This whole topic is v involved polarised emotive etc but in the years I've been reading arguments and seeing news studies etc
One of the really interesting thing for me is how when men talk about it- and I mean men who come to argue it's fine etc.
Is the massive difference in how intercourse is viewed by the men and the women they are disagreeing with.
And I suppose linked to that is the usually bizarre ideas about the motivations of women who say it's a really bad thing.
The men without fail see sex acts as not a massive deal. Like a massage. Doing some gardening. Etc. A straightforward physical thing with no difference to other things.
The women are coming at it from the pov of. Amongst other things. That being penetrated whether mouth vagina anus can be uncomfortable. Painful. Can cause injury. Risk of STDs. Risk of man bigger stronger taking what he wants. Using full strength. That sort of thing.
Similarly I can't speak for all but I'd put money on most women having the view that have due to empathy. Knowing what men can be like. Knowing that penetration can be painful. That men sometimes don't care. That with their strength things can be.. even more painful. Etc.
But the common view is it's about jealously of sexy women/ fear men will stay/ that sort of thing.
Interestingly when men irl and on here talk about being paid for sex it's always. Money for fucking hot women? Yay!
The question what about a man twice your size penetrating you. Never gets a straight answer. IME.
With such different - understandably different probably- views of sex acts. I can't see how to get through. And the lack of any empathy is v worrying.