How to stop this man

[Mydogisagentleman]

Was a very regular poster, but had a 10 year or so break.
My daughter had an awful relationship from 16-17 with a boy who was coercive, a liar and a rapist.
Our daughter split up with him after about a 10 month relationship and was initially upset. She’s a private person so me and her dad didn’t pry.
Eventually her self harming (which she would never discuss or acknowledge ) led to her asking me to take her to hospital for stitches.
On the way home, she told me that he had regularly raped her.
I contacted our local rape crisis centre and took her for an initial meeting.
Daughter and the team there concluded that pursuing a charge against him would not be in her interests or have any realistic chance of success. She met with the counsellors alone.
She left for university last week and has met someone who has also been sexually assaulted by him.
Is there anything that they can do? Her new friend wants them to put posters up in his town when they return for Xmas, I have already said it is a bad idea.
Their argument is that they can possibly save another woman experiencing what they have

How is she finding the other women? She didn’t do the poster thing?

She went to the police in her uni city who were very interested and, as she is not a lone voice are going to be taking it further.

Good luck to your DD, and say thank you to her on behalf of other women. I see what these sort of "normal" men do to my lovely undergrads.

You and she will need to be strong as steel for this. All my best to you.

Fantastic news. Well done you and well gone and gook luck to your daughter.

And @justilou1 so sorry to read your story and how long it has taken to get support. Hope things start to look brighter.

@woodspightly her and her fellow band of abused have looked at his social media.
It was revealing.
They have apparently made contact with the ex’s that he listed.
I’ve told her it’s probably best to leave it to the police now just in case one of them ‘tip’ him the wink about what they are doing.
Time will tell

I am so sorry what your daughter has been through. That is horrific but especially at such a young age! Horrible for you too as her mother. So much pain caused by this rapist.

Situations like this are so tough because of the unreasonable standards for evidence in court. Consider it but be aware that you and your daughter will have an uphill battle.

Whatever happens you're doing the right thing by encouraging your daughter. Keep reminding her that she is valuable and is living a good life.

Whatever you and your daughter decide, I wish you the very best!

Just spoken to DD, the police are collecting her on Friday to record her statement and meet victims support.

Great update @Mydogisagentleman, hope it all goes well for her.

I'll be thinking of her. She's a brave lass.

I have an undergrad student in a similar situation. She's having such difficulties. The bastard piece of toerag (I won't call it a "man") goes on with its studies fancy-free.

This country really does give most men the license to rape if they want to.

True fact. I am so proud of her, persuing it in the face of so much ‘oh we can’t do anything it’s too long ago’ statements.
I just wish I could be with her, but I understand that for her own peace of mind she needs to be independent.
You don’t ever want to stop protecting your child

@Mydogisagentleman

True fact. I am so proud of her, persuing it in the face of so much ‘oh we can’t do anything it’s too long ago’ statements. I just wish I could be with her, but I understand that for her own peace of mind she needs to be independent. You don’t ever want to stop protecting your child

Many rape cases fail because the evidence available is only "her word against his". You have much more than that though. What you have is not just "her word", but also her word, her word, her word, and her word too. The number of witnesses to his pattern of behaviour should swing the balance. Your daughter's case has a better chance than most of succeeding.