DD selling her body online

[Throwaway966846]

Throwaway so it isn't linked to my account.
HELP please
My DD19 has informed me that she has been making adult videos and 'camming' to help pay for uni living.

I feel so let down. I no longer know the strong young woman I raised, I'm sure she's been influenced by uni friends that 'sex work is work' and empowering to do.
I don't know what to do, I don't want to alienate her but I can't stomach the thought of her selling her body online. How can I persuade her to stop? I feel like I've failed as a mother

@lurkingdh

"Techie here with a special interest in security.

That's an excellent resource with uniformly sound advice throughout. Everyone should follow their recommendations for everything online, camming or not.

I'd be more than happy to explain/help others who want to start doing so."

I'm glad I passed on a useful resource that passes muster! I had it tucked away, but not being a techie myself had no idea of the quality!
I must take another look and check my own activities.

Which other forms of work are set up entirely for the purpose of bringing a man to orgasm?

In every other workplace I've ever known that would be a) a disciplinary offence and b) a health hazard.

Exactly, VeryLongBeeeeep.

Here is a link to the petition again. I cannot overemphasise how important it is that we get large numbers of signatures. I really do think that's the most likely thing to get Leicester to rethink.

www.change.org/p/university-of-leicester-revoke-the-university-of-leicester-student-sex-work-policy-and-toolkits

@WelliesandWine88

She sounds like a pretty amazing, independent.amd confident young woman to me. What you do is support her and her choices. It's her body to do with as she pleases. She's not hurting anyone. My motto is 'do what you want so long as you're not intentionally, maliciously hurting people'.

That's one of Bernard Woolley's irregular verbs, isn't it? I am independent and confident, you are naive, and she may need to move house to avoid a stalker.

I wonder if she could at least wear a wig and make up that makes her look less like herself - to reduce the chances of being recognised later? Throwaway, I understand your shock - but this is no reflection on your parenting. You raised a young woman in a time where young women are beset by pressures from money to porn to ever-present social media scrutiny. The great thing is that she told you. I think you can thank her for being open even while at the same time being fairly honest about your reaction (maybe a toned down version of honest). I would need to say it made me worried and sad and she probably knows you well enough that she would be surprised if you said it was all ok.

My first worry would be finding out if she is actually in financial trouble and needs help, or just wants a nicer lifestyle. After that, my main worry would be about how to get out of it into something better. If she went to uni this probably isn’t her dream career, but the time spent on camera (and doing tax returns on the money, as someone said) is time not dedicated to achieving her real goals. Can you talk about cam work on your CV or in interviews? If not, could a less well paid job now that could be a stepping stone, be a better investment in a career she really wants? That would probably be where I would focus my attention in conversations after the basic safety and clearing the air emotionally.

1000+ Signatures
Keep sharing!
www.change.org/p/university-of-leicester-revoke-the-university-of-leicester-student-sex-work-policy-and-toolkits

If you’re on social media please copy in The Office for students, the regulatory body for universities and the trade body representing 140 Universities, Universities UK.
The ‘authorities’ in academia and obviously the leadership of individual universities are completely and shockingly failing in their duties on this issue. It is beyond unacceptable to try to normalise and minimise the impacts of the paid sexual abuse of women students. Sex work IS abuse. It damages women. Legitimate, defensible forms of ‘work’ shouldn’t damage you as the ‘worker’ or damage any other person. Trying to reframe abuse as choice and empowering is staggering woman-hating and craven dick pandering. They need to get on with their actual jobs of educating and supporting all students, including the female ones.

Now 1500+!!

2,500 now!

OP how is your daughter? I remember this thread from last year.

She should at least block users whose IP is from the UK. Some will use VPNs but not all and it will reduce chances of someone who knows her coming across her. Although likely will reduce her income, too.