I've posted a few times under different names.
My daughter has always been a tomboy, youngest with 3 older brothers.
Always worn more boyish clothes and been a little whirlwind.
I was exactly the same as a kid. Were so similar it's crazy.
But when she started high school there were several trans teachers and she got sucked into the ideology.
I found out that her best male friend in school, who she visited a few times outside of school was actually a female. I then found out that several her friends were trans or non binary.
This has been over the last few years but nothing really changed at home, she still wore her brothers clothes and had short hair (same as I did at her age)
She's really struggled the last few years, disclosure of trauma, eating disorder, autism diagnosis.
And then in Dec 2023 I was called into school and was told that she had started to use male pronouns and a male name in school without my consent.
All teachers and pupils were referring to her as 'James' (not actual name) and he and had been doing so for months.
I immediately wrote to the school and told them that I was withdrawing consent for them to do this and the only name they should use is the one that was on her registered birth certificate. And they were only permitted to use female pronouns.
I sat down with my daughter and talked to her about why she was feeling this way. It turns out that she did not thinking that she was a boy but she was just confused about puberty her developing body and she didn't like the way she looked in the mirror.
She was struggling becoming a woman and felt that it would be easier to be a boy and she felt more comfortable with short hair and boy clothes and thought that mean she should be a boy!
I felt this all tied in with her recent diagnosis and the troubles that she'd had previously.
I talk to her about being a woman and what that means and the fact that however hard she tried she could never physically become a male. I told her that she would always be chasing a dream something that is physically impossible and she would never feel good enough.
I showed her photos of women that had had gender reassignment surgeries the scars and the end results.
She also said she was attracted to girls, another marker for gender confusion.
I told her that there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a strong masculine gay female just because she was feeling these things didn't mean that she was a boy.
It's been about 3 months since I told school they were not allowed to refer to my daughter as male and in that time she has said that she wants to grow her hair long and dye it blonde, she has started wearing dresses and makeup again and gone out and bought female underwear for the first time in her teenage years, thongs no less 😂
She has bought several feminist publications to read on the meaning of being a woman and growing up as a woman.
She seems 10 times more happier in the last few months than she has been in the four years before and I am going to update school with these changes and tell them how wrong I feel it is for them to do that to a child, to socially transition without a parents knowledge.
My daughter is autistic and always gets obsessions about things, it's now moved on to something else but something much safer and normal.
The trans ideology that she got mixed up with was detrimental to her mental and physical health.
So if there are other parents that are going through this please be aware that there is light at the end of the tunnel, continue to be factual, continue to be supportive, continue to fight your corner and tell your child that there is no such thing as transitioning to a different sex that they are enough as they are.