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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

"Guys, gals, non-binary pals, you've got to FEEL YOURSELF and if in doubt get it checked out"

101 replies

NotTheOnePercent · 26/10/2023 21:50

Guess which cancer this refers to.

Wrong answers only.

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localnotail · 27/10/2023 10:05

I think its kind of silly and probably meant to be funny - so I would say a touch inappropriate for what its trying to convey. I would not see it as something particularly awful, just bad taste maybe.

watcherintherye · 27/10/2023 10:10

Both sexes can get breast cancer, so check for lumps regularly" - too boring and straightforward?

No, sensible. But you wouldn’t get away with ‘both sexes! Too GC…
Maybe ‘all genders’.?

seXX · 27/10/2023 10:14

Lavender14 · 27/10/2023 01:02

I do think it's hard to please everyone though. I've seen a lot of campaigns aimed directly at women recently, very clear including images of how to check yourself. I've also seen the same but using 'chest' instead of breast and more gender neutral language and people on here were up in arms that women had been left out. Which I do understand but I think you need different approaches for different sections of society and a range of advertising. So in this particular advert the ideal scenario to me would be to talk about checking your chest or breast as a way to make the message more direct. But then I guess that could still trigger gender dysphoria if people felt that breast was being applied interchangeably when they feel it shouldn't be. It's a bit of a mine field really so I think they've tread carefully. In a way it kind of makes me think of checking all bits, even though it's breast cancer specific in this instance. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing if it encourages people to pay attention to their bodies as a whole.

" ideal scenario to me would be to talk about checking your chest or breast as a way to make the message more direct. "

That wouldn't make it direct as it's about breast cancer; chest and breast mean different things. Words have meanings.

seXX · 27/10/2023 10:16

Flickersy · 27/10/2023 08:21

Really? You actually had your head in the toilet this morning because of some bad words on the internet?

Are you saying bad words on the internet can't effect people?! So they can't cause literal violence? Good to know

Lavender14 · 27/10/2023 10:17

seXX · 27/10/2023 10:14

" ideal scenario to me would be to talk about checking your chest or breast as a way to make the message more direct. "

That wouldn't make it direct as it's about breast cancer; chest and breast mean different things. Words have meanings.

Of course they do, but if you want a message to be accessible to people who don't identify as female who may still experience breast cancer then you need to choose words that they can also engage with.

SinnerBoy · 27/10/2023 10:30

They may not "identify" as female, but if they are female, they'll certainly know it.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/10/2023 10:31

Perhaps they should have started the message with "now then, now then"

rmc2001 · 27/10/2023 10:45

As a 22 year old, I had no idea ‘guys and gals’ was a Jimmy Saville phrase.
To me’ Guys, gals and nb pals” is a very common phrase, especially on the internet.
More than likely this was written by someone too young to know the Jimmy Saville connotation.

AlisonDonut · 27/10/2023 10:51

Flickersy · 27/10/2023 08:21

Really? You actually had your head in the toilet this morning because of some bad words on the internet?

It isn't your fault you don't understand the connotations of this.

You might want to educate yourself.

Flickersy · 27/10/2023 11:25

seXX · 27/10/2023 10:16

Are you saying bad words on the internet can't effect people?! So they can't cause literal violence? Good to know

You know they can't cause literal violence. Complaining that bad words on the internet make you feel sick is usually out of the TRA playbook, not the GC one.

RethinkingLife · 27/10/2023 16:07

NotTheOnePercent · 26/10/2023 23:45

The guilty party is indeed a woman. 🙄

Ah, the sort of woman who turns to transwomen in a menopause FB group for the perfect insight in how to accessorise?

popebishop · 27/10/2023 16:23

watcherintherye · 27/10/2023 10:10

Both sexes can get breast cancer, so check for lumps regularly" - too boring and straightforward?

No, sensible. But you wouldn’t get away with ‘both sexes! Too GC…
Maybe ‘all genders’.?

Ah yes, I need to say "Both rational and emotional people can get breast cancer..."

dapsnotplimsolls · 27/10/2023 16:36

Arrestedforit · 26/10/2023 23:07

Ridiculous and yanbu,
And when I hear ‘guys and gals’ I immediately think of Jimmy Saville as that was his catch phrase,

I read the title with his voice in my head.

WoollyBat · 27/10/2023 16:42

I read the title with his voice in my head.

Yes me too. And you just know if JS was still with us, he WOULD say "non-binary pals" as well.

SirChenjins · 27/10/2023 16:43

If you’re dressed in a dress then best check your breast

Given that’s what is required to be a woman these days that should cover all eventualities.

faffadoodledo · 27/10/2023 16:46

rmc2001 · 27/10/2023 10:45

As a 22 year old, I had no idea ‘guys and gals’ was a Jimmy Saville phrase.
To me’ Guys, gals and nb pals” is a very common phrase, especially on the internet.
More than likely this was written by someone too young to know the Jimmy Saville connotation.

I think this is true. My mind went straight to Saville. But I'm 57. However doesn't this kind stuff through a process where it's checked? Itmay have been written by someone their twenties. But surely it had to get signed off?
The phrasegivesme the creeps

Mummy08m · 27/10/2023 18:44

rmc2001 · 27/10/2023 10:45

As a 22 year old, I had no idea ‘guys and gals’ was a Jimmy Saville phrase.
To me’ Guys, gals and nb pals” is a very common phrase, especially on the internet.
More than likely this was written by someone too young to know the Jimmy Saville connotation.

Me too but you and I aren't the target audience. It's older women who are most at risk of breast cancer- I believe the risk increases with age.

BCCoach · 27/10/2023 18:50

I can’t imagine how terminally dim someone would have to be to think using the phrase “guys and gals” in any marketing campaign, let alone a breast cancer awareness one.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 27/10/2023 19:02

Infinitely better than Savile, I automatically hear "You've got to feel yourself" in the voice of John Barnes doing his rap in that song by the England men's football team several decades ago!

Maybe they could put together a whole load of new breast-checking lyrics to the rap and then see if John is available to perform it; but I've seen him on TV discussion shows more recently, and he strikes me as having far more sense than to entertain the NB stuff.

I do think it's a valid aim to publicise to men the fact that they too can get breast cancer, albeit in much smaller numbers - not that knowing it's very rare in men must help if you are a man with breast cancer.

I recall reading about a couple of male sufferers who found the additional challenges hard, such as nobody believing them - and even female patients in the clinics assuming they were up to no good/perverts trying to muscle in, when they were just there for treatment and support just like everybody else.

Lavender14 · 27/10/2023 19:52

Mummy08m · 27/10/2023 18:44

Me too but you and I aren't the target audience. It's older women who are most at risk of breast cancer- I believe the risk increases with age.

I don't think that's fair actually, there's a lot of really solid advertising targeted at older women. There's very little targeted at younger women but we should still be checking anyway. I know a number of friends who've had breast cancer when they were late 20s early 30s. The earlier someone gets into the routine of checking, the better and the more likely it is they'll be able to identify something out of place. So I wouldn't assume this is targeted at older women at all.

FictionalCharacter · 27/10/2023 20:35

Arrestedforit · 26/10/2023 23:07

Ridiculous and yanbu,
And when I hear ‘guys and gals’ I immediately think of Jimmy Saville as that was his catch phrase,

Same. “How’s about that then guys and gals? <yodel>”. Makes me feel queasy.
I guess a lot of younger people don’t know.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 27/10/2023 21:49

Lavender14 · 27/10/2023 10:17

Of course they do, but if you want a message to be accessible to people who don't identify as female who may still experience breast cancer then you need to choose words that they can also engage with.

Men get breast cancer so transmen should be fine with it

nepeta · 27/10/2023 23:33

The lifetime rates of breast cancer in the US (most likely similar in the UK) are one in eight for women (vulva types) and one in 833 for men (penis types). So the female risk is 100 times the male risk.

Lumping everyone together into the same prevention/self-screening category hides that. But the nonbinary pals category actually consists of some (more than half, it seems) who face the 1 in 8 risk and some who face the 1 in 833 risk.

So doing the palpating of breasts is much more important for those who are female, though everyone should be aware of how their bodies feel and function normally so that they can spot differences which might mean that medical attention is needed.

I don't think the all-together-now type of inclusiveness is the best way of discussing something with such great differences in incidence, especially if it makes understanding the real risks harder for some groups.

What this shows to me, yet again, is that we need to keep terms for people of the two sexes in areas where sex matters a lot (medicine, fighting sex-based oppression, sexual violence statistics).

asterel · 28/10/2023 01:45

Arrestedforit · 26/10/2023 23:07

Ridiculous and yanbu,
And when I hear ‘guys and gals’ I immediately think of Jimmy Saville as that was his catch phrase,

Yes!!! When I was a primary school child, like age 7 or so, I used to get the school bus home, and a popular bus ad of the time was one with a grinning Jimmy Saville and the caption: “Senior gals and guys! Falls can kill, hold tight!”

I remember staring at this ad during hours and hours of bus journeys, and trying to work out a) what it meant, and b) why I found the picture of Saville so unpleasant and creepy.

Guys, gals and non-binary pals has exactly the same creepy energy. Ugh!

nothingcomestonothing · 28/10/2023 09:33

SabrinaThwaite · 27/10/2023 07:46

When will they start applying this “inclusive” language to campaigns around male cancers like testicular cancer?

They won’t, will they?

Nope

"Guys, gals, non-binary pals, you've got to FEEL YOURSELF and if in doubt get it checked out"