Women must be enabled to live safe from male violence, she says, ushering men into women's spaces and castigating women for resisting it.
You cannot both decry male violence and facilitate it.
You cannot both raise up women's defences, and still punish those who would defend themselves.
What would Jess say to a woman who was made a victim of a man, if that man's identity gained him access to her, and Jess the protagonist who argued for that to be facilitated?
If you sacrifice the truth you lose everything. You cannot trade off one woman's life for another. Make one woman safer, at the cost of endangering others. Bargain for the safety of some women, paid for with the concession that others are placed at risk.
Jess perhaps thinks this is a numbers game. That she can negotiate for a limited number of men to have the right to destroy women's boundaries, by exempting only them from her loud objections to the other men who do it.
Only a fool would not realise that to argue against any woman's boundaries means you are endangering all women.