Refusing to fund a spouse or partner’s gender transition could be domestic abuse says CPS

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Spouses who refuse to fund their partner’s gender surgery may be domestic abusers, the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) says in new guidance.

The CPS has listed nine types of behaviour which could amount to abuse of trans or non-binary people by their partners or members of their family.

These include “withholding money for transitioning,” which would include either <a class="break-all" href="https://archive.ph/o/JAegv/www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2021/06/20/trans-widows-fear-trapped-loveless-marriages-gender-law-changes/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">spouse refusing to pay for gender surgery, counselling or other treatment in a way that amounted to coercive control or abuse.

Other behaviours could be “criticising the victim for not being ‘a real man/woman’ if they have not undergone reassignment surgery,” or “threatening or sharing pre-transition images,” or refusing to use their preferred name or pronoun.

The CPS, however, said the guidance was designed for prosecutors to handle trans and non-binary people who could “experience domestic abuse regardless of the gender identity of either person.”

Part of a longer Telegraph article at https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2023/07/07/refusing-fund-spouse-partners-transition-domestic-abuse-cps/

It is available via https://archive.ph

What on earth are they playing at, they don't just get to make up the rules.
This is beyond the pale

It's quite late and I thought I wouldn't comment until I read it tomorrow and had got some sleep.

But my first thought was would it be considered abuse if, for example, a woman said she couldn't feel properly female unless she had breast implants, and her partner said that's up to you but I wont be contributing financially.

The extent to which not just trans people, but institutions, are saying you MUST not question are thinking. If we say this is what is right, you cannot every say it is wrong. And if you do you are transphobic.

This is fucking nuts - just how special are these people?

The whole idea is a disgrace and ignorant of an entire area of domestic abuse that TransWidows have fought to educate the public about. There’s also a discussion about this issue here, if you’re interested in reading more:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4843625-domestic-abuse-according-to-the-cps-includes

I think refusing to give your partner equal access to family money is abusive regardless of what they intend to spend it on (discounting anything illegal).

Surely the answer in this situation is to break up and split your assets 🤷‍♀️.

But it’s not, in any legal or rational sense. Couples do separate finances all the time and it’s not abuse!! Refusing to hand over some of your finances for something like breast implants would never ever get up as an abuse charge.

Financial abuse is rather different to not wanting your hard earn money spunked up the wall (literally) on cosmetic surgery.

Couples come to all sorts of financial arrangements from pooling all money to separate bank accounts and splitting bills by various percentages according to earnings.

It's not a state matter.

Certainly encourages people to immediately separate and freeze assets and file for divorce the minute someone mentions thinking they're trans though.

My missus refuses to give me money to go on the gargle 🍻 which is a major part of my identity 😭