^I think Maajid was being clever about how he approached this issue. Also, you can only really delve into one issue at a time on a talk show and this show focused on the logical inconsistencies between transgenderism and transracialism.
All credit to him - he got callers to think about this issue in a way that they hadn't before, and they admitted as much. He also got callers to say they agreed with JKR.^
I agree with this. DH never thinks about this issue at all. It's only because of me that he has any idea at all. I only have awareness because of Mumsnet and because I've made a concerted effort to see out people to follow on Twitter.
I think, for the majority of the population, 'transgenderism' is about decent individuals who have dysmorphia and have painfully transitioned, and have been among us for decades, and now women are irrationally angrily objecting to their existence. They don't get the TRA angle. They think we're being unnecessarily cruel.
Maajid, I think, managed to get some people to have an 'a-ha' moment by focussing mainly on self-ID and keeping it simple. DH was listening and shaking his head and said, 'When you think about it, it's just crazy, isn't it'. And that's despite me banging on about stuff for ages. In fact, I even feel I'm still learning and I am WAY ahead of my female friends.
In fact, I suspect when my female friends are asserting that transgender women ARE women, they're doing so in the context of 'it's no skin off my nose to say this', and it doesn't occur to them that that transgender woman would literally think they are the same sex as women, or that sex is nonsense.
I do think there's a LOT to take in, and some of it is so mindfuckingly out there, it's hard to believe it is actually true.
For example, I get wildly angry at the idea of a man self-ID'ing as a lesbian woman, and then calling lesbians transphobic for not having sex with him. DH still doesn't quite believe this is actually a thing because he thinks it is so absurd.... like, flat-earth level absurd. So I send him screenshots of so-called 'lesbian woman' ... and he still thinks they're the minority.
The gas-lighting is extreme.