Is this offensive?

[Besswess88]

Please be kind I have never been here defies so it’s quite scary

So I posted this in AIBU and I was voted 80% YABU (full thread is here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4092075-Do-you-find-this-offensive )

One poster suggested I post it here and see what the opinion is.

Someone randomly posted this in a community group I am in and I said I found it offensive and misogynistic and it was removed but the poster started a lot of other threads about it and I was basically called a “snowflake” 🙄 and I left the group.

To me yes maybe it is”petty” but this subtle stuff feeds the bigger stuff and perpetuates it.

I speak as a woman who has had large breasts from a young age and always received unwanted attention from males (much older ones when on my teens).

Is it offensive and does it perpetuate misogyny?

In the days before effective sunblock or ubiquitous baseball caps , the knotted hanky was a common feature on these postcards - I think signifying a man who couldn't afford a proper Panama hat. IIRC there was often a distinct class element to this genre of 'humour'.

(Formative years 60s-70s Essex seaside town so an accidental specialist subject)

@CatsCantCatchCriminals2

I believe that the knotted hanky hat thing was called a "sidcup" in the Meaning of Liff.

Ah that explains it. I stopped finding Douglas Adams funny in about 1990.

@ErrolTheDragon

In the days before effective sunblock or ubiquitous baseball caps , the knotted hanky was a common feature on these postcards - I think signifying a man who couldn't afford a proper Panama hat. IIRC there was often a distinct class element to this genre of 'humour'.

(Formative years 60s-70s Essex seaside town so an accidental specialist subject)

Orwell thought it was as much about class as anything else, but I banged on about that on the other thread so I’ll leave it, except to say he thought comic postcard humour was outdated - that was in in 1941 - and referred to it as “music-hall” humour - also said it was more obscene at times than any other publications, which certainly puts today’s casual acceptance of sexual violence and what would previously (and fairly recently) be considered perversion in an interesting light.

This stuff was still much in evidence at the seaside in the 70s and 80s.

And the equivalent all over the telly.

All this different generation stuff. I'm not even 50 yet! Seems a bit weird.

I agree with you nicegerbil - it's never gone away really.

I think it's regarded by some as a "harmless bit of fun".

Tossers...