Well expressed and very hopeful article!
No one wants to see TQ+ people discriminated against or without access needed resources. It's just equally important that female people have equal access to their needed resources, some of those are sex based, and female access and inclusion cannot be provided without them.
This does mean, in practice, that if those female only needs and resources are not going to be respected by TQ+ people as equally necessary and valid as their own needs and resources, that they must be gatekept by law. And this will involve the word 'no'. This is not 'hate' against anyone, this is inclusion and equality.
We cannot have large numbers of females left without resources or access or inclusion in women's spaces because males didn't want them to have it.