I'm sure there are many people who support this, and believe they are doing so out of kindness. Most people don't think beyond a very superficial level.
However, I have yet to see someone who, when the nuts and bolts of the issue are discussed, like prisons, sports, hospital care, homophobia, open child abuse based on sexist stereotypes etc. doesn't begin to shift away from the overt #BeKind perspective. Sometimes it takes time, true.
The only reason I've seen it happen in the other direction is when the pressure of standing against a system that persistently denigrates and disbelieves women becomes overwhelming. It's incredibly psychologically draining to be constantly confronted with how little women matter. I have to take breaks a lot, because there have been times when I've realized that I'm statistically likely to be standing in a bus queue with a rapist and I've wanted to sob.
But there are women, and those are the women we are talking about here, who are presented with the unvarnished truth, and no matter how logically or calmly it is presented, reject it and actively choose the position of oppressor. Identifying as nice, kind feminists, too. Some of them might be on the journey out if it, of course, in which case the only answer is to keep presenting the truth, keep defending women, keep.upholding safeguarding.
But one of the important tenets of feminism is that women are whole people, not paragons of virtue. We are just as capable as men are of greatness, but by the same token, we're just as capable of stupidity, wilful ignorance and sometimes, great evil. It manifests differently to men, partly due to biology (we can't rape, for example) and sometimes due to conditioning (the standard behaviour of a woman TRA is different to a male one, less likely to be wielding weapons, etc.). But the simple fact is that if a woman rejects the evidence that women and children are harmed by Genderism, and persists in claiming that she is being kind by doing so, she is lying.
If we continue to insist that people like Sally Hines, Ash Sarkar, Susie Green etc. are doing what they are doing because they are nice, kind feminists, we are just as guilty as Genderists of taking words and completely changing their meanings.
Feminists are women who seek the liberation of women, and the protection of their rights and freedoms. If a woman doesn't do that, she's not a feminist, and her niceness and kindness is focused on men.