To my trans child..

[Moomoominla]

Just to say hi to everyone who was so helpful before.thinking of you all and missing the thread actually! hoping everyone is getting somewhere positive.
Happy Christmas.

Best wishes to you too, hoping 2024 is positive for you and all MNers.;

Hi moo. Tough time of year you can always pm me x

Thanks both! You’ve interpreted my secret wobble correctly!
just needed to kno there’s someone out there x

Hi Moo, have been thinking of you. Sending love and 🤞that 2024 is a good year for you all xx

Hey, moo, good to see you. Hope you're okay. We're all here for you any time you need it. x

I didn't post on your original threads moo but I read them. I hope you are ok and wishing you all strength and love.

💐

Wishing you and your a fmily a peaceful Christmas and a bright New Year.

Sending love, peace and good mental health to you all

Gosh you are all wonderful, thank you so much! Was feeling, well, the same as a lot of parents on here I suspect.
🍹🍸🍹🍷🍤🍥🍱🍣mini Christmas party for us.

Just seen this thread.
Sending love and thinking of you and your family.
Here's a you, and to all the other parents that are navigating an incredibly difficult path. Merry Christmas! You've got this 💪🥂💐🌲🎁⛄🔔

Ghost hug @Moomoominla you don't feel it but you know it's there.

Love to all the smashing women of mumsnet, whether your kids are with you, or you're far apart literally and/or metaphorically, love to you all and all those you hold in your hearts.

New here, but loving this thread for those of us in the same boat. Merry Christmas and thank God for Wine! 🎄🍷

Aww agree with you therebusymummy
‘Love to all the smashing women of mumsnet, whether your kids are with you, or you're far apart literally and/or metaphorically, love to you all and all those you hold in your hearts.’
ditto this 👍

Moo!! So good to hear from you! Wising you a merry Christmas

Gosh and you! 6.35, you must be excited😀

I did more reading than posting but merry Christmas Moo! Keep hanging in there.

We had extended family Christmas eve tree lighting/pressies yesterday with the horde including my just-adult trans identified niece who's in outpatient psychiatric treatment currently. Family keeping together at the cost of all keeping the pretense. I'm biting my tongue and worrying about the sibs.

Hope your DS is well, he sounds like a good kid.

Hi grumpypanda I’m pretty sure you mentioned your story at some time. I hope your Christmas was ok, that sounds really difficult.
It puts a ridiculous amount of strain onto all members of the family, I hope your niece gets sorted, poor thing.
Ours is now no contact, but from what I can glean she has got such the wrong idea of our views. Of course there is no chance of debate.
I thought to send a card but that became fraught with the potential for it to be misread and deemed hateful. And, she said no contact. I also remember a pp. who couldn’t pass on news about a friend who had died because..no contact.-so insane. If you are reading this, massive hugs.
Happy twixtmas all! So wonderful to hear from everyone. Hope everyone had a restorative Christmas, and are Enjoying the last of the quality street before …new year and diets. 😀

You may have thought of this already @Moomoominla but could you write your card and keep hold of it for the future, to give to her when there is an opportunity to do so? Birthday cards too.

I remember one poster in your original thread saying that there was a period where their trans identified child went "no contact" but that this eventually came to an end. You have no way of knowing the future but it may be cathartic to get your thoughts down in this way anyway.

What a wonderful idea, thank you.
i will.
that was such an amazing thread, everyone was so generous with their thoughts and shared experiences. Mumsnet at its best.

All best wishes to you, Moo, and I hope your DH has stopped bullying you

Bonfire that’s such a lovely, positive idea, and in the future, a message which says clearly ‘we never forgot about you, we never gave up on you’
❤️

That’s lovely hag and bonfire and tallisker, so very nice to see familiar faces.
good news on that front tallisker DH was so so stressed and worried. he is seeing an amazing counselor and we are beginning to rebuild.

That is good news, moo, that your Dh is finding a way through. I was actually dreading Christmas, but we did things a bit differently and it was ok. I hate being estranged from my child, it’s always going to be an open wound, but I can nurture and cherish the relationships I have.