Name change for this. I'm a long-term poster. Support wren. Bundles. Have planted plenty of carrots in plenty of gardens. But I don't want this linked with my regular identity.
I found out this afternoon that one of my best friends has been arrested for downloading obscene images of children. For clarity, there is no dispute that he's guilty.
The images are of the worst sort.
I've been friends with him for 20 years. Changed around him. Shared a dorm with him. He supported me through a really messy breakup. I would have said - until 48 hours ago - he was one of the good guys. One of the kindest men I know.
Turns out not.
I thought about where to post, but figured this particular bit of mumsnet - filled as it is with fierce, powerful, empathic women - was probably the best bet. Plus, it's relevant. Until two days ago I'd have had no issue sharing a changing room with him. After all, he was one of the good guys. NAMALT.
Except it turns out that my best mate was like that. He, as it happens, had an enhanced DBS. Proven safe. If that, plus 20 years of friendship, isn't enough to pick out a wrong 'un, then the only safe option is to keep all men out of women's spaces.
Now and forever.
I literally have no clue where I go from here.