@foxgoosefinch
Yes, exactly. And it's very stark when you put it in terms of porn.
But where I think a lot of young university students get tripped up is that if they follow this kind of thinking to it's logical conclusion, it' snot just nasty BDSM porn sex that they have to look at in a new light. It might be hooking up anonymously through an app, or even at a club. That's largely transactional sex even where it doesn't include the violence, and it's not particularly safe, especially for women.
People will sometimes say prostitution is problematic because there is the possibility of pregnancy with the punter as the father. Well there is more than one young woman who has found herself pregnant from a ONS, maybe with a man she came to realize was not a good person, in any number of ways. If we accept the solutions for that, are they not the same solutions for the former instance?
On several occasions I've seen people respond to the statement that transactional sex is problematic because it's homophobic, because it implies that things like chemsex in gay clubs etc are problematic. And obviously that attitude is caused by homophobia.
For a lot of people, and not just young ones, it gets very uncomfortable for them to start to think that with regard to sex that freedom and choice aren't the only goods, that maybe they actually need to be restrained in some instances to have healthy human beings and relationships. Consent and choice have been too much drilled into them as the only foundation of healthy sexuality, with the idea that anything beyond that is, at best, repressive or prudish, and at worst judgmental and discriminatory..