Exactly. I mean, most of us here don't hate trans people. We're all more than happy for people to live their lives as they want as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else. It's just that the current situation is hurting many women, children and same sex attracted people. For a long, long time my initial thoughts were, 'I'm not anti-trans but I have concerns.' I hated the thought of being considered anti-trans.
Now I know that I'll be screamed down as a hateful bigot for expressing even the tiniest bit of non-compliance. And while, like I mentioned up thread, careful in my real life activism, another part of me, just things fine, fuck it, I'm an anti-trans bigot so, whatever. I'm not, not at all, but the power of that accusation to make me stop and row back, has gone. I don't care what they call me because I know it's not true. For people who aren't as steeped in this as a lot of us are, it's an awful fucking shock to say something that you probably thought was carefully considered and get screamed at as a bigot. Macy and Bette are probably reeling from the hate that's been thrown at them, especially Macy. So they are trying to clarify, they don't hate, the support everyone's right to live as they choose. But they both, especially actually Bette Middler in her full thread of recent tweets, aren't rowing back, at least yet. They are saying they are being misunderstood, because they are. They just don't realise that if they don't comply completely, they will be called bigots.