Is anyone else furious/deflated at the amount of energy this is taking up?

[Dhalmeup]

There is just so much more that needed doing already.

The abysmal rape/murder rates in most countries, baby girls being murdered after birth because of their sex, FGM, so many issues around the world we could be banding together and putting our energy towards.

And instead, we have found ourselves having to turn around and defend what we already bloody had! Constantly fighting fires and trying cling on to rights and spaces that we took for granted as already permanently ours.

I know we can concentrate on more than one thing at once and great work is still being done.

It’s just so frustrating that the TRAs are taking up so much of our time and I resent it because we shouldn’t have to! We shouldn’t have to be fighting these fires at all.

Sorry, just feeling defeated this evening. SM has been manic the last few days and what has happened to Allison’s fundraiser has just tipped me over the edge.

I do feel that we will win. I’m just angry that we need to fight at all.

Yep. Exhausted and furious here. As others have said, it's the gaslighting that is so demoralising and exhausting, and the having to be careful at work and around some friends.

I cannot believe that we're here in 2020.

Divoc2020 Mon 29-Jun-20 23:30:47
I just can't believe others (especially men!) can't 'see' it and aren't interested in discussing it more as it doesn't affect them, as far as they're concerned

This for me was "my moment" a couple of years ago when I realised that all my gay MALE friends that I had supported for many decades would not break away from the LGBT+ movement and support women's rights. Instead some of them just parrot TWAW. Men are really not interested at all. Many women I know are so caught up in children, families, going back to work that they either dont care or dont have the time to bother.

How TRAs impact young women's sexuality is also frightening. If you're a girl who likes short hair and isn't into fashion, are uncomfortable with your body and have crushes on girls-you must be a trans man! If you are a straight girl who likes boys and long hair and dresses, you best dress like we tell you (hyper sexualized) and show your "empowered" femininity which means a lot of makeup, body hair shaving and obsession with your online image. It's textbook stereotyping and regressive as fuck.