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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

AIBU to start a music thread? There are some great female artists out there who explain what it's really like to be a woman. (And it's not about wearing makeup and dresses and looking cute).

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Ilovemycatsomuch · 14/10/2021 22:10

m.youtube.com/watch?v=AqAJLh9wuZ0

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Ilovemycatsomuch · 15/10/2021 07:54

m.youtube.com/watch?v=A4C4NiVKrXk

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BraveBananaBadge · 15/10/2021 09:24

Two from Peggy Seeger, if you can link to more than one in a post!:

WarriorN · 15/10/2021 10:27

Billy Nomates!

www.theguardian.com/music/2020/aug/01/one-to-watch-billy-nomates

I'd be devastated to hear she's a tra; I really suspect she's not.

Ilovemycatsomuch · 15/10/2021 10:29

Loving it 😍

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WarriorN · 15/10/2021 10:29

No. (Thank you!)

AIBU to start a music thread? There are some great female artists out there who explain what it's really like to be a woman. (And it's not about wearing makeup and dresses and looking cute).
Ilovemycatsomuch · 15/10/2021 10:30

Meant to say @WarriorN 😁

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WarriorN · 15/10/2021 10:31

Heels!

Tesla73 · 15/10/2021 10:34

I'd like to add Chelsea Wolfe (not the the trans BMXer), Emma Ruth Rundle, Sandy Denny, Kate Bush, Fiona Apple, Tori Amos, Wendy & Lisa, Sheila E (one of the best drummers out there), Lisa Germano, Hurrah For The Riff Raff, Bats For Lashes

WarriorN · 15/10/2021 10:37

More about Billy, I think she's really interesting.

www.nme.com/features/music-interviews/billy-nomates-interview-tor-maries-radar-2708995

weaselwords · 15/10/2021 10:44

PJ Harvey’s “While Under Ether” is about terminating a pregnancy, which is such a uniquely female thing to have to do.

Jaysmith71 · 15/10/2021 10:46

The Divine Tracey:

youkiddingme · 15/10/2021 22:45

This is now my wind-down before bed thread. Flowers

NoWireHangersEver · 15/10/2021 23:20

Omg my time has come!

Here to introduce everyone to my favourite singer Nina Hagen - she's officially gender critical and involved in the Detransitioners Alliance, which I think must be a first for a big music personality!

She's a German classically trained soprano with a vocal range of about six octaves (!) who branched into a punk career in the late 70s - many know her as the Mother of Punk - and has also dabbled in gospel, disco, progressive-ish rock, and Hindu mantras.

A lot of her most interesting music is in English as she lived in the USA for a while, but she never really made it in the West as IMO she should have (she's always had a devoted circle of gay fans though). I'd love to see a gender-critical renaissance of her work! Obviously it varies a lot in genre but it's all extravagant, satirical and absolutely hilarious.

Her most typically feminist song is originally in German but I'll put a translated bit here - 'Unbeschrieblich Weiblich' (Indescribably Womanly):

'Marlene had another plan
Simone Beauvoir said: God Forbid!
And before the first children's cry
I must free myself first
And momentarily I feel
Indescribably female
Why should I fulfill my duty as a woman?
For who?
For them?
For you?
For me?
I don't feel like fulfilling duty
Not for you
For for me
I have no duty'

Going to post links to my favourite live performance and my favourite English song from her, let me know if you'd like more recommendations because I honestly know her discography like the back of my hand at this point Smile. I only got into her music in mid 2019 so it was a nice surprise to hear about her GC beliefs a few months later!

HapHappy · 15/10/2021 23:33

OP, no one is going to arrest you around here.

Anyway, here's my contribution. Erykah Badu's Cleva

BulletandtheBullseye · 15/10/2021 23:51

Patti Smith-Gloria is always a favourite.

Brody Dalle- mattress (from her sourpuss days-first song I discovered that was blatantly about being molested. I thought that was so brave. I couldn’t tell anyone about being a victim then and listened to this on repeat for validation I wasn’t the only survivor) The Hunger (The Distillers)

Laren Tate- (hands off gretel) he wanted more

Taylor Momsen -(the pretty reckless) under the water

Joan Jett (the runaways)- love is pain, bad reputation

Mia Zapata (the gits)- seaweed (in particular the story behind this one always gets me-Mia was swimming with a female musician friend & the got tangled in the seaweed. Her friend later died from a heroin overdose and Mia wrote this as a tribute song. Mia didn’t live to see it released as she was brutally beaten, raped and strangled while walking home from a music venue at night. It took ten years for her murder to be solved. I adore the Seattle 4, and those who came before them/with the grunge scene, I feel the loss of the male singers I adored as much as any fan. But Mia’s murder haunted me growing up. Especially how it felt like i was the only person aware of it. All my friends were morning Cobain or declaring Richy James Edwards was still alive and carving 4real into their arms in tribute. I was just paralysed by Mia’s rape and murder because it felt very much that any minute that could be me. And why did none of the girls around me feel the same? Was i crazy and catastrophising or were they living in a bubble? Either way it rammed home how alone i felt in my fear).

Kathleen Hanna -(bikini kill) rebel girl

Throwing Muses -hate my way

BulletandtheBullseye · 16/10/2021 00:00

Kathleen Hanna (bikini kill) up on stage in early riot girl days yelling ‘girls to the front’ was an awakening as a kid. Her yelling that any woman who felt unsafe was welcome to sit up on stage and that any man who saw a woman unsafe from other men better do something about those men was everything. No wonder her Cobain were such good friends. And Kurt Cobain smells like teen spirt was coined by Kathleen Hanna after a night they were drinking together and ended up protesting at the prolifers camped outside an abortion clinic. The punk singer is on yt & well worth a watch.

BulletandtheBullseye · 16/10/2021 00:17

Patti Smith’s version (half cover half her own) always really mattered to me growing up because of the poem she wrote before it/behind it?

The poem is where ‘Jesus died for somebody’s sins but not mine’ line comes from. The poem ‘oath’ was her debut reading, in front of Ginsburg, Jim Caroll and many other famous, well established male writers. The poem is about her rejection of her religious upbringing (jw) and it was very anti religious. While this isn’t necessarily a uniquely female experience it was something I connected with as a kid. When she mixes it through with Van Morrison’s original Gloria (her version is half her lyrics half original ones) it feels like a very personally female rejection of the role of good girl religion shoved on her. It feels like a rejection of limits. Jesus died but not for me, I wasn’t saved by your religion or rules or social roles, so I’ll be out here on my own-that’s what I took from it. Feels like stepping outside of patriarchal control, but very matter of fact -no false celebration of being free or changing the hirachy or anything else fake, just her stepping outside of roles foisted on her. Which Smith does in every way. Hence she’s the godmother of punk.

BulletandtheBullseye · 16/10/2021 00:20

Jesus died for some bodies sins but not mine -it’s these are men’s rules. Men’s religion. As a woman these aren’t mine. I don’t find myself in everything that’s built by men.

DoYouSeaWhatISea · 16/10/2021 00:38

Anything and everything from Kirsty MacColl. The way she writes about the female experience is so relatable. This song always makes me smile, “There’s a guy works down the chip shop”. (I miss her, what a loss for the world).

Bananasaur · 16/10/2021 22:32

We don't need to be diminished to sisters or daughters or mothers
I am a human being, that is how you relate to me

...amazing angry song from two young Swedish sisters who usually write the most beautiful dreamy synth folk music... a wake-up call.

youkiddingme · 16/10/2021 22:44

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Not heard that before. Excellent. Ty.

Bananasaur · 16/10/2021 22:46

And another Alanis one...

First woman down was your mother
She did condone how you behave
All you could see was your father
His disrespect was in her face
Next woman down was your sister
Her silence did corroborate
She took her cues from the climate
And never knew another way

youkiddingme · 17/10/2021 22:32

Love that Bananasaur

youkiddingme · 19/10/2021 02:23

Bearer of the flag from the beginning
Now who would have believed this riot grrrl's a cynic
But they took our ideas to their marketing stars
and now i'm spending all my days at girlpower.com
Trying to buy back a little piece of me
(Everywhere you go they say "Hello,
weren't you the one that sold your soul?"
Every time you leave the say "Oh no,
why did you ever let us go?")

And i think that I sometimes might have wished
for something more than to be a size six
But now my inspiration rests
in-between my beauty magazines and my
credit card bills

I've been crawling up so long on your
stairway to heaven
And now i no longer believe that i wanna get in
And will there always be concerts where
women are raped
watch me make up my mind instead
of my face

The number one must have is
that we are safe
(Everywhere you go teenage
is the rage
inside your pants
and on the front page
EVerywhere you go it's die or be born
if you can't decide then
it's your own war)

No more
and for the ladies out there i wish
we could write more than the next
marketing bid
Culture is what we make it
yes it is
now is the time
to invent

Scout2016 · 19/10/2021 19:03

Probably not going to be to many people's tastes musically, but heavy rap/ metal band Tura Satana's stuff is really outspoken, defiant and angry. "Victim", about rape, and the pro choice "Put Your Head Out" spring to mind. Released mid 90s and still sadly so relevant.