So... it is now ok to be sexually assaulted at a works party ....

[EastYorksLass]

I am so upset and angry. Someone close to me was sexually assaulted at the works Christmas party in front of witnesses. The man also assaulted other women and did the same at the previous event. My sister went to the police - the assault is on CCTV and they have a witness and the person has admitted it.
So now the police contacted her to say the man is sorry, embarrassed and does she really want to go to court because it is 'at the very lowest end of sexual assault'. Oh, and looks like he is going back to work too.
So - now we have to feel sorry for the man who is embarrassed and it is ok to be 'groped' at a Christmas works party. What is the point of the police. Feel so so angry I might explode and just so helpless.

wasn’t that serious of an assault (he’d shoved his hand down my pants and licked my ear)
Don't they understand that getting away with this encourages escalation. Not to say what happened isn't serious in itself.

We all know these minor crimes, and especially getting away with them, are what leads to bigger and more brazen crimes.

How many men in the w couzens bracket went from a perfectly decent man one day to an evil monster the next? None of them. They all passed through a bit of flashing, a low level assault etc before working their way up to something bigger.

I am convinced that the act of getting away with these smaller offences scot free is a major factor in them seeking out a bigger buzz, trying something more serious.

How can we change things and get police, judiciary, society to see that unless the smaller offences are taken seriously then we will keep having awful events? Things won't change until the underlying stuff changes. And letting get away with smaller stuff is a huge part of this

I'm so angry with men at the moment

I am convinced that the act of getting away with these smaller offences scot free is a major factor in them seeking out a bigger buzz, trying something more serious.

I wholeheartedly agree. And it goes beyond that into being valorised for this behaviour in lads' WhatsApp groups (some of the recent police ones). Some men admire eachother for being monsters to women.

I'm so sorry that happened to your sister OP. Sadly the police's reaction does not surprise me, recent events show the police are not on women's side.