I keep seeing posts on FB that are shared by a couple of friends/acquaintances who are keen to bend over backward to be tolerant and kind, without really thinking much about it. Their latest thing (and I've seen several posts about it lately, so it must be from some particular site) is that you can't define biological sex, therefore sex isn't simple, therefore you can't just talk about biological sex, therefore because it's not simple and clear-cut, you can't use it as an effective category for gatekeeping or identifying anyone.
They use the examples of crossing over, SRY being on the X-chromosome, various other DSDs to show that you can't just use chromosomes to determine sex, you can't just use hormones, you can't just use presence of SRY genes (because might not be active), you can't just use external characteristics, you can't use internal organs, none of these things on its own absolutely 100% works, and therefore they conclude that there is no definitive test.
Now I know this argument doesn't stand up. I have pointed out in very polite and neutral times that it doesn't really work as an explanation, because the sorts of cases they are talking about are extreme edge cases, and that in the vast vast vast majority of people, all those things do line up exactly as expected. I've also suggested that actually, it makes no difference anyway, as there is no evidence that any of the people who feel they are a different sex have any higher rate of DSDs or endocrine disorders, so any of those edge cases are utterly irrelevant to that issue, and that people with DSDs have asked not to be used as examples in that way.
But still these memes persist as a 'gotcha', a way of proving that sex can't be defined precisely, and therefore that it's not useful as a category, and I find it frustrating, because it's hard to argue against the individual points. It is true that you can be XX male with an SRY gene. Or have an inactive SRY gene with various sets of chromosomes. You can have cases with different chromosome patterns and different hormonal presentations because of other genetic differences. And so forth. Individually each statement is true, but it simply doesn't prove what the people making them think it proves. At the same time, it's frustrating as there is no way to answer back to the specific claims.
But the people I know posting these particular memes are doing so in good faith, thinking that they are understanding the issue better now, that sex isn't a simply defined category etc. They are genuinely wanting to be inclusive and kind; they're not activisits trying to increase the rights of one group over another (though they might be inadvertantly doing this in ther attempts to be kind). So it's hard to find any way to present an opposite point of view to them, because it immediately sounds unkind and they would react to that.