Nosafe you don’t need to apologise. And I’m sorry if my post upset you, I can see how it does next to yours. You deserved to be treated equally and with respect when you were seeking help.
All stereotypes are harmful. My friend has a Scottish accent. I don't know what background was. Her ex sat on her chest and pummelled her face.
My point was that her own situation, as an employed teacher, gave her more ability to physically escape him quickly (the trauma can be life long) than the women in the local community where there was generational unemployment and actually, generational 'acceptance'/ normalisation of DV. Not least as the school had a connection to local SS and the police and she had so much immediate support from them. It doesn’t minimise the effects and impact of the abuse though.
People like that post think middle class accent means need less help and have money or job but they don't realise about financial abuse and disability.
No I think the opposite. All women are at risk of male violence and abuse. Another close friend became a sahm to Gp husband and suffered extreme emotional and financial abuse, which is still continuing via the children and maintenance despite their divorce and her working part time in education. I have another friend who went to Oxford and then did an MA who had to escape an emotionally abusive marriage to an Oxford lecturer, she was a librarian. It was actually hard for them to even begin to talk about it as their husbands were so well respected. They fear being disbelieved. They also didn’t see it as abuse for a long time. (The first friend still resists my encouragement to contact women's aid about a particular current issue as she feels she won't be taken seriously due to her background and, indeed, accent.)
There are so many intersections that cause different risks and barriers to seeking and accessing help, such as, as you say, such as disability.
Women absolutely shouldn’t be judged nor treated differently. And I’m sorry you were and had to fight so hard.