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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What are UK schools teaching?

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namechange10022002 · 23/01/2023 16:42

Just curious to hear what, if anything, your children have been taught about the trans issue? (At either primary or secondary school).

My own kids will be starting to primary school soon and I just want to get an idea of how much exposure to this topic they might receive.

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tinkerella1 · 24/01/2023 11:43

@Grammarnut apparently it was getting too "heated"
You know, parents getting annoyed when they realised someone who believes in multiple genders and has no discernable training in PSHE was coming into school to show off their joy at having mastectomy and testosterone use. And they have social media links to Mermaids etc so if your child follow them they will have the algorithmic fun of getting into a dark rabbit hole like so many others. I could go on but it will probably get this thread deleted.

Grammarnut · 24/01/2023 12:05

tinkerella1
Thanks. I had a look at Jude online and read about a school - Mill Hill? - so guessed this might be the case. Thanks for confirming. It should be perfectly possible to check up on speakers in schools and give useful links without getting deleted here! I am 🙁

ScrollingLeaves · 24/01/2023 12:31

PaterPower · Today 11:07
@rabbitwoman - what was the result of your counter grievance? Or is it all still ongoing?

For those teachers on the thread saying they don’t (or their school doesn’t) teach the whole pink brain / genderbread BS, are you aware of any schools local to you that do?

Watch out for them teaching things covertly.

Look how laden with gender identity ideology these primary school resources from “Jigsaw” are.

The guidance notes they say are based WHO all but says we have a sex but we also have a ‘gender identity’. Then they go on to show they base that on stereotypes.

What are UK schools teaching?
What are UK schools teaching?
bignosebignose · 24/01/2023 12:59

thirdistheonewiththehairychest · 23/01/2023 17:59

My friend's daughter (Year 9 I think) was recently given an assignment by her French teacher in which she had to write an essay that began with the phrase "I find JKR's views on feminism troubling because..."

In her answer, the girl argued the other side of the argument and in the conversation that resulted with her French teacher, the teacher told her student that the reason she had gone into teaching was so that she could educate kids about gender identity. She's a French teacher.

This stuff is pervasive in schools.

I don't think I could let that go without speaking to the school and expressing my concern that one of my child's teachers seems to have made a mistake in her application for a job in the Gender Studies department, which (presumably) doesn't exist in our school and has ended up accidentally being appointed to teach French.

bignosebignose · 24/01/2023 13:01

IamAporcupine · 24/01/2023 10:52

@secretlyscientific, @InsertSomethingMotivationalHere, @Tinysoxxx
Thank you Flowers

My DS is in Y6 and his middle school recently sent a PSHE survey, asking amongst other things, if we thought all children should be taught 'diversity, such as homosexuality and gender issues'. Agree/disagree, but at least there was a followed up question to ellaborate, which I did. I might be being too optimistic here but I thought it was good that they at least asked!

On the other hand, I learnt yesterday that there is a now a 'LGBTQ+ ally' club.

We are lucky that our DS is very rational and loves science and facts. For personal reasons, he is very aware of sex stereotypes, which I think really helps. He rolls his eyes at the 'there are 72 genders' that some of the (almost exclusively) girls spout.
He's already been called homophobic by one of them for saying there are two sexes.

We are lucky that our DS is very rational and loves science and facts. For personal reasons, he is very aware of sex stereotypes, which I think really helps. He rolls his eyes at the 'there are 72 genders' that some of the (almost exclusively) girls spout.

He's already been called homophobic by one of them for saying there are two sexes.

To which he replied "what do you think homosexual means?"?

IamAporcupine · 24/01/2023 13:14

MrsOvertonsWindow · 24/01/2023 11:27

@IamAporcupine
If I discovered that there was an LGBTQ+ ally group in my child's school I'd ask some very pointed questions. Parents should NOT be accepting these groups in schools, certainly not in primary schools but even in secondary, this is way outside a school's remit.
Questions worth asking :
What is the relevant pastoral / learning data from the school that informs setting up this group?
What is the purpose of these meetings?
What age groups attend, any 4 - 11 year olds?
Is parental consent sought before attendance?
How is the content of these meetings recorded and evaluated?
What management oversight / accountability is there for the group?
How do the adults ensure that discussions are age appropriate about sexual identity, gender identity & sexual relationships?
Are the discussions planned, is there an agreed curriculum?
What safeguarding measures are in place?
The SRE guidelines have clear guidance about age appropriateness and specific advice about not telling children they might be born in the wrong body? How does this group operate within these guidelines?
What days are the heterosexual allyship, the disability allyship, the BAME allyship and the (choose specific religion) allyship meetings held?
How are the school protecting the adults involved from allegations of grooming / sexual coercion when holding open ended discussions about sex / sexual identity and gender identity with such young children?

Parents really have to speak out and challenge this stuff.

Thanks @MrsOvertonsWindow I must admit it did take me by surprise, but you are absolutely right, it should not be left unchallenged. Thanks for the suggested questions.

I have now looked in the school pages - there is absolutely no information about this new club. No enrolment/consent either.
Can they argue that this is the case because of 'safe spaces' and 'homophobic families' etc etc?

I've found the RSE policy which mentions gender identity and diversity briefly in a long list of topics, but seemed more centered around biological facts, such as puberty and reproduction and safe relationships. For Y7/Y8 includes consent, conception, contraception, abuse, pornography, body image and FGM. I was positively surprised, but not sure if this is standard or not?

Elsanore · 24/01/2023 13:23

ScrollingLeaves · 23/01/2023 23:06

Elsanore · Today 21:24
There was a thread on here the other day about No Outsiders, a bought in PHSCE scheme that is in use in primaries and wrongly states "gender" instead of sex as a protected characteristic under the equalities act.

My DP had mentioned his school uses No Outsiders so after I told him about them attempting to delete 'sex' he raised it with the headteacher. She said she'd already had complaints about that and at their school they have got rid of gender and corrected it back to sex! yay! And also explained to the kids why.

Was it the thread with this title,@Elsanore

Please help! Gender not sex on a school 'protected characteristics' poster, just spoken to the Head!

Yes I think so @ScrollingLeaves
I can't find it now

barneshome · 24/01/2023 13:26

Mine are taught science and math and English
Trans is mot an issue it will not affect their ability to geta good job
They can make their own minds up about that as they get older

BethDuttonsTwin · 24/01/2023 13:31

Most schools are soaked in it. I used to email in but dd was noticing coldness from staff towards her so I stopped. Mermaids posters up, pronouns in signatures, trans and other political identity ideology being taught/stated as fact with no attempt to “some people think…” and provide balance. I unpick it all at home, both dc know it’s all BS. What else can we do? Your children suffer if you don’t go along with it.

Elsanore · 24/01/2023 13:32

@ScrollingLeaves found the other thread and mentioned the good outcome at DP's school. Thank you

IamAporcupine · 24/01/2023 13:38

@bignosebignose
To which he replied "what do you think homosexual means?"?

Ha! He was certainly confused and could not understand how this girl had reached that conclusion! We had a long chat afterwards. He goes from not bothering about all this, to being rather obsessed about what it really means.

Tinysoxxx · 24/01/2023 14:05

barneshome · 24/01/2023 13:26

Mine are taught science and math and English
Trans is mot an issue it will not affect their ability to geta good job
They can make their own minds up about that as they get older

It is an issue because the pupils (if not your children, then their peers) are interacting with people off the internet. There are lots of older men who are very engaged in trans issues. In my experience you have groups of impressionable young teenage girls in the same chats as these men. These two distinct groups chatting about sex and gender and how they are the brave progressive ones and parents don’t know anything.
It is also an issue about getting a job if they are seen as ‘not an ally’. Employment issues can stem from this.
By the times trans boys and girls are older, they’ll have physical and mental changes (eg bones, voice, breasts and brains) which are not reversible. So ‘making your mind up’ when you’re older is too late.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 24/01/2023 15:10

IamAporcupine · 24/01/2023 13:14

Thanks @MrsOvertonsWindow I must admit it did take me by surprise, but you are absolutely right, it should not be left unchallenged. Thanks for the suggested questions.

I have now looked in the school pages - there is absolutely no information about this new club. No enrolment/consent either.
Can they argue that this is the case because of 'safe spaces' and 'homophobic families' etc etc?

I've found the RSE policy which mentions gender identity and diversity briefly in a long list of topics, but seemed more centered around biological facts, such as puberty and reproduction and safe relationships. For Y7/Y8 includes consent, conception, contraception, abuse, pornography, body image and FGM. I was positively surprised, but not sure if this is standard or not?

The likelihood is that this is being run by a young teacher with minimal safeguarding knowledge and life skills and a desire for social justice who sees this group as the most oppressed ever.
Usually when you ask schools why they are running the group and ask them to clarify issues about accountability, safeguarding, parental consent etc there's a dawning realisation of what they've inadvertently got themselves into - and a panic about how they can impose structure and accountability without being called bigots by younger staff.
Stonewall have a lot to answer for - not only for systematically turning schools and workplaces into environments that are hostile to women and girls, but for encouraging younger staff to run these groups for children of varying ages that they don't have the skills, knowledge or experience to manage. Some of them are going to find out the hard way when children start disclosing the nature of some of the discussions that are being had in these groups and they'll be held accountable.

MintJulia · 24/01/2023 15:30

My 14yo ds came home and told me that trans women are women, according to the school.

I showed him a picture of the trans US swimmer, now identifying as female, and asked my ds if he thought they were a man or a woman.

DS immediately said 'man'.

So I told him that sometimes teaching can be politically influenced (for good or bad), but the most important thing about education is that it should always enable him to look at the individual facts of each case, and then make up his own mind.

Thankfully he is intelligent and mature enough to understand that it is ok to hold differing views without arguing about them.

IamAporcupine · 24/01/2023 16:02

MrsOvertonsWindow · 24/01/2023 15:10

The likelihood is that this is being run by a young teacher with minimal safeguarding knowledge and life skills and a desire for social justice who sees this group as the most oppressed ever.
Usually when you ask schools why they are running the group and ask them to clarify issues about accountability, safeguarding, parental consent etc there's a dawning realisation of what they've inadvertently got themselves into - and a panic about how they can impose structure and accountability without being called bigots by younger staff.
Stonewall have a lot to answer for - not only for systematically turning schools and workplaces into environments that are hostile to women and girls, but for encouraging younger staff to run these groups for children of varying ages that they don't have the skills, knowledge or experience to manage. Some of them are going to find out the hard way when children start disclosing the nature of some of the discussions that are being had in these groups and they'll be held accountable.

You are right, it's run by two young teachers, one of them a male whith he/him in his email signature.

Delphinium20 · 24/01/2023 16:52

bigbillybobhowler · 23/01/2023 18:29

Currently suspended from my school job for saying biology ie sex is real 🤷🏻‍♀️ nothing offensive, just that. Unfortunately said it in-front of a non binary trans man.

You mean a female Red Guard member?

Vebrithien · 24/01/2023 19:04

Elsanore · 24/01/2023 13:23

Yes I think so @ScrollingLeaves
I can't find it now

Waves!!

That was my thread, I'll see if I can link it.

No real update, nothing from the DepHead. Will be asking for help with my email to her...

dcbc1234 · 24/01/2023 19:10

bigbillybobhowler · 23/01/2023 18:54

Gross misconduct I think. It's terrible but I know I'm not doing anything wrong in speaking the truth.

Sorry to hear this. The Free Speech Union may be willing to defend you, as I expect your actual teaching Union will be useless and captured. freespeechunion.org/

Vebrithien · 24/01/2023 19:12

Chem/bio teacher here.

Revision I prepared for my GCSE biology class today, asked about the chromosomes pairs that make a human male and human female.

I answer their questions as truthfully as possible, within the remit of their age and my job.

I tell them, we are members of the chordata Mammalia. Vertebrate mammals. No mammal has ever changed sex. Humans cannot change sex.

Vebrithien · 24/01/2023 19:13

Should say "vertebrates, mammals."

bigbillybobhowler · 24/01/2023 19:15

Thank you to all that have mentioned me with advice and a support/links!

Johnduttonsbuttocks · 24/01/2023 19:23

My friend's daughter (Year 9 I think) was recently given an assignment by her French teacher in which she had to write an essay that began with the phrase "I find JKR's views on feminism troubling because..."

I am utterly flabbergasted by this. Talk about an appalling overstep.

Delphinium20 · 24/01/2023 19:27

Johnduttonsbuttocks · 24/01/2023 19:23

My friend's daughter (Year 9 I think) was recently given an assignment by her French teacher in which she had to write an essay that began with the phrase "I find JKR's views on feminism troubling because..."

I am utterly flabbergasted by this. Talk about an appalling overstep.

Agree.

I would hope a student could have the bravery to write it like this, ""I find JKR's views on feminism troubling because they are reasonable views, very compassionate and center women, just like feminism proposes to do, yet some people can't understand nor do they bother to do their homework on what exactly JKRowling said. I will show her essay here and explain how it relates to feminism"

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