Dear god. So a (biologically) male person got to commit exhibitionism, and got to play the victim for being challenged on it.
The tribunal should have been about the breach of the women’s human rights in having to share facilities where they were undressing with a male person. In any just world, anyway.
I see the women as the victims here, even the ones who left the note/had those conversations. They were trying to fight back against the abuse being perpetrated by this male person and the NHS trust that allowed the male person into the women’s changing/shower area.
Obviously the comments were insulting and offensive, and none of it was language I myself would use, but do women really have any obligation to be respectful and courteous toward a male person who is abusing them? This is heading back to the notion that a female victim of rape should be obliged to refer to her rapist as “she” if the rapist identifies as a woman.
This is one reason why women find it so hard to say no. We are punished and penalised when we do. We are made out to be the wrongdoers.
Is it not normal for women to use extremely insulting language about men who have hurt or abused them in some way? Women routinely call men knobheads, pricks, dicks, wankers, wankstains, arsewipes and much more here on this very site.
This male person made a choice to violate the women’s boundaries. Any non-trans male person who made a choice to violate women’s boundaries would be fair game for any amount of abusive epithets. And no one (but MRAs) would really have a problem with it.
The ET judge used the wrong comparator, as many have already said, and should have measured the response against the response any other male person would have faced in that situation. What she did is very, very worrying, and smacks of the same old regulatory capture we’ve seen so much of.
Deeply disturbing that this will very probably have given the green light to I don’t know how many other male people who want free access to women only spaces, and who could want that access for all sorts of reasons, not just if they identify as trans.
Whether this person was intending to cause distress with this exhibitionism or was just seeking the validation of being in with the women, the impact on the women is the same: this is abusive behaviour - the women here were the victims of a sex offence - and we really, really need to start naming it as such.