So how many Mothers were ‘taken out for lunch’ today, but still had to cook the family supper?

[happydappy2]

I’m very grateful I was taken out for lunch but thought it was unnecessary & expensive….would have preferred to be treated at home…husband also benefited from lunch out but when he showed no signs of cooking supper….I did it….am thinking DH missed a trick by not actually cooking a meal for us all. What’s the point of Mother’s Day after all? I have previously said please don’t let’s go out for lunch on MD it’s like going out for dinner on valentines (cheesy.) Happy Mother’s Day to all!

Why did you cook supper ? Just sit down with the remote and announce how much you love not cooking on Mother's Day

@PuppyMonkey

The whole point of having lunch out is you don’t bother cooking tea and just have toast or something.

Came to say this. Maybe I'm weird, but after a slap up lunch out I wouldn't also be cooking a proper dinner. I would be bits and pieces out of the fridge for dinner - toddler would get a sandwich and some fruit, DH and I probably scrambled eggs on toast or something and DH is more than capable of scrambling his own eggs.

when he showed no signs of cooking supper….I did it

I remember doing this once or twice years ago. The thing is (and I'm not being judgmental as I've done it myself), not talking about it or minimising your own needs, leads to resentment. What I've learned personally is that our relationships and happiness start with ourselves. It's important to be responsible for our relationships. Our relationships are part of us, start with us, and reflect how we relate.

boundaries.
boundaries for what goes on in the home (cooking supper, cleanliness etc) and what you'll accept.

consequences.
consequences for breaking boundaries

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Agreeing with the posters who have queried the need for anyone to cook a big evening meal after you'd been out for lunch only a few hours before. I'm not usually a MN chicken/giant salad sort of person but I rarely need much for tea after going out for lunch.

Couldn't whoever was hungry just made themselves some toast/sandwiches/cereal/cheese and crackers or whatever? Anyone of the age of 8 or so could do that themselves so no need for mum-martyring.

@latetothefisting

Agreeing with the posters who have queried the need for anyone to cook a big evening meal after you'd been out for lunch only a few hours before. I'm not usually a MN chicken/giant salad sort of person but I rarely need much for tea after going out for lunch.

Couldn't whoever was hungry just made themselves some toast/sandwiches/cereal/cheese and crackers or whatever? Anyone of the age of 8 or so could do that themselves so no need for mum-martyring.

I think it depends on the age of the kids really. Mine (8, 6 and 3) never eat a ‘big’ meal, which means if we go out for lunch they still need a proper dinner. I think adults often ‘overfill’ and then can’t eat anything else later, whereas children tend to just eat to their appetite. Anyway, it’s irrelevant really what other people can/can’t eat, the OP’s family were obviously hungry enough that a meal needed making.

If I go out for lunch then that's the main meal and supper is get your own easy food.

@ReadyToMoveIt but wouldn't kids normally eat sandwiches or something smaller in school for lunch? Then a cooked meal in the evening. So even if they only ate the amount they would usually eat at home in the evening at lunch, rather than overeating, just having a smaller, cold supper/tea would be the same amount of food as they normally have in a day, just the other way around.

I don't think anyone needs 2 cooked meals a day, so don't agree OP 'needed' to cook a whole supper for anyone. She could have said she wasn't cooking, and the kids wouldn't have starved if with sandwiches/salad/beans on toast.

[quote latetothefisting]@ReadyToMoveIt but wouldn't kids normally eat sandwiches or something smaller in school for lunch? Then a cooked meal in the evening. So even if they only ate the amount they would usually eat at home in the evening at lunch, rather than overeating, just having a smaller, cold supper/tea would be the same amount of food as they normally have in a day, just the other way around.

I don't think anyone needs 2 cooked meals a day, so don't agree OP 'needed' to cook a whole supper for anyone. She could have said she wasn't cooking, and the kids wouldn't have starved if with sandwiches/salad/beans on toast.[/quote]
Mine have school dinners then a cooked meal in the evening 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Loginmystery

No one took me out. I cooked. Absolute wankers. I detest Mother’s Day. And my birthday. It’s just raw hurt.

@Loginmystery Just say no! Believe me, they'll pull their finger out when they get hungry enough.