DD (13) has been shown Trans 101 video at school. Please help me draft a response.

[veryconcernedparent]

NC for this.
I've been lurking on the Feminism board for the last few months and have really had my eyes opened.
I have just discovered that DD, who is in year 9, has been shown the following video in form time:

www.trans101.org.au/video1.html

I'm horrified and really feel I should get in touch with the school but I am not as well informed as many posters here and I don't know where to start. What issues do I raise and how?

There was apparently no discussion in class after the video, although there was plenty among the children afterwards. I have discussed the issues with DD in the past and thought she understood but the discussion we've had since she saw the video shows that she is now very confused.

Many thanks in advance.

An update:

I emailed the head a couple of days after my original post setting out my concerns in some detail (I included many of the suggestions on this thread) but didn't hear back from him. I decided to take it up with the school again after they opened up again to all pupils earlier this month, and last week I emailed the person in charge of sex and health education at the school.

I spoke with her on the phone yesterday and it was all very positive. She hadn't actually realised that the video had been shown as she has been off sick for the last few months. She was fairly horrified herself and very apologetic. She said it should never have been shown and that it was a clear breach of DfE guidelines. She was very keen to hear my concerns about it and completely agreed with the points I made.

The upshot is that she wants all teaching on this topic to be absolutely transparent and is arranging a parents' forum to discuss the issues. She said that she would welcome my input and I was also able to direct her to Transgender Trend and Safe Schools Alliance. I suggested as well that she might want to arrange a session for pupils in which the opposite 'point of view' is discussed and she seemed keen on that.

So thank you again to all those who posted here with positive suggestions. It gave me the courage to respond, as well as enabling me to put together a coherent argument that was backed up with facts and sources.

I'm so pleased with this outcome.

That's excellent OP, well done!

Well done, that's a good outcome.

Excellent news OP. When adults with pastoral responsibility for children actually look at so much of this stuff they see how inappropriate it is. The trouble is it's been presented to them with a layer of "if you disagree with this, you're an old fashioned bigot" so challenging it needs courage.
Parents are so important!

That is a fantastic result - v well done for being persistent.

Again it isn’t the depiction of trans people that’s the problem. It’s the depiction of everyone else.
From the first minute:
“We are expected to act a certain way based on what’s between our legs. But that actually isn’t true for everyone”
That implies that it’s ok for anyone to have broad expectations imposed on them just based on their sex. It’s not ok.

From the video and booklet
"Physical transitioning usually involves a person altering their appearance to what feels right for them, like clothes, makeup and hair, or seeking medical treatment like hormones or surgery."

Two of those things are not like the others. I think it's very dodgy to put serious life altering medical treatments in the same field as changing your clothes or make up.

And if it is all about appearance, then why not just say so. Does it mean any more than any other type of cosmetic surgery or cosmetic treatment?

Oh that's a great result veryconcerned - you did a great thing in following that up.

great result OP and hopefully encouraging to others who might be hesitating in a similar position