type web sites but dont see how you could use them to do that.

Unless it was a petition about changing the voting system or something.

Problem is, unless it was widely used it wouldn't really reflect the situation.

There is a web site called No Vote or None but looks a bit old and not recently updated.

So although those of us on FWR may share similar reasons for frustration, I think there is quite a long history of people not voting, and not just because they are lazy!

Yes there is a history of people not voting as a protest. There is no distinction between accidentally or purposely spoilt ballots, but a spike should show up. As I mentioned, I think there will be a spike for a variety of reasons. There is a movement to spoil ballots to protest about Gaza.

The trouble is that because there are multiple reasons, nobody will know how many ballots were spoilt for each particular protest.

A website to log this would help but if it was a single website it would need a lot of support from a spectrum of people with very different political views.

BiggerBoat1 · 02/07/2024 08:48

ArabellaScott · 01/07/2024 22:38

In what circumstances are we allowed to moan?

When you have actually engaged with the Democratic process rather than making a vain, but ultimately meaningless, gesture.

BackToLurk · 02/07/2024 09:36

BreatheAndFocus · 01/07/2024 22:19

On my local area. A number of Remainers here didn’t bother to vote, and others spoiled their ballot by writing idiot slogans. As a consequence, the vote in my area, which was predicted to be Remain, was actually Leave because the Leave voters turned out and didn’t spoil their ballots.

Never underestimate what crap we could get. Every vote counts - even if it’s used to thwart a bad candidate/party rather than an enthusiastic vote in support of somebody.

Anecdote. My favourite type of data

Ang69 · 02/07/2024 09:43

BiggerBoat1 · 02/07/2024 08:48

When you have actually engaged with the Democratic process rather than making a vain, but ultimately meaningless, gesture.

How on earth is spoiling your vote a vain, meaningless gesture? I wish so much to be able to back someone, to put an X n the box next to a candidates name, someone who I believe will at least share some of my values and speak for me. There is NO ONE. So, do I just stay home, not vote and look disinterested? Or, do I get down to the polling booth and have my say?

I'm entitled to at least say that there is no one worthy of my vote. I am honestly disgusted that we are in this situation. The more people speak up this way then maybe someone will take note. I know my ballot paper will be tossed aside and barely looked at but what is the alternative?

Kucinghitam · 02/07/2024 10:20

Flow chart for Good People in the upcoming General Election:

  1. Are you a partially-sentient support biped?
  2. If so, think of literally everybody and everything else as being more important than you.
  3. Then, remember that your duty is to placidly consider only the selection of options presented on your ballot paper.
  4. If you have done steps 1-3 correctly, you will understand that consequently, your vote is owed to The Righteous Parties on the list.
  5. If you cast your vote for a Wrong Party because it represents something important to you, you have done a Bad Thing (see steps 1-2).
  6. If you spoil your ballot because you find that no candidates represent your views, you have done a Bad Thing (see step 3) and you have further failed to even think of the exhausting burden you are placing upon the ballot counters - did you not get the message that you need to think of literally everybody above yourself (see step 2)?
  7. Worst of all, you will have exhibited a range of sentience which is beyond the permitted partial level (step 1) - these overstepping thoughts and behaviours have labels such as Vain, Selfish and Ignorant.
MissScarletInTheBallroom · 02/07/2024 10:22

Kucinghitam · 02/07/2024 10:20

Flow chart for Good People in the upcoming General Election:

  1. Are you a partially-sentient support biped?
  2. If so, think of literally everybody and everything else as being more important than you.
  3. Then, remember that your duty is to placidly consider only the selection of options presented on your ballot paper.
  4. If you have done steps 1-3 correctly, you will understand that consequently, your vote is owed to The Righteous Parties on the list.
  5. If you cast your vote for a Wrong Party because it represents something important to you, you have done a Bad Thing (see steps 1-2).
  6. If you spoil your ballot because you find that no candidates represent your views, you have done a Bad Thing (see step 3) and you have further failed to even think of the exhausting burden you are placing upon the ballot counters - did you not get the message that you need to think of literally everybody above yourself (see step 2)?
  7. Worst of all, you will have exhibited a range of sentience which is beyond the permitted partial level (step 1) - these overstepping thoughts and behaviours have labels such as Vain, Selfish and Ignorant.

Haha very good.

NoWordForFluffy · 02/07/2024 11:05

Brilliant, @Kucinghitam! 👏

Thelnebriati · 02/07/2024 11:27

Its Tuesday and our postal ballots still haven't arrived.
I had hoped there would be an independent I could vote for, but he has sent out an election leaflet saying 'support Gaza'.

ArabellaScott · 02/07/2024 11:52

You can do an emergency proxy vote, for anyone whose ballot hasn't arrived in time.

Thelnebriati · 02/07/2024 13:09

Ballots have arrived but there's no one to vote for! I guess we'll have to hand them in at the polling station.

UtopiaPlanitia · 02/07/2024 17:12

@Kucinghitam I love your wry sense of humour 👏 but I wish it wasn’t so close to the truth 😞

ColinMyWifeBridgerton · 02/07/2024 17:58

There's no point all writing the same thing, no one is going to read it.

Nothing screams one issue vote like writing "woman = adult human female" on the ballot anyway. Beats me how this can really be the only thing people care about.

IwantToRetire · 02/07/2024 18:15

A website to log this would help but if it was a single website it would need a lot of support from a spectrum of people with very different political views.

Yes, and of course and now much to late in the process to start attempting anything.

But do find it strange because even MSM have been reporting how many people are expressing disinterest, and recognised that however angry they might be with the Tories, the idea that Labour is what they will get is disillusioning.

Do you think if I was somehow able to contact JKR and she retweeted it, that enough people would be interested to say they would post on a web site?

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IwantToRetire · 02/07/2024 18:18

Every vote counts - even if it’s used to thwart a bad candidate/party rather than an enthusiastic vote in support of somebody.

No they dont.

They only count in marginals.

Or a referenduam.

As much as the hopelessness of our current political parties it is the FPTP that makes so many people uninterested in voting.

IwantToRetire · 02/07/2024 18:25

It would risk the secrecy of the vote if they were.

I have to say i wonder how secret they are, or might be in the future.

From memory as I remember from going to vote, they record my name against a sheet that has all the numbers of the ballot papers.

So at any time, should "the state" or whoever want to look at my record of voting they could do so.

(Assuming the info recorded on the registration sheet is computerised. Otherwise someone could spend their whole life going through a room of filing cabinets and still not track down my history.)

DuesToTheDirt · 02/07/2024 20:04

ColinMyWifeBridgerton · 02/07/2024 17:58

There's no point all writing the same thing, no one is going to read it.

Nothing screams one issue vote like writing "woman = adult human female" on the ballot anyway. Beats me how this can really be the only thing people care about.

I care about many things. But I WILL NOT vote for a party that is promising to throw women under a bus, no matter what their other policies are.

IwantToRetire · 02/07/2024 20:14

Its good to see that even the Guardian has been made to realise that women are no longer willing to be the good little girl who does her duty.

" ... Scores also said they were concerned about rising extremism and political polarisation, misogyny, violence against women and girls, antisemitism and Islamophobia.

About a fifth of respondents said they had either decided to spoil their ballot paper or were considering doing so,

“However, the final straw for me is the issue of women’s rights”

Sharon was one of hundreds of women who shared that sex-based rights for women and girls was a main political concern of theirs this election.

Women from across the country, dozens of them economically disadvantaged or with disabilities, said they would abandon Labour, the Lib Dems or the Greens over this issue and vote either Conservative, Reform or spoil their ballot – particularly women from marginal areas Labour is hoping to gain, such as Lincoln, Darlington, Derbyshire, Warrington North and Truro and Falmouth. ... "

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5110371-looks-like-the-guardian-cant-ignore-sex-vs-gender-any-more

C4 news have just reported that out of voters who haven't decided how to vote 62% of them are women.

I really do think, even if not for the same reason exactly, many more women are no longer prepared to go along with the status quo.

Looks like the Guardian can't ignore sex vs gender any more | Mumsnet

[[https://www.theguardian.com/politics/article/2024/jul/02/this-isnt-a-culture-war-uk-women-feel-politically-homeless https://www.theguardian.com/poli...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5110371-looks-like-the-guardian-cant-ignore-sex-vs-gender-any-more

Binglebong · 02/07/2024 20:40

I thought long and hard about how to phrase this. This is the politest I can manage.

If you have come on this thread to tell people off for choosing to spoil their vote then please find a thread more to your liking and don't post here. We are all adults and we are intelligent enough to make a decision. We do not need your condescension or to be told we are wrong. We are taking part in the democratic process in the way we wish. It's not the way you do and that is fine, we are not telling you that you have to spoil your vote. Stop telling us not to. If there was anyone wavering then there is plenty of information already on this thread about the use of it.

Kindly offer the women (and any men) on this thread the respect we deserve.

Edited for typo.

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Catiette · 02/07/2024 21:05

Beautifully expressed, @Binglebong. Democracy is about freedom at its core: Britannica - "freely elected". It's hardly "free" if a woman were to feel coerced by online peer pressure into voting for a candidate or party that frightens her. And frankly, that's how bad it is for some of us - their policies are frightening to us. Using moral and emotional blackmail to force a choice that makes a voter deeply uncomfortable is... kind of inconsistent with democracy, really?!

Binglebong · 02/07/2024 21:10

Thank you Catiette. It took a long time to reduce the swearing!

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