Please help me understand. He/Him pronouns but female presenting?

[TraceyTheHamster]

Hello all,

I'm going to preference this by saying I’m about to go into work so might not be able to reply for a while.

Recently found out that DD wants to be known by a male name, use male pronouns but is still presenting very female. I’m not trying to say that there is a right or wrong way to look female at all (god now I’ve typed it, it sounds awful)… but what I mean is there’s no attempt to look like a male?

Two of DDs friends are the same. New male names, he/him pronouns but no change in how they present… leggings, high heels make up…

Again - now I’ve typed it, it looks awful! I promise im not an old hag who thinks woman must wear dresses and men can’t, but im trying to be supportive and don’t understand how this doesn’t trigger their dysphoria?

please help? Weve just found out she’s been socially transitioned at school for about two months. She’s 16.

I just don’t know where to go from here?

There's a girl at my children's school that says in her tumblr (or Instagram, not sure) bio "pronouns: she/her, but in a fun, non-binary way". She posts TikTok videos where she rants about those evil cis-het bitches with their privilege oppressing people like her. It's beyond tedious. Easier to also have special pronouns rather than being the target of these rants.

That’s genius.

we should all try that on our next work related Zoom call

’She/Her but in a fun, non-middle aged LGBTQIA2S++ way’

Would love someone who subscribes to the genderbreadesque trinity of sex, gender expression and gender identity, all valid but different, explain why it is that the spaces, opportunities, services and rights that were set up to be segregated by sex to provide protection and empowerment for women in a sexist society suddenly have to be segregated by gender identity instead?

Given that unlike sex and gender expression, gender identities have no agreed common features and cannot be perceived from the outside, and that sexism is fundamentally about how others perceive you, surely of the three gender identity should matter least to what impacts ones life in a sexist society.