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Trailer for upcoming Trans Widows film by Vaishnavi Sundar

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TinselAngel · 25/10/2022 15:08

The trailer for "Behind the Looking Glass" which is the film the wonderful feminist film maker Vaishnavi Sundar, is currently making about Trans Widows is now on YouTube and it's stunning.

I was fortunate enough to speak at Vaishnavi's event to launch it at FILIA. It's very exciting that Trans Widows have made this much progress in begin heard.

There's a link at the end for helping Vaishnavi with any related gardening.

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IcakethereforeIam · 25/10/2022 15:28

Oh my God, @TinselAngel this alone has brought me close to tears. I don't know the extent of your involvement in this but I know you as a voice and a support for these amazing women.

I hope i can say you should feel proud.

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TinselAngel · 25/10/2022 15:36

IcakethereforeIam · 25/10/2022 15:28

Oh my God, @TinselAngel this alone has brought me close to tears. I don't know the extent of your involvement in this but I know you as a voice and a support for these amazing women.

I hope i can say you should feel proud.

I love that the only bit that is me is me saying "I want women to be angry"!

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dragoncheeselady · 25/10/2022 15:41

That looks absolutely amazing @TinselAngel , A must watch for all women and feminist groups. Especially those that continue to platform AGP men at the expense of transwidows

Melroses · 25/10/2022 15:43

The voice of the child of a transitioner was very poignant.

This looks like it is going to be a beautifully produced film and I can't wait for it to be out.

purpleboy · 25/10/2022 15:51

This is so moving. Such an important topic that needs more recognition.

Loved meeting you at FiLiA BTW 💜

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TinselAngel · 25/10/2022 15:54

What with this, and discovering that Trans Widows Voices website is quoted in Sheila Jeffreys new book, it's been an exciting weekend!

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Unseelie · 25/10/2022 15:57

Great trailer. “Your dad has fallen in love with himself.” Sums up so much, so well.

SidewaysOtter · 25/10/2022 16:20

Wow, that looks good.

“How do they square the abuse, the death threats and the rape threats with “be kind”?”

How indeed. I suspect they’ll be out in force at any where showing this, though. Just to show us all how kind they are.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 25/10/2022 18:57

This looks phenomenal, Tinsel. A must watch for everyone, especially politicians and policy makers.

nilsmousehammer · 25/10/2022 19:09

Great news Tinsel!

christinarossetti39 · 25/10/2022 19:13

This looks harrowing, but such important viewing.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 25/10/2022 19:29

Such brave women.

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 25/10/2022 19:52

I was in the audience at this session. Tinsel’s intro was bloody brilliant. Really looking forward to being able to see the film.

stealtheatingtunnocks · 26/10/2022 00:17

Vaishnavi is so talented.

I am pleased she had done this work, and that you are part of it, @TinselAngel . These are important voices to hear

Brook70 · 22/11/2022 00:12

Thought I'd join this thread and hopefully find support and advice having just found out a few weeks ago that my 70 year old husband (partner of 19 years & married for 7) cross dresses privately and on the odd occasion (apparently before we got together 19 years ago) has visited make up places you can apparently go to for a makeover and wardrobe session. The cross dressing is definitely not something I want to be involved with as far as my instinctive preferred natural choice of a husband's behaviour goes (would definitely not have been in this relationship if I'd known about this from the early days but would have been perfectly happy to have continued as a loving, supportive platonic friend). So really struggling to get my head around living in the same house and sharing a bed with a man who thinks he's a women within (he said this goes back to as early as he can remember, at least to aged 4). I'm mid 50s, so younger than my husband.

In trying to understand this all I watched a very moving film on Youtube about a sweet 7 year old Sasha who was born with a boy's body but most definitely felt themselves to be a girl and found myself weeping - so I really recognise the pain from the man's point of view when there are gender dysphoria issues, but I just can't see how I can compromise and carry on in this marriage when I've never had any feelings in my life that I'd want to have a relationship with a woman myself. He says he's definitely not gay and loves me for 'myself' not for my gender. Not sure that's a receipt for healthy rounded fullfilling relationship in my eyes...

He most definitely doesn't want us to part but I think I'm going to have to at some point in there years ahead for my own sanity - truth be told things have felt 'just not quite right' for years. He also doesn't want anyone else to know, especially our two sons aged 14 and 15. He's a very self-contained, private person and I would never want to expose this if he doesn't want that, if only for fear of what he might do and for fear of weakening his good relationship with the boys. I know some women seem to come to terms with having a cross dressing husband (and even thrive in their new found female friend around the house!) but I feel uneasy - not least that he knew this when we got together and never told me. Apparently he did tell his ex-wife before they married who apparently accepted it, but I strongly feel that I don't even want to see him with any women's stuff on at any point whilst I'm his wife. My gut tells me that I want to leave but don't know that is possible currently right now as things would be very difficult financially and impinge massively on the boys. Has anyone experienced living under the same roof under these circumstance, knowing that they do not want their partner to even touch them and having to keep a huge secret from friends and family?

Brook70 · 22/11/2022 00:18

I've realised this is on the wrong thread I think...have posted it elsewhere!

unwashedanddazed · 22/11/2022 00:28

I think trans widows voices are the most important in the fight against this insidious ideology. They know the full truth and it needs to be heard!

Can't wait to see this film and I'll be gardening for it.

Datun · 22/11/2022 00:36

That looks like it's going to be blinding, tinsel.

I'm so glad these women are getting their voices heard. What a fantastic job you've done.

NonnyMouse1337 · 05/01/2023 11:20

I can't believe I've only just seen the trailer for this documentary. It looks amazing!!
Vaishnavi and her team are so talented. I love the way she incorporates art and visuals that enhances the women's narratives of their experiences.

Can't wait to watch this and I hope we can get it screened in a few public places to get wider attention.

Very pleased that trans widows and the children of transitioners have been centered completely in this production.

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SD1978 · 02/06/2023 23:20

Has this been released? I realise this is a very old thread, so is the actual documentary available to watch somewhere?

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TinselAngel · 02/06/2023 23:30

SD1978 · 02/06/2023 23:20

Has this been released? I realise this is a very old thread, so is the actual documentary available to watch somewhere?

No not yet, I understand its likely to be out by the end of the year. The new trailer has just been released today.

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stealtheatingtunnocks · 03/06/2023 19:34

Does she need funding to get it out?

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TinselAngel · 03/06/2023 20:56

stealtheatingtunnocks · 03/06/2023 19:34

Does she need funding to get it out?

Yes she does

twitter.com/vaishax/status/1664741199914098690?s=46&t=PSGltfjrMyZmBtYq2-AVIQ

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OvaHere · 04/06/2023 10:36

Bumping. The new trailer looks great. Well worth a bit of gardening.