I'm going to start this by saying - because I think it's possibly relevant to your post - that I am British and (US)American and have long lived - by choice - away from these two countries.
Yes, I know "are we the baddies?" - it's been used quite a bit as a meme among feminists challenged by popular orthodoxy. Generally, the consensus from reasonable people is: no, but if someone can demonstrate otherwise please do. No one can.
I look across the Pond to the US, where the only people who are saying the same things as us are frigging Rand Paul and Marjorie Taylor Greene, neither of which are people that I associate my politics as being anywhere close to. There is just no bloody way that the Left, my home, will align with us now, given who our "allies" are in the States. They just can't, even those that agree with us will never position themselves as having the same concerns as Marjorie Q-Anon Parkland Taylor Bloody Greene.
The situation in the US is really complicated, and what people see abroad is typically the federal level and ignores all the various things going on at the state and local level, which is where the action is in a federal system.
If you are saying that the UK and Europe and the rest of the world cannot change because the US politicians who are currently ascendant are bought and sold - I strongly believe that you are wrong. Look at what happened just this week in the UK House of Lords and in L'Académie Française, for example.
If you are saying that things are contentious in the USA, you are right, but there are many people besides those you name speaking out and working against this. Also I am not sure the people you've chosen to rail against are relevant: last time I was in the US, Rand Paul was a quirky hero of centrists, and I've never heard of Marjorie before this week.
The second is personal. I work for a large global organisation in a senior role. We had our Global Leadership "Away Day" a few weeks ago (on Teams, of course) and there was a presentation from some US colleagues on LGBTQ+, being able to bring your whole self to work, that kind of thing, from two gay colleagues, one lesbian one gay. So far, so good - absolutely the right thing for my organisation to be doing. Then they got onto pronouns and how everyone should start every meeting asking what pronouns attendees want to have used and encouraging everyone to put them in our email sign-offs. I'm never going to do that, but I can already see it happening around the organisation (particularly the US, but some of the easily led/want to be noticed over here will soon follow suit).
Do you really work for a global corporation, or just for an international corporation? I find it really hard to believe that what you describe would be allowed in a global corporation. The pronoun thing is idiotic and absolutely cannot work in a global corporation: just the multilingual context would defeat it.
My husband won't listen to me talk about this sort of stuff anymore - he agrees with me, but says that it is basically like someone saying they "don't agree with all that Black Lives Matter stuff". My best friend works with young people and whilst I've tried to approach it with her very gently, including all of the stats about single sex spaces and how women and children's safety is negatively affected as a result, her reaction is that she gets all of that but she works with children every day who are tortured by their own bodies.
I know that our concerns are justified, I know that women's safety/opportunities are going to be negatively affected but - if I'm completely honest with myself - I just can't see how we're going to stop it. Julie Bindel has a tweet pinned to her feed which is basically that the misogyny at the moment is like a tidal wave and that's how it feels.
Your husband sounds dim (and inappropriately appropriative unless he is black and American), but I still don't understand why YOU think that you (or we) are "the baddies"? It sounds more like you are surprised or shocked or disappointed that you encounter so many people in your daily life who don't have any critical thinking skills (or who don't evidence those skills to you). Are you challenging these people at all? If not, what is the worst that could happen if you did? If so, what is the worst thing that could happen if you did more strenuously?