Hi OP, you are absolutely on the right board and welcome
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You make a good point re. fair allocation of resources in other areas that affect children with the other protected characteristics - disability, religious beliefs, race, sex. The school needs to be very clear on how their policies and teaching affect all groups, not just the one.
You are right - that does sound like it needs a thorough review/delete. From what you've said so far it doesn't sound at all suitable for school and the way the lessons are being delivered and prioritised over the basics so far is a concern.
The school legally has to provide single sex toilets and facilities for pupils (HSE regulations and Equality Act 2010) - I'm not aware that they are under a legal obligation to provide facilities for pupils who do not wish to use the facilities of their sex but I'm sure most schools can be sensitive in this and some have made specific facilities available - the key thing is safeguarding so pupils shouldn't be allowed to use facilities of the opposite sex even if they want to (it seems to be mostly girls at this age group and given that an av. of 200 rapes take place per yr in schools + plus unknown numbers of sexual assaults, safeguarding must be paramount even if the pupil doesn't agree)
Here is the current government guidance on RSE in schools:
www.gov.uk/guidance/plan-your-relationships-sex-and-health-curriculum#using-external-agencies
This is a key section (below) and all school teaching should be guided by this. If the document you are reviewing is called Transgender Toolkit, in a school setting that already implies a presumption towards 'trans' kids and is likely to be in breach of the guidelines.
Are you able to contact the governors or your local MP and raise this as it seems that it is a bigger issue than just this document. I know that your area is superwoke and unfortunately the MPs may not be at all receptive - apparently there is one school in Brighton with 75 trans identifying students (I'm sure you know more about this).
I would write to Gavin Williamson and maybe alert the wonderful Baroness Nicholson. You may be able to point out to the school that if they don't fulfil their basic legal obligations on safeguarding and sex segregated facilities they could be affected at Ofsted inspections.
We are aware that topics involving gender and biological sex can be complex and sensitive matters to navigate. You should not reinforce harmful stereotypes, for instance by suggesting that children might be a different gender based on their personality and interests or the clothes they prefer to wear. Resources used in teaching about this topic must always be age-appropriate and evidence based. Materials which suggest that non-conformity to gender stereotypes should be seen as synonymous with having a different gender identity should not be used and you should not work with external agencies or organisations that produce such material. While teachers should not suggest to a child that their non-compliance with gender stereotypes means that either their personality or their body is wrong and in need of changing, teachers should always seek to treat individual students with sympathy and support.
You should work together with parents on any decisions regarding your school’s treatment of their child, in line with the school’s safeguarding policy and the statutory guidance on working together to safeguard children.
this is a good resource to expand on the approach for schools:
www.transgendertrend.com/department-for-education-rse-guidance-schools/