I periodically wonder whether all that transactivism is currently demanding will come to pass, and it will turn out not to be too awful and not too many men will abuse it and it will become acceptable and accepted, in the same way gay marriage has, despite strong opposition at various points.
But the difference is, that no matter how I try, I can’t think of any circumstance under which gay people living together or getting married can directly (or even indirectly) cause harm that would not have occurred had it not become acceptable.
I can’t say the same for transactivism. If the demands made do come to pass, women will be harmed. It might be at a level that society deems acceptable, but there’s no doubt whatsoever that women losing the right to single sex spaces will cause harm.
So we cannot be “the baddies” for pointing that out. We may be misjudging the level of harm to women, or be underestimating the potential harm to men who claim they are women, were they to be allocated separate spaces, rather than be shoved into women’s spaces (though it’s hard to see what real harms that could cause). But I don’t see how pointing out the genuine clash of rights, while the process of deciding whether those rights should change, can ever be a bad thing.
Those commenting probably just haven’t given it much consideration.
When you say “giving in” do you mean “pretending to agree” or “staying silent”? Because the latter is not unreasonable, if you can’t face speaking up, whatever the reason. But as tabbycatstripy just said, you are unlikely to be able to change your belief and truly accept what they’re saying, because you can see the flaws in it. Once seen, there’s no going back.