"She's my Dad"

[Vebrithien]

Morning all.

Wondering if anyone can help me out, regarding this book, and any known concerns/complaints about it?

A friend has messaged me, knowing my history of challenging DD's school on their TRA resources. She is concerned that her DC's school has been using this book this week, as part of LGBTQ+ History Month. It is being used with year 4 as part of their reading lessons and she is deeply concerned by the message that it gives out. Especially as the school had previously said that they do not explicitly teach gender identity.

So far, I have found that;

The author is trans and CEO of Trans Pride Brighton. So, not politically impartial.

The dad transitions by painting his nails, growing long hair and wearing dresses. So, confirming, rather than challenging gender stereotypes.

The child in the book polices other children's use of pronouns, regard the dad. This raises issues about children not being able to freely speak.

This could also have the knock-on effect of encouraging denying other children's beliefs and making them feel that they are only valued if they validate by using wrong sex pronouns (linked to the definition of emotional abuse in KCSIE, a child is only valued insofar as they are useful to the abuser).

Is there anything else we can raise? The school celebrates LGBTQ+ History Month and LGBTQ+ Pride Month, but not Women's Month, and only one of the two Disability months.

Anyone care to help draft a complaint, or got any experience of this book?

Thank you!

Thanks- ' how to help children of transitioners' also covers this on the cots website. The school absolutely should not be using this book as it it conflicts with legal peotections for cots, is a breach of safeguarding and leads to even more bullying of cots in school and online for not submitting to lies about sex.

I just wanted to add that the co-opting of the child in the story’s duty of caring for all the cats, together with what could, in the child’s mind, be a duty to be dad’s caretaker, is morally wrong. It is not a child’s duty to look after a transitioning man with the care needed for cats and kittens. Year 4 is still too young to see through this emotional blackmail.

Likewise, if the child is so young as to feel their own Teddy would give dad solace in hospital after his operation, the child is too young to be involved at all in this whole transition especially if someone tells this child- who in the book may be a boy - that dad has had his penis amputated.

What is very worrying is that some children are believing trans activist teachers who say that males who wear female clothing change sex/' transwomen are women' - it was the reason the little girl victim in the andrew/amy miller abuse abduction and rape case said she got into his car, and then she was assaulted. But male pattern criminality doesn't change . Many cots know this but other children don't understand. Its a massive safeguarding issue .

@Vebrithien thank you for posting these resources here - a handy reference.

I have a call coming up with the new PSHE teacher and my DS's school, who in a talk on the curriculum stated that there are people who are "neither the male biological sex nor the female biological sex", and also conflated being trans with a sexual orientation.

I like the teacher and support the teaching of PSHE as a general rule, but I fear I may have to quote some of your references above...

Dear @Xiaoxiong

Please do use whatever resources from here that you need.

I also have other threads (No Outsiders, Captured DepHead and Break it down, contacting schools) which also have lots.of references and resources in them.

As far as I am aware, no human has ever been medically recorded as having both testes and ovaries.

People with DSDs (disorders of sexual development) are either one sex or the other.

I admit was almost grudgingly impressed they’re i. doing Black History Month & ii. doing it in October (crack on & do it in January if you’re in the US/another country where it’s appropriate; if you’re in the UK, BHM = October 😠) but then remembered preventing the bar from being a trip hazard isn’t worthy of positive feedback 🤦‍♀️

I work as part of a huge multi-academy trust, and all the school in the MAT also celebrate BHM in October.

I've not heard of it being celebrated in January, locally.

Edited: for typo

Shocking as the children know no different.

School tried this with dds class so 14/15 pshe lesson. Dd said basically “whatevs but girls need single sex spaces”. Other girls all agreed. As did the teacher. Job done.

Keep your home education on this up it’s goes in and they listen to us over school.

Hang on a minute, you what??

It doesn’t happen locally to me either, but where I live has been doing Black History Month since the 1980s 😁

Social media has made me aware of some UK schools learning about MLK Jr (excellent) “because it’s/for Black History Month” (woeful). And not a caveated “in the US” way; nor

Thanks @Vebrithien and I'll let you know how I get on - I feel like I've seen your previous threads as I've on MN since 2010 but got active on FWR when I peaked in 2016 and then doubly peaked in 2019 when I was kicked out of the Lib Dems for questioning Baroness Featherstone's comments about feminists. I never thought I'd be fighting this battle in real life in my own DS's school!! I will search for your threads and take notes so I'm prepared.

Even if there was someone with functional testes and ovaries, that still doesn't mean there is a third sex gamete for humans (or any other mammal) and hence a third sex. Intersex or people with DSDs are not a third sex!