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Nipples

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MeadowHay · 08/09/2020 18:04

Sorry this is proper random and I wasn't sure where to put it, I can ask for it to be moved or deleted if people don't think it should be here.

This isn't some interesting feminist question and I feel kinda embarrassed typing it but here I go...I wear bras, and I like to wear comfy bras. I find basically only non-moulded plunge bras fit me well. We are a low income family and I buy most my bras in sales. The cheapest non-moulded plunge bras tend to be non padded. I find my nipples are therefore sometimes visible underneath my clothing.

I have nipples, I know everywhere I go if people can't see my nipples they still know I have nipples. I feel I have the right to wear comfy clothing that I can afford and roughly seeing the outline of nipples underneath someone's top is far from obscene. Yet I still feel anxious about it sometimes and I will generally not wear the most nippley bras under the tightest t-shirts and that kind of thing to make some accomodations.

I'm not sure what I'm asking. Does anyone else get self conscious about this? Does anyone else wear non padded bras/no bra so have sort of visible nipple bumps and to hell with what everyone else thinks? Am I being awful by sometimes having my nipples kinda visible under clothing?! Do people even notice?!

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Butterer · 08/09/2020 18:09

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endofthelinefinally · 08/09/2020 18:12

Just sew in a liner.

Jellyeggs · 08/09/2020 18:16

Mine are completely visible - I just looked. Never thought about it before. I pay more attention to people’s skin/hair/teeth - faces in general. Unless you have tassels hanging off them I don’t think anyone notices.

JamieLeeCurtains · 08/09/2020 18:20

Well you managed to get 'bra' in eight times to that post, and 'nipples' in eight times.

Well done, OP.

BohemianDream · 08/09/2020 18:28

You have counted the amount of times the OP said bra and nipples.
Well done, PP.

MeadowHay · 08/09/2020 18:28

Oh my god, are you trying to say I'm a troll?! That's hilarious if so, I'm a longstanding poster. I guess theres a first time for everything.

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lookatmememe · 08/09/2020 18:37

Buy headlight dimmers. No more nipple exposure !

Elouera · 08/09/2020 18:43

Just buy nipple covers! Like a decorative plaster you can buy from most places that sell bras- sorted!

KetoPenguin · 08/09/2020 18:49

Funnily enough this post and one in relationships about a man who touches his own nipples a bit too much during sex were right next to each other on the active board. On that post someone made the point that as male nipples are often just as sensitive as women's, why is it seen as fine for men to just walk around bare chested, but women have to hide their nipples with padding or it's considered inappropriate dress.

TreestumpsAndTrampolines · 08/09/2020 18:54

Can't say that I think about it at all OP.

You should get yourself to Asda (or similar supermarket) - not sure I've ever seen a non-padded plunge bra in a supermarket in fact, you must be trying hard to find such a specific requirement.

Butterer · 08/09/2020 18:54

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DaisiesandButtercups · 08/09/2020 19:01

I don’t wear padded bras, never have. I go for comfort first and price next in bras. When shopping I generally like to consider ethical production too but I have never found any organic or fair trade bras! I get the highest cotton or natural fibre content I can, but even that isn’t easy, they mostly seem to be made of synthetics. I’ve never really thought about my nipples being visible...

I don’t find it comfortable to go braless.

TooMinty · 08/09/2020 19:01

I am a bit like this. I have tiny breasts and could easily go bra less but I don't like the thought of my nipples showing through my clothes so I tend to wear bralettes with lining or padding. I know it is just in my head and people wouldn't notice or care if they did notice. And I know it's a double standard when men are free to show off their nipples.

twoHopes · 08/09/2020 19:02

I'm super self conscious about ever having visible nipple. I've had too many men talk at my boobs and it grosses me out. I'll avoid anything that acts as a perv magnet and unfortunately the outline of a female nipple is one of those.

LuluBellaBlue · 08/09/2020 19:04

I hear you as it’s basically because so many men stare when you’re wearing anything that shows the outline of your nipples. I’d much prefer to go brakes but don’t because I don’t want the attention.
It’s basically shit Hmm

LuluBellaBlue · 08/09/2020 19:04

Brakes = braless Grin

ncqtime · 08/09/2020 19:07

At work = nips hidden. Free time it's whatever

Datun · 08/09/2020 19:10

@BohemianDream

You have counted the amount of times the OP said bra and nipples. Well done, PP.
To be fair, it's a monotonous and recurring theme that trolls will post about female anatomy, trying to find a feminist angle, in order to provoke engagement.
Rae5647 · 08/09/2020 19:12

Anyone who’s a “Friends” fan will know Rachel Green’s nipples were consistently visible through her top in most episodes, it’s much talked about. There were rumours it was deliberate of course. People definitely notice, but so what.

If you’re bothered, nipple covers as PP suggested.

MidnightCitrus · 08/09/2020 19:14

@Rae5647

Anyone who’s a “Friends” fan will know Rachel Green’s nipples were consistently visible through her top in most episodes, it’s much talked about. There were rumours it was deliberate of course. People definitely notice, but so what.

If you’re bothered, nipple covers as PP suggested.

Really, can't say I ever noticed if I'm honest
Puzzlelover · 08/09/2020 19:15

Wear something a bit thicker. It's not rocket science.
Next time, try the style and beauty board.

SingingInTheShithouse · 08/09/2020 19:29

If you're self conscious, then you can buy inserts/nipple covers in any haberdashery shops. If you're not self conscious & ca handle the inevitable comments from Neanderthal men, sod it, do what you feel comfortable with.

Thinking back, I rarely wore a bra pre having DD & I just made sure guys & the occasional woman knew where the line was & how much I'd humiliate them publicly if they dared cross it. I rarely had any trouble

TinselAngel · 08/09/2020 19:33

You're getting no information about my nipples OP. Put a jumper on.

SummerSummerSummertime · 08/09/2020 19:37

🙄

MeadowHay · 08/09/2020 20:30

I'm really sorry people think I'm a troll. You can report me if you want, MN can confirm I've been on this site for years. Sad

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