Nipples

[MeadowHay]

Sorry this is proper random and I wasn't sure where to put it, I can ask for it to be moved or deleted if people don't think it should be here.

This isn't some interesting feminist question and I feel kinda embarrassed typing it but here I go...I wear bras, and I like to wear comfy bras. I find basically only non-moulded plunge bras fit me well. We are a low income family and I buy most my bras in sales. The cheapest non-moulded plunge bras tend to be non padded. I find my nipples are therefore sometimes visible underneath my clothing.

I have nipples, I know everywhere I go if people can't see my nipples they still know I have nipples. I feel I have the right to wear comfy clothing that I can afford and roughly seeing the outline of nipples underneath someone's top is far from obscene. Yet I still feel anxious about it sometimes and I will generally not wear the most nippley bras under the tightest t-shirts and that kind of thing to make some accomodations.

I'm not sure what I'm asking. Does anyone else get self conscious about this? Does anyone else wear non padded bras/no bra so have sort of visible nipple bumps and to hell with what everyone else thinks? Am I being awful by sometimes having my nipples kinda visible under clothing?! Do people even notice?!

I don't know if you're a troll op, but I think it's so bloody depressing that there are so many creeps out there that we can't even discuss the creeps without worrying that the discussion itself will be wank fodder for the creeps. Why must men suck so badly?

I was going to ask MN to delete this as worried about people thinking I'm a troll but have had a proper read through now and see some people have engaged with that I've said so I won't.

I genuinely didn't know you could buy things to hide your nipples in bras, I will look that all up thanks.

Laughing at PP saying they've never seen an unpadded plunge bra!! I only buy bras from Bravissimo now really and they sell plenty and they're frequently the cheapest ones due to being in sales - I guess they're not as popular as other styles precisely due to this issue?

Pre-pregnancy I always wore padded bras, it wasn't until I started wearing non padded maternity bras that I suddenly became self-conscious of visible nipples and I particularly worried about this at work. I didn't own any other bras that fitted me though then and I had no idea you could buy things to cover nipples.

I think PP about no nipples at work but not caring the rest of the time is probs quite sensible. I have heard people at work in the past make horrible comments about the appearance of other staff, I'm sure those same people were likely to have been talking about my pregnancy nipples too tbh. Think all of that particular group of nasties have now left the business though and also I'm exclusive homeworking now anyway.

Whilst I will look into buying things to cover my nipples for certain occasions/work etc really I'd like to just not be arsed about it the rest of the time at least. I was just wondering if there are other people who don't give a crap about it and are braver than me! So far nobody has ever mentioned it to me (so far?) about seeing my nipples, I worry more about people talking behind my back maybe?

@MeadowHay

I'm really sorry people think I'm a troll. You can report me if you want, MN can confirm I've been on this site for years.

We're happy to confirm this. The OP's been on the site for many years so if she's here to troll us, she's been playing a very long game.

I have always had prominent (and embarrassing) nipples. I was teased at school and university, and was delighted when padded (as in thin padding, my size made propper padded bras a no-no) became the norm.

But now I'm old, and one of the pleasures of being old is that I can wear thin (or no) bras and not care that my boobs are around my waist and my nipples are visible.

I feel sad for my dd who is currently going through what I went through in my 20s, frantically trying to find a bra that is (a) comfortable (b) size reducing and (3) nipple invisible

There have been many threads on FWR about bras (for a variety of reasons).

What I dont understand is the poster who always think they have a role in somehow undermining or challenging the poster.

If you dont want to talk about it as an issue why bother the rest of us with your negativity.

It woulnd't matter if the poster was an old or new one, but just stop and think it could have been someone who has never posted before and wasn't sure what tone to adopt.

What impact do you think it has that some know all who apparently thinks they are in charge of a mumsnet style leaps in at the first opportunity and spews out negativity.

As to the issue, I think it is going to have to be what you are comfortable with. In most cases even if people notice your nipples they want make an issue of it, but there is bound to be someone who will.

so focus on what makes going out in public easy.

I dont usual wear a bra, but in the summer do because I know some people will stare (just as likely to be a disapproving woman).

And there is always the looking forward to the relief of taking it off.

Here's a list of some other bra threads - though some are more about politics than comfort www.mumsnet.com/SearchArch?mustmatch=bras&dontmatch=&nickname=&src_displ_option=s_t_d_t&fromDate=&toDate=&topicmode=chs&chosentops=5365

Must admit I also found this an issue. Only fairly small-sized but I used to find if I wore the wrong bras either the bra itself would look very lumpy under clothes (due to lacy bits, seams or whatever) or I got the nipple issue as OP said and felt self-conscious. I also had a few incidents of blokes noticeably staring at my chest in my younger days which didn't help. Eventually I discovered t-shirt bras, I get the ones which don't have extra padding but they are still a bit thicker and sort of moulded so they give a smooth outline and I don't feel self-conscious or like I'm going to get stared at or stupid comments. (I also find them quite comfortable as long as they fit right, so I'm happy).

Stumbled, I think the behaviour that you're describing is becoming increasingly common across the whole of MN tbh. There are times when I've been sceptical about threads so I have either ignored them or reported! I don't understand why people comment just to say something sarky?!

I always find moulded don't ever fit perfectly for me as I'm bottom heavy so there is always some gaps at the top of the cups iyswim.

Yep, men definitely don't have to give a shit in the same way. I've seen men absent minded fiddle with their nipples at work Not to mention chest hair poking out of tops.....it must be very liberating to not have to think about how your body is going to be perceived/what messages you are inadvertently sending.

I wear moulded bras but recently bought a non moulded one and its so comfy! But yes, I'm paranoid about nipples and also the shape of my boobs

Just buy nipple covers!

I find it odd that some people want women to be able to go topless in the same way men do and others think nipple covers are a perfectly normal idea. The world is nuts.

Anyway, I think two layers of cloth over any part of the body is sufficient. In a work context you don't want things to be too clingy/revealing or see-through, just like men don't. Other than that, who cares if people sometimes see an outline of a nipple.

Growing upon the 80s bras were rarely padded, it's only a lot more recently that avoiding nipple at all costs has become a thing.

If I came over a bit angry last night apologies, but stick by what I said.

But have now realised that I was a bit on edge for a bra related issue.

Had an appointment for a check up re ongoing treatment, and couldn't remember / decide if I needed to wear a bra! Sounds silly I know. But I had just sat on my bed going through a bag of failed purchases, ie just dont do the job / are uncomfortable. But felt I would make the effort as I have found as an older woman that if you go braless younger doctors can get very embarrassed!

How silly is that. Doctors being uncomfortable with uncovered breasts ....

Ah, well, if you're a bravissimo woman then:

www.bravissimo.com/products/fabric-nipple-covers-pf109/

I've actually stopped buying sale bras there, it always turns out there's a good reason they're a sale bra. The closest I go is buying the un-popular colours of a style I already know fits.