F*****g pronouns

[Gettingbysomehow]

I've avoided it for years because it's rubbish but have now been told I put my pronouns on my email or else.
So I've put us/we and when asked what that was all about I said I've always felt like two people and want to be addressed as such.
Apparently I am taking the piss.
I'm not sure it's me taking the piss and if I want to be two people I will be. I'm 61 and in my opinion know my own mind.
It's all such a ridiculous farce anyway.

Yes and don't forget Hate Speech!

I laugh every time I see the he/she/whatever beside people’s names. I can’t believe it’s actually taken seriously… Especially in work!

Another thought

I am assuming you are female and they want you to put she/ her. If you put he/him how do you think they would react?

Well that's the first time I've heard the Yogyakarta principles being spoken of in a positive light!

Or she could say it's her belief not to have pronouns and it's a legitimate belief for which she must not experience discrimination, under the Equality Act 2010, and see what HR makes of that.

It sounds like you are taking the piss IMO

If you don't like your job you're free to give notice you know?

But us/we has been accepted by some institutions as pronouns that can be used

So why is it okay for some, but not okay for 60 year old women to use them?

It's not ok to take the piss out of the person you work for.

If you want to take the piss you can take a P45 too

It’s offensive to make employers declare allegiance to a religion they don’t believe in.

*Employees

for the reasons that others have said, OP, this is not in the ballpark of an ‘appropriate request’ by your employer to force everyone to add pronouns visibly and publicly. It’s an unreasonable ask even on its own logic if they look at Yogyakarta . Look up the Pronouns are Rohypnol article.

Does not sound legal

You still haven't explained why it's okay for a trans person to use us/we, but not a woman

That's sounds a bit discriminatory tbh and like you, and the manager, are making assumptions about the OPs gender based on the fact she looks like a woman in her 60s (sorry OP you could look like a woman in her 40s for all I know...)

Refuse and say you do not want to expressly state you are female (if you are) due to data privacy

https://sex-matters.org/posts/updates/pronouns/

My dh found a he/him on his work profile and does not remember ever declaring this. What's the point if you don't even ask? His name is clearly a common masculine one, like Tom.

We were both briefly shocked (well I was, he just laughed) but it's a great company in other ways for genuinely helpful policies like extended paternity leave.

It won't have been thought through very hard. Eventually the social consensus will be that its silly and then they'll be removed again, again without most people thinking hard about it

Why in earth should the OP be forced out of her job because she doesn't believe in gender bollocks? Charming.

You're conflating 'I'm not subscribing to gender bollocks' and 'I don't like my job'. Don't be so silly.

OP, lots of sound advice here. Do not go down the route - you wouldn't put eg 'white' or 'black' or 'non Christian' at the end of your signature, your gender (if indeed you subscribe to the idea of gender) is irrelevant here too.

Put this......

I now identify as a Donkey.

My pronouns are he/haw

I agree with this.

I also object vociferously to compliance with this ideology. But cheeky game-playing gets us nowhere.

You have to respect that these people at work, pressuring you to do this, are usually not diehard TRAs who hate Glinner and Germaine Greer. 95% they're just well-meaning bumblers, generally intelligent people who haven't looked into this thoroughly and for whom this isn't a big part of their job but just a quick tick box exercise.

Childish game playing won't win over these well meaning bumblers. They won't understand the nuance behind it, because they lack all the context.
Game playing won't win over the diehard TRAs - very little will.
Game playing also won't endear you to your fellow GCs at work, many of whom might be serious mature-ish women.

So, it wins no one over.

My preferred strategy is to decline, either silently or with calm and honest reasoning and hope that some of the reasonable bumblers might think again.

But I'm at an advantageous position by being an experienced teacher in a very shortage subject and they won't want to lose me.

If I wasn't, I'd resist complying (silently) for as long as possible and hope that they simply forget to chase me about it - a strategy that's often worked for me in other matters

I just spit my tea out!
Absolutely brilliant and I'm stealing this.

The key thing here is that this is probably being led by a busy and stressed person who has a million and one other things to deal with, but has had it imposed on them from above, and 100% compliance is probably one of their targets. The likelihood of them being a TRA ideologue is absolutely tiny, and they probably view it as morally equivalent to stating Mr/Ms etc.

Just ask yourself whether you really want to die on this hill, and whether it's worth making a big deal out of it to people who are 99.9% likely to have good intentions, and who don't understand how or why it's a giant can of worms to some people.

Workplaces involve a lot of compromises to function smoothly. I'm not a fan of this stuff at all, but I've had far bigger moral and ethical dilemmas to deal with at work than this.

I identify as Apathetic when asked. When someone is “apathetic,” they’re basically choosing the “don’t know/don’t care” option. It’s not a bad thing or a good thing. It’s that feeling Taylor Swift sang about when she said she forgot that you existed. No concern, no worry, no interest. The IDGAF.

Yep, lay it on thick.

They started this nonsense.

So she has to become a lemming?