Resources for parents whose school aged daughters suddenly announce they are trans?

[StripyOnesie]

Hi, I often browse through this board but I was wondering if there is either a support thread such as the trans widow thread for parents of children who announce they are trans? Or, a thread with resources to support watchful waiting and not affirmation, especially from the school? A close friend of mine messaged today to say her year six daughter is being referred to as he/him in school now. This follows the narrative of the child being Bi, then Lesbian, then non binary and now trans. (Mum is fully supportive of any sexuality, but concerned about the trans affirmation trend).

I've signposted her to this area and done some basic searches but I just wondered if there was one thread with it all pulled together?

www.parentsofrogdkids.com

Looks like "frog kids" but it's ROGD kids

This is quite useful - Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans (mostly American, though):

pitt.substack.com/?r=7vc2e

The Bayswater support group offers support for parents.

bayswatersupport.org.uk/

Safe Schools Alliance can help with dealing with schools.

safeschoolsallianceuk.net/

This factsheet could help if the child is being socially transitioned by the school without the parents' permission.

safeschoolsallianceuk.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/22Aug_Advice-note-schools-socially-transitioning.pdf

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3744776-ROGD-Parent-Support

There was a Mumsnet thread running

I just read this which is very interesting.

To My Daughter's Therapist: You Were Wrong

pitt.substack.com/p/to-my-daughters-therapist-you-were

It's unthinkable that a schools would simply affirm a 10 year old child where :
This follows the narrative of the child being Bi, then Lesbian, then non binary and now trans

There are so many questions this parent needs to be asking and (along with the schools) start putting in place age appropriate boundaries. Where is the child picking up these sexual identities at this age? (I know the answer but humour me) How much time is the child spending online? What is this little girl's daily life like? Is she involved in sport, singing, dancing, hobbies, trips out? Are there family activities? 1 -1 time with parents?
It is a parent's responsibility (and I know how much more complicated everything is with covid) to ensure that 10 year olds are protected from age inappropriate adult issues and the school to raise questions if things are going awry - as well as looking at the school culture if this is prevalent amongst year 6. .
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.

This ten year old does not need her mum to get any deeper into issues around her sexuality and gender, she needs her mum to help her find more age appropriate things to spend her time and energy on.

There's a weird trend in young kids without parental boundaries, that they are trying to identify as a sexuality before they even fancy anyone. It's back to front and it doesn't help anyone for those around them to get carried away (either shocked or OTT support) every single time they come out as something new.

Your close friend can best help her DD by finding her fun things to do and encouraging her off the computer.

Thank you for all the helpful information. I'm quite surprised that some posters believe that 10/11 is too young to fancy anyone however. I remember fancying a boy from being about five years old (until he was 16, goodness I liked him!!!). I do acknowledge that this isn't the case for all children though. Mum isn't wanting to "get into any deeper issues", she wants information on how to stop the affirmation from school (where most of this seems to be coming from).

www.positivelylesbian.org is a great website made by and for young lesbians and is gc.

“Gender a wider lens” is a really good parenting podcast. They, I think, don’t recommend putting a child of this age in front of a therapist. Coaching the parents to accept what they can, encourage critical thinking, and draw boundaries with love.