Please take this as intended - I have to say that, it's my ssocialisation showing!
All the time though i am attacked , blamed and vilified almost everytime I try to join a debate, most people on here don't seem interested in listening, they just make their assumptions. Yep. Because you are male and have popped into a female dominated site, specifically into the newly enforced ghetto, where women discuss defending their rights from all comers.
Not all transwomen get such a push back, some blend in and aren't noticeably 'male' in their interactions here. I suppose that means they don't try to justify their choices, acknowledge their maleness, if not their masculinity, and ask more questions than they try to answer, iyswim.
I understand the anger and that's ok, I have broad shoulders. You'll need to have here 
That applies to everyone, no matter what their se or chosen gender (seehow I avoided the obvious jibe? I am trying to be sincere, lose some of that automatic reaction).
I just don't see anyone actually wanting a "proper conversation " That is, I suspect, because we are all using the same words to mean slightly different things; are starting from a different points.
You start from your perspective and we don't have a bloody clue about you, for example - if you are the kind of transwoman who insists on trans [space] woman because that's how you type or because you believe, want us to belive that transwomen are actually a ubset of women rather than one of males.
We don't know if you might be one of those agent provocateiurs who provokes here and runs away to Twitter to show out of context, sometimes stealthily snipped, quotes, to prove to others how nasty we are. Or reports all 'hurted feelz' to the Mods, even invites friends to do the same, so we get banned.
I know you've been around long enough to have sen such actions.
Why would we greet you with open arms? We don't know you. Maybe start a thread of your own in here and set out your stall.
Why are you here?
What do you hope to get out of any discussion with the women here?
That kind of thing.
If you have been misunderstood and the push back is unfair then let's just start again.
But mostly, if a whole forum's worth of women are telling you that your style of posting is coming across as a bit poky fingered, male and chastising then take it on board. Ponder why that might be. If it prevents you from achieving whatever it is you want to achieve here then you are going to have to modify your demands, tone etc - yes, modify your tone, just as so many women have been told to do for millenia!
It's up to you!