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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

The nerve of Jon Ronson

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RoyalCorgi · 07/11/2021 15:45

Jon Ronson has an interview in the Sunday Times (sorry, no share token) about why the culture wars will soon burn out:

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/jon-ronson-interview-the-culture-wars-will-burn-out-soon-8gsj9wrj0

This is a man who failed to stand up for women who were being bullied on social media and being banned from Twitter for standing up for women's rights. He fell out with Graham Linehan over Linehan's support for women's sex-based rights. Far from being a dispassionate observer of the culture wars, he has actively chosen a side - the wrong side.

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Manderleyagain · 07/09/2022 13:08

That sounds like an interesting podcast. Will try and liste.

I think Ronson would very much like to be fully signed up to twaw because that's where the cool liberal types hang out. He's uncomfortable d7szgreeinv with it (if he does disagree) amd would rather just look the other way. His job & public oersona maje it tricky to ignore which myst be very inconvenient.

I didn't know he was friends with Katie Herzog. He is friends with gia milinovich too. They started trying to discuss it on twitter and then went off twitter to discuss, but I think it came to nothing.

Manderleyagain · 07/09/2022 13:09

Apologies for horrendous typos!

ZuttZeVootEeeVo · 07/09/2022 13:18

Jon ronson just sees book opportunities in every situation. The problem he has here is practically every take has already been written.

Also, I don think he has the confidence to write this and know its going to be on the right side of history.

TastefulRainbowUnicorn · 07/09/2022 13:30

Jon ronson just sees book opportunities in every situation. The problem he has here is practically every take has already been written.

I don’t know, I think there’s room in the market for a mea culpa from someone who bought into the trans cause out of cowardice and conformity and unexamined misogyny, and betrayed his friends to fit in, despite not actually believing wholeheartedly in the “cause.” Would fit with the Zeitgeist too. But I’m not sure Jon has the moral courage to write that.

ArabellaScott · 07/09/2022 14:11

100%, Tasteful.

He's just weak. I mean, fine, but who the hell cares to listen to someone once it becomes clear they are talking without the courage of their convictions.

TheClogLady · 07/09/2022 16:21

Jon has been a big personal disappointment. I really thought he’s get it, based on the ‘You’ve Been Publicly Shamed stuff, but he’s turned out to be just as handy with a pitchfork as the rest of the wokeblokes who’ve assembled for the modern day witch burnings.

I love to imagine him showing up to a dinner party only to discover that one of the other guests is Joanne Rowling.

Bosky · 07/09/2022 19:11

TheClogLady · 07/09/2022 16:21

Jon has been a big personal disappointment. I really thought he’s get it, based on the ‘You’ve Been Publicly Shamed stuff, but he’s turned out to be just as handy with a pitchfork as the rest of the wokeblokes who’ve assembled for the modern day witch burnings.

I love to imagine him showing up to a dinner party only to discover that one of the other guests is Joanne Rowling.

What a dinner party that would be! Sat opposite him, JKR. To his left, Glinner, and to his right Sinead Watson. 😈

Ofcourseshecan · 07/09/2022 19:27

CreepingDeath · 09/11/2021 20:03

Indeed when you look at a lot of men in this debate, you can see they are genuinely bewildered that women complain about having to share their spaces with men. It's as if they think it's women's role to accommodate what men want, and when women refuse, it just doesn't compute.

Agreed. One of the most frustrating things about this whole saga is not just the ridiculous unreality being pushed on us, but that it has highlighted how much many men don't really care how women's lives are negatively affected by all this.

Even the ones who proffer themselves as 'good guys' who see themselves as such. They know it's all really bullshit, but just go along with the nonsense because it's trendy or whatever, and once again we are reminded that they don't give a shit. They just carry on regardless, safe in the knowledge that they protected from the worst of it. And clap themselves on the back at how progressive they are.

They don't give a shit, because they don't have to. Their spaces, their sports teams, their prisons, their language is unaffected. How nice for them!

And we are just supposed to shut up and take it - how dare we see ourselves as fully fledged human beings, and not just support bots to facilitate an easy life for them Angry.

Yes. It is painful to realise this. They genuinely don’t consider the loss of women’s rights, even to such basic things as privacy or physical safety, to be of any importance. And they still see themselves as the nice guys.

I don’t like recognising this. But the alternative is to cling to a delusion that is, in its own way, as wrong as the delusion of changing sex.

LaughingPriest · 07/09/2022 20:42

craftykamo · 07/09/2022 10:16

Waking up the thread to mention that Jon is interviewed on the latest edition of Meghan Daum's Unspeakable podcast. Meghan's GC (I highly recommend her podcast with Sarah Haider "A Special Place in Hell' for conversations about feminism, gender, impact of porn etc. ) and tries to interrogate him on it.

Jon's obviously uncomfortable taking about the issue and this episode of the Things Fall Apart podcast, and tries to get out of it but Meghan doesn't let him. They talk about social contagion & children and she outlines a lot of the stats to him etc. He says he doesn't have a "take" on it, I'm not sure I really believe him. He's friends with quite a lot of GCs like Katie Herzog and I suspect leans towards that point of view but wants to appear to be in the centre.

Thank you so much for this. A friend of mine years ago recommend I check out MD's writing - I don't think they knew either her or my views on this particular subject (I didn't know Daum's but I got the impression she was questioning) but I have been meaning to listen to her podcast, so will try and do that!

nepeta · 08/09/2022 06:23

Ofcourseshecan:

Yes. It is painful to realise this. They genuinely don’t consider the loss of women’s rights, even to such basic things as privacy or physical safety, to be of any importance. And they still see themselves as the nice guys.

I don’t like recognising this. But the alternative is to cling to a delusion that is, in its own way, as wrong as the delusion of changing sex.

This was hard for me to realise, and not just the part where wokebeards now feel free to be openly belittling about our humanity, but the way large chunks of social media are like that more generally, including apparently large numbers of young people of both sexes.

Some on Twitter recently ridiculed the very idea that misogyny might matter. They didn't deny it, but just didn't see anything wrong with it.

ZuttZeVootEeeVo · 08/09/2022 09:01

Every generation men like to redefine misogyny. They are too busy congratulating themselves on being feminist enough to allow women to work and terminate pregnancies, they don't see that they are stopping women from participating in everyday life and activities.

In short, they are so happy not to be their fathers, they've not realised they'd turned into their grandfathers.

Glinner · 08/09/2022 17:19

People are exactly right when they say that Jon is an activist while pretending not to be. In his recent podcast on Michfest, his dismissal of second-wave feminism, coupled with the huge ommission of the triple murder that ended the festival, took my breath away, grahamlinehan.substack.com/p/jon-ronsons-insulting-michfest-revisionism

craftykamo · 09/09/2022 12:05

I'm not sure I agree that he's an activist, if he was then he wouldn't be trying to avoid the issue as much as he is. He mentions in the Daum podcast that he wasn't keen on doing the episode and I guess had to find an angle that wouldn't put him in the cross hairs.

I think he genuinely just doesn't want to touch the issue publicly because he's scared that he'll lose his standing with the in-group, while a lot of his smart friends like Katie, Gia and Meghan are in the out-group (and of course he's had to throw some of them under the bus to maintain his in-group status). I'm just so disappointed in his cowardice, he just keeps saying "I don't know enough about it", even though he's got a bunch of smart women who have discussed it with him.

He says he's 'never thought about the whole men and women, gender thing', blaming his 'beta-cuckness' (I think the fact that he descibes himself as such shows he's thought about it a lot more than never) and thinks it's an avenue he wants to explore, so yeah. We'll see if we get the mea culpa that Tasteful outlined, but I suspect not until Ronson sees the tide turning.

TheClogLady · 09/09/2022 12:22

I’m gonna listen to this now.

here’s a link for the lazy: theunspeakablepodcast.libsyn.com/when-troubled-people-become-our-playthings-jon-ronson-on-shame-and-forgiveness

(no judgment, I love lazily following a link, me!)

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/09/2022 12:23

Yes I agree, he's not particularly invested, just a bit cowardly, and he doesn't want to open a can of worms by actually looking into it in good faith, as that will pierce his shield of cognitive dissonance and might make him a wrongthinker like those "t**fs"

LaughingPriest · 09/09/2022 13:18

I'm halfway through the JR episode, having first listened to the Meghan Murphy one. Have to say the Jon Ronson podcast for the BBC sounds really interesting, so will give that a listen as well as the other Unspeakable ones.

MangyInseam · 09/09/2022 13:18

Ereshkigalangcleg · 15/12/2021 11:32

That episode was a bit meh. There was some interesting stuff in it, and if I didn't know anything about it it i would have found it v interesting. But it was shallow and I still don't think ronson understands this well.

It makes me wonder if it's a similarly shallow snapshot in all of these programmes.

I am sure that is the case.

MangyInseam · 09/09/2022 13:28

RoyalCorgi · 04/05/2022 15:43

That's a fair point. I think that if the anti-abortion film had been ignored early on it might have died a death of its own accord. Just think of how Life of Brian benefited from the angry mobs and the column inches in newspapers. Or the various controversial ads that have given a product so much publicity. By the same token, I often feel that if we all just ignored Owen Jones, he would eventually fade into insignificance.

Obviously at the point a movement is doing real harm, then you have to fight back against it. But a film being shown to a handful of zealous Christian evangelists isn't actually hurting anyone.

I think you could ask what it really means to protest, rather than respond.

Essentially a film like that is people making an ethical argument, just like people trying to argue abortion should be legal to the very end of the pregnancy, or that men should be allowed to self-identify as women, or that they shouldn't.

Which is to say, it's people in a democracy engaging in the questions that are important to them, and trying to convince people of their viewpoint.

I am increasingly of the view that protesting that, rather than making a reasoned response, leads right to things like Mermaids trying to have the LGB alliance delegitimized and their charitable status removed. It's not making an argument about any of the real ethical issues around abortion, it's just saying, anyone who thinks this must be a misogynist and don't listen to them or you are too.

Well we can now see what happens when that form of political engagement is the norm.

Glinner · 09/09/2022 14:40

can you tell me where the gender stuff starts as my heart rate won't take him being disingenuous for an hiour and a half

LaughingPriest · 09/09/2022 14:43

He mentions it around 16- 20 mins in where Meghan says she's going to ask about 3 points, and laughs it off saying if it's gender stuff he won't want to talk about it.

I'm 58 mins in and it's not come up properly yet but seems like it might shortly. Sorry, not much help!

lifeissweet · 09/09/2022 14:45

I was so disappointed by his whole: 'I haven't really thought about men and women and gender' claim. I'm not sure what he was trying to achieve there.

It either suggests that he is well aware of it, but is too cowardly to comment (most likely, I think) or that he - a self-proclaimed expert on cancel culture and online shaming - has totally failed to notice in all that time, that women are most harshly cancelled and shamed. He just didn't see it. Oops.

Also, he has done work on porn and - of all subjects - to fail to recognise the power difference and implications for women inherent in that industry - means what? That he's too stupid to see it? Or that he does see it but thinks it's completely uninteresting or irrelevant.

He either looks stupid or misogynistic. He seems ok with that. Not sure why.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 09/09/2022 14:48

'I haven't really thought about men and women and gender'

= everything is tickety boo for me when it comes to men and women and gender, I’m in the winning group, so why would I pull at that thread?

shows a lack of intellectual curiosity which somewhat undermines his USP, no?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/09/2022 14:48

I'm sure he'd rather look stupid, misogynistic or both, rather than a "transphobe".

LaughingPriest · 09/09/2022 16:55

Just listening now and his main topic when talking about the T-RF episode he did was how he managed to essentially 'get away with it' and make it not attract too much criticism. But he also highlights that the focus was on how the term originated, which I guess is interesting in its own right but clearly ignores the massive elephant in the room.

beastlyslumber · 09/09/2022 19:06

I must admit I gave up on the Megham Daum podcast episode as soon as he said he refused to talk about gender ideology. Did she push him? She is definitely a terven so I'm surprised if she let him away completely.