Help wording an email to manager re: gender

[HunterHearstHelmsley]

I have a rough draft of an email already but could do with some help wording it...

I am a gender critical. Recently, a trans woman has joined by team at work. Several emails have been received about their pronouns and how they expect to be addressed, with added articles.

I'm fine with addressing them however they fancy. I need to contact our mutual manager to remind them I am gender critical and this belief is protected under the Equality Act. I don't intend to misgender anyone. I don't want the ideology forced upon me. I want my beliefs to be respected.

Can anyone help me pen an email please?

I really hope this isn't genuine but as far as I can tell from the useless search function the OP has been around for a while.

If it is genuine the OP is doing "gender critical" ideology no favours.

@KimikosNightmare can you explain what you believe gender critics ideology to be?

Why do I need to explain? The OP calls herself "a gender critical" (odd turn of phrase) and wants to email HR because she feels unsafe because a trans person will be joining her workplace.

It's not a good look.

I wouldn't focus on being GC at all but have a word with your manager about general email etiquette, there's a lot going on, you get hundreds of emails and 4 on the one topic is too much.

Are management maybe just trying to make sure everyone is aware of the legal status of trans people to avoid any legal or workplace issues?

GC means you believe when people are born (or for most people before birth) they are male of female and that no one can change sex.

In my case I reject gender completely as it is bad for society in general and women in particular.

In practice this means I'm happy to work with trans people, they are just people and I don't care what is under their clothes but when it comes to sports teams, girl guide chaperones, having to attend a rape crisis centre of being strip searched by the police, I don't want someone with male physiology to be accepted as a woman because they are not.

90% of male to female trans have had no surgery and do not take cross sex hormones. So are men in all but name.

My recent problem I can't go into detail but it was a MH group on zoom, as I logged on pronouns were being added and I didn't want to be asked mine because I don't want to. And yes it did make me feel unsafe, and by the same token had I said that I object to pronouns in signatures I may well have upset some people in the room.

It was resolved by the professionals having their titles rather than pronouns and attendees putting what they wanted.

OP

I'd word it as concern for all colleagues. EG

I have noticed pronouns are appearing on signatures, can I remind you that for some people adding pronouns can cause difficulty due to beliefs covered in the Equality Act and can also be hurtful to those who are, as yet, unsure.

I am also concerned about X and the news articles, you are making X stand out as different when I hope this is the opposite of what you wish to achieve. EG if a new starter wore a wig it would not be appropriate to send out stories about alopecia or wigs worn for religious reasons.

Why do you feel unsafe?

Can’t speak for theOP, but given that there are a number of people who have lost their jobs or found themselves having to defend themselves against accusations of bigotry, I can imagine a number of reasons why a woman who knows people can’t change sex might feel unsafe because of the changing situation.

I think, OP, that as others have said, it’s a bit annoying that all these e-mails are being sent, but they don’t really have any detrimental effect on you that would warrant you saying anything right now. If you actually come under attack or suffer detriment, you will then have a case where you can point out that your beliefs are protected. I don’t think this is a good time for a pre-emptive strike, that might be seen as an act of aggression.

What I would say, is that four e-mails from a colleague is beginning to sound quite like proselytizing and I doubt you will be the only one who’s finding it a bit much. This might be a case for giving someone enough rope.